When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn’t her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.
Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭
Cause the men in charge could relate
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
It definitely wasn’t and it endangered the other students
16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn’t make it right, but I can only guess the district thought “Well if it’s legal…” without thinking if it was appropiate.
That’s not how age of consent works you uninformed denizen softening the ground for pedos.
Educate first, then loud blab on the internet.
I’m sorry, I don’t understand what’s going on here.
Your reference is your own comment? Shouldn’t somewhere down the chain there be a link explaining this? It would be nice for you to be right, but I don’t think you are.
If it were only about activities with other shouldn’t be of age people, then it makes no sense. Either they are allowed and it’s legal or it’s illegal for both of them but neither can be considered criminally responsible because neither can legally consent either.
There are stories constantly about someone older having relations with someone way too young but the jurisdiction has age of consent to make it ok.
My god, this place is overrun by petulant children who can’t do their own research and are criminally unaware of the laws surrounding this.
You want a link, here’s a link
also this
TLDR; it is immensely complex, varies country by country, but as a general rule of thumb, having sex with a minor whilst you yourself not being a minor will almost everywhere land you in trouble. As it should. ^applies to regular joe without powerful friends in powerful places only.^
Topic highly unsuited for one line response mediums like this new reddit.
Why do you start every comment with an insult? Their question was reasonable and they didn’t treat you the same. That really doesn’t make you sound as smart as you think it does, especially when you’re referencing yourself in your original comment, and the comment of your own that you referenced doesn’t actually clarify anything, it’s just another example of you insulting somebody and telling them that they’re wrong.
Besides, age of consent laws differ in how they work based on what country you are in, and not everyone is from your country. You’re expecting people to know shit they’re not reasonably expected to know, and you’re mad at them about it and being a child about it.
For example, the age of consent in the US state of Delaware is 18, but it is allowed for teenagers aged 16 and 17 to engage in sexual intercourse as long as the older partner is younger than 30
16 and 17 is still under the age of consent, but they have a special exception for partners under 30. So the age of consent is still exactly what people think it is
Circumstances of the relationship
Generally it still looks like for those jurisdictions the age of consent is pretty much what people think it is, however the bar for consent is much higher. The Pennsylvania example is closest to what you describe, but seems to be that they basically prosecute for some other crime because age of consent is low enough but they have other laws. Guessing it’s rooted in some provisions for young marriage but still able to prosecute premarital sex as corrupted morals.
In short to all these jurisdictions, just raise the damn age of consent instead of having all sorts of weird loopholes that make it sometimes ok for a 45 year old to get with a 14 year old.
I saw that kind of thing too. I figured those girls were probably dating the popular guys our age. A while later I found out that not even those guys were dating them. It was the 20 to 30 somethings.
When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
Yeah but they’ve got the market cornered on Catholic priests, that’s gotta count for something.
We can’t count it because they don’t report it.
This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn’t something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
I thought wars were for oil?
*lube
Wars seem to predate oil by … a few thousand years.
Doesn’t oil just kinda happen in part of Canada?
As in, at the surface and readily used? Yes and no. Sure, there was some amount of oil at the surface, but it’s very low grade and mixed into the soil. This presentation has an image on the first page to give you an idea of what they’re starting with. It looks more like asphalt than oil (and is very similar). In fact, this stuff is so difficult to extract that, even though it was known about in the 18th century (by Western civilization), it wasn’t mined until 1960.
You’re not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.
I’m a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I’m not the best looking guy out there but I’m certainly not the worst either… And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people’s attention, romantically.
One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening
I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.
competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What’s a boy to do!?
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was “dating” a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
Back when I was 13 I was jealous because the “worldly” older guys got the girls …but the time I was that worldly age, I couldn’t believe how gross the guys looking at young teens were.
Now I’m old and everyone under 30 looks way too young…as it should.
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
Could be a gay couple and it’s young men
True. I made an assumption, you have a point.
Thank god we’ve achieved clarity after addressing the assumption
No idea. He gave 5k to one before he kicked me out. What was our house is for sale now though.
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I don’t know about you, but I always thought the 21 year old hanging around my high school dating a 16 year old was a fucking loser.
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Was a loser, was fucking.
We
You mean “they,” right?
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I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it’s just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out…
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking “wtf is wrong with those guys?”
As an adult I wonder wtf the fuck is wrong with those guys.
I live in a country where the age of consent is 14, and this shit is still pretty common. I voted Fidesz because I thought they’d fix the situation, by rising it. They added a close-in-age exception, so if you’re 17, you can prey on 12 year olds.
I hope that’s the last time you vote Fidesz
Yeah, it was 2010. My most regretted action.
The day that change was announced, I was so angry, I shaked and looked like that veiny guy in the meme, also didn’t sleep a single minute that night.
I’m sorry you had to deal with that! Wishing the best for 2026!
Wtf? You voted for Nazis?
Fuck that, they distract you while demonising everyone that criticises them as “LGBT pedos” (when the LGBT people are the most threatened by the actual creeps, ie Fidesz, and his fat oaf Orban).
But seeing as you don’t anymore… How come you changed views?
Got my face eaten by the leopards (was a college student at that time, now I’m in their “communal work program” for half the minimum wage so their voters can say “at least he works”), so I read up about all the evils Orbán and co wanted to protect me from.
Hmm, I see. How’d you radicalise at first?
That said, I’m glad you realised their true faces, comrade. Now if only the rest of Hungary did so too…
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.
I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn’t look twelve and didn’t act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn’t have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.
Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.
She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don’t think she was quite eighteen when they left.
The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.
That’s legal in most states, but not weird in none of them.
Yeah, it’s legal here.
When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn’t even qualify for a learning permit.
And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn’t being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.
