To be fair I still do these things but only when I’m alone.
Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.
Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it’s a warship I’m trying to bomb.
Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don’t because they’re considered femine or gay.
I do whatever the fuck I want, unless it is unpolite or could hurt somebody’s freedom.
I learnt that, as I don’t give a shit about what people are doing, they must also don’t give a shit either. People just care about themselves most of the time. The day I realized that, I had a strong freedom feeling.
Having kids multiplied this attitude by 1000 and actually, I see people smiling and interacting with us while we’re fooling around.
GO PLAY WITH FUCKING PUDDLES WEARING PINK PANTIES ON YOUR HEAD MY DUDE ! I might join you.
Ideally yes. But as a guy I have been insulted in public for small things like wearing nail polish, and that’s in a liberal German city. Most people don’t care, some don’t like it, some compliment it and some make me feel unsafe.
And that of course has an effect in other areas too: what if my boss or my coworkers don’t like me wearing nail polish? They would never be open about it (our company would not allow it), but it might lead to some bias against me. And as they wouldn’t be open about it, I couldn’t react to it (by calling them out or changing jobs). Instead I might just advance more slowly and wonder why that is. It really fucks with your mind, when you know there is bias against you (or something you do) but you never know in which situations it actually comes into play.
I still wear nail polish most of the time, because fuck the haters and we need to make progress somehow, but it’s not as easy as “I don’t care about them so they don’t care about me”.
I got you. Of course it’s easier said than done. But you got to be nuanced and able to read the room. Maybe think ahead to avoid being in trouble (work, edgy neighborhoods).
But in the end, you must not care. Even insults. Insults have the value only you give to them.
Take care ♥️
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Because when I do what I want, I get called a “retard” or asked “what the fuck are you doing?” by the people around me. I make a point to try to do things quietly (stopping to observe a cool bug, making chalk drawings on the sidewalk, saying “wheee!” on the swings, etc.), but it really doesn’t matter.
I’ve caught glimpses of people filming me before, so I now only do what I want in privacy.
Also doesn’t help that I’ve been accused of “doing it for attention.” Nah, my dude, pretty sure I’m just fckin’ autistic.
I only want people to leave me alone now. I don’t like having to justify my actions when I’m just trying to enjoy myself.
People who love you should be happy that something’s bringing you joy.
I would gently suggest surrounding yourself with kinder people. You should be able to stop and look at an insect in fascination or swing on a swing without being abused.
You’ll find those people :)
Thank you. Maybe one day.
The difference between weird reactions and no reaction when observing cool bugs is holding a camera
In my past I used to take on janitorial or maintenance jobs, but the grossness of the job combined with the attitude of the general public just made it unbearable. People would ask me if I was a citizen and when I said yes, they’d tell me that it’s a job for immigrants. They’d also say that it’s a job for slaves and ask if I felt like a slave doing that kind of work.
Some people are so horrible…
Holy shit. Those are horrible people.
I used to do Janitorial work, And I got respect for it.
And you deserve respect for it to.
because decent people understand you are the fulcrum upon which their nice world balances on.
People like you deal with have less value than the effluence from an overflowing toilet.
Sorry you deal with such shitty people man.
Go get a job pumping septic tanks. Customer disrespects you? Walk off the job leaving them with backed up poo. Generally people are glad to see you. Good money if you can get to the point of running your own truck. Some dudes making good money posting about septic pumping on YouTube too. Get out the auger and whip up a poop smoothie. Mmmm! Smells like money!
Wow! That is surprising to hear.
Sounds like you’re still a kid at heart. I’ve got a 2yr old and I immensely enjoy playing these sorts of games with him. My wife always jokes that I’m using the sandbox more than him, she even snapped a couple of pics of me playing alone in there.
What kind of clothes are you talking about? A skirt on a man is still pretty courageous, but if you’re talking about a pink shirt just go for it. You’ll not be judged.
What kind of clothes are you talking about?
Overknee socks, crop tops, tiny shorts, speedos, yoga pants …
I’m perfectly aware that it’s not that others care that’s holding me back but the fact that I care. Doesn’t make it any easier though.
not much these days. ever since I realised people will judge you even if you don’t do anything. e.g. I used to be shy because i was worried about what they’d think of me when i spoke. this caused them to think I’m shy. so I made a decision that I’d rather have people judge me for who I am rather than for someone I’m not.
