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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • Do you want to be a single parent or not? How will this affect your life in say ten years? Fifteen ? You will still be supporting this kid in twenty years time, too. I would think of that. Are you one hundred percent you will never become resentful or bitter with this child because you need to sacrifice your lifestyle to take care of them? Your time? Your money? An unplanned pregnancy already is deserving of that question, and with a single parenthood unplanned pregnancy you better be absolutely sure of what you’re getting into. It’s not the money, it’s the dedication.

    Are you considering getting into another transactional relationship after this one? A child might make things more complicated too. A lot of men want a lady to keep them company, but not all are happy with a child tagging along.

    I’m finding it hard to believe someone would be so ambivalent about completely changing their life like that. You say you would want the best for the child. Can someone have a great life without one of their parents? Sure, but whoever is left taking care of them must be absolutely devoted. You can’t backtrack.









  • I consider rage bait anything that purposefully riles people up without any productive outcomes. Say, you can have a heated argument with someone because you have an interest in the topic and/or seeing other people’s points of view (even if you strongly disagree), but if your purpose is just for the sake of getting reactions, well, that’s ragebaiting.

    It overlaps with trolling, but trolling is more broad- you can troll to make people confused, shocked, to mock someone in particular, etc. Trolling includes also getting people into gotcha moments, engaging in a heated argument just to be annoying to one person in particular, trolls like to see people make fools out of themselves. Ragebaiting doesn’t necessarily have that, it’s more about getting the crowd to express their annoyance at something, not necessarily your actions.




  • Not sure if this applies to you but maybe you have heard a phrase about you that doesn’t make sense fully. In my case, it was “you’re intimidating” and that took me a long long time to understand because as a woman who has a lot of insecurities and can’t physically fight this is absolutely ridiculous. Then one day I was watching some relationship guru video clip and the guy said “if you’re told you’re intimidating and can’t make sense of it, it means you are hard to impress”. That clicked. At least, within dating contexts. I don’t know. I think most of the honest feedback I’ve gotten from potential dates, from boyfriends, from family members (though that required always a difficult argument beforehand and getting feedback was never the goal) and also from teachers who get fed up with your bullshit occasionally. It’s never going to come to you from a comfortable source, but you shouldn’t be asking your enemies either, because they’ll lie too.





  • Yes, I understand this and it is in my post as part of the question: is it just a showoff feature like peacock’s feathers? I also understand traits that don’t impact fitness won’t be selected against.

    But I have the nagging feeling that the body does spend a fair amount of extra resources creating long hair when it could make do with just a fraction. Use it or lose it is a popular trend in the animal kingdom. You can have a very showy coat using a lot less resources, if we’re talking about health markers only.

    But, fear not, there are theories that support long hair as having an actual practical function that impacts fitness, and people in the comments have posted some.

    What I like about these theories is that they aren’t mutually exclusive. You can have a variety of factors that mildly favor the same trait, it’s not always one single factor exerting clear pressure on things.