Wear a mask wherever I go. Not so much because for health reasons, but because I like to hide my face. I feel more comfortable that way, but at the same time people stare at you like you’re some kind of terrorist.
I prefer to wear scarves or other items that hide my face below my eyes.Breaking my very long period of unplanned celibacy.
I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.
Hookers and blow
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Personally, I’d love to give streaming a go, the Twitch kind. I like playing games and I want to share my time with others, but social anxieties say otherwise
I used to stream a bit back in the justin.tv days and I would usually only get a handful of viewers but even to this day, it was some of the most unique gaming experiences I had. I used to try and play games that no one was streaming/talking about and a couple of times I actually ended up with the devs watching the stream and those were such great memories.
One time, I played this flash game where you had timed “lives” and the dev was watching (without me knowing) when I ran out of lives. I mentioned I’d be going to play something else while I waited for my lives to come back and he sent me a DM telling me that he would go and remove the timer so I could keep playing if I wanted.
That being said, I haven’t streamed since then and I’m honestly not even sure how I’d start again. I don’t think I’d ever enjoy having a large audience but I definitely enjoyed playing with a few people helping out on what to do next.
As a pretty much nobody streamer man on twitch, not even affiliate yet (I’m so close yet so far), I also struggle with social anxiety but find that streaming has been pretty easy for me. It’s different than actually having to interact with people face to face, so it feels more like talking on a thread than irl interaction.
Of course that’s just my experience and my anxieties may be on a much lower level than yours, but I recommend giving it a go if you think you’d have fun with it!
Pretty much that last paragraph of yours.
I don’t care if people see me as childish, weird, or even dumb. I do lots of things that make me seem all of those things.
But that makes me hesitate for some reason.
I did open up about it to some friends I was sure wouldn’t judge, and it helped a lot.
May i ask what kind of clothes you mean?
Skirts, dresses, thigh highs, crop tops, and just generally the womens section of the clothing store. So many items there that are a lot more interesting than what the mens section has to offer.
Never thought of that before, but you’re right. Way bigger variety of stuff
Right? Women have like twenty different types of tops in all the shapes and cuts imaginable
Basically everything. Telling a joke that I love. Showing excitement for something I love. Doing my silly voices; especially my batman and girl voice. Taking my shirt off. And so much more. Damn social anxiety and confidence issues.
Having a friend that randomly speaks like batman (or a girl too, but batman) sounds like a lot of fun!
The batman voice makes me break out in a coughing fit but I guess so haha
Being able to do both a batman and a girl voice is pretty damn cool. Silly voices in general are my jam, I love doing Stitch impressions
I used to be able to do a perfect Stitch impression before my voice dropped. Now I just sound like Herbert the Pervert from Family Guy haha
Somehow, I was only able to do it after my voice dropped. No idea how that works
I envy you
I envy you, for the girl voice
Ha, it just takes practice. You’ll get it
I shouldn’t complain since I never really tried. So yeah, practice, I guess. Apparently, you need to keep your larynx up high?
Silly voices are the best, they’ll always enjoyed by your (future) kids/nieces/nephews/etc.
Keep practicing your craft, you’ll find an appreciative audience sooner or later :)
Practicing DJing. Neither my wife nor daughter are into their quality house music (neither am I, they would argue… 😀) and we have elderly neighbours, so I find it hard to find time to make a real effort to practice, and get self-conscious and disheartened pretty quickly.
My setup is in our living room area, so it’s not very convenient when people are doing just about anything downstairs. Would love to have a bit more space to make mistakes and make a noise without it bothering others.
I’d still be crap at it right enough… ;-)
There’s loads of little daft hobbies I either don’t do at all or hide. I went magnet fishing with a friend once, we found some cool jewellery that I still have and it was fun, so I went home and bought my own kit, I’ve never been though cause I don’t want to be that person doing it alone, or to actually ask anyone to come. Just lives in a box.
I have an imp on my shoulder, lot of intrusive thoughts that are only funny to me. I pretend not to have them, and I’d rather just share whatever dog shit pops into my head. But I’m afraid I’d be committed.
