Men using dating are getting 90% AI/bots now I would suspect.
The point of dating apps is for you to come back to the app. And harvest your data.
Swamps can have drinkable (as in not poisonous, not as in thirst quenching) water so I usually say ocean in place of that. Because good luck drinking saltwater. And it’s more fitting because the water is all around you.
I was thinking ocean was a better choice as well. You can drink as much as you want but you might regret it.
OkStupid and Plenty of Failure weren’t bad until they got bought. I used to get dates and girlfriends a lot. Then it became grift city and bot paradise.
Yeah, met my wife on OkCupid in 2013.
yes! I used to use them back in like 2012 and they were half decent for meeting people
TBH I am somewhat ashamed of my (male) sex, and its many extremes. The incel side, the oldschool sexist side, the Instagram macho side, the “Andrew Tate attention predator” side, the “take a freaking shower” side, the “you cheated on your mistress?” side…
Like, I am an AuADHD recluse. No self-promotion here. I know I’m not in a good place for a relationship, at the moment.
Yet based on guys I’ve personally met, I feel like I’m in the top percentile for “being reasonably understanding/deferential/courteous/nice, meeting a baseline grooming standard, engaging with someone else’s needs, and so on.
Don’t ever be ashamed of something you didn’t choose or do. People love to be inflammatory but nobody really judges a guy just for being a guy. Vast majority of men are doing the best they can, we know. I work in a company about half men, all of them manage to be clean and together and nice, same as the women do. Some of the guys are for sure dressed better than me most days.
Can’t judge a group on the worst of them.
Just be clean and treat women like people. The bar is SO LOW
I’m not quite sure how to say this, but the bar is definitely above there. I’m sure many women have these stories of people falling below it and having lowered their standards, but there are also guys (like me) that have received zero to zero attention while being very socially open in a lot of contexts.
Worse, there’s often a conclusive reaction of “If that’s the case, you must be doing something wrong”. I know I’m not my own best judge, but I don’t believe that. I show interest in people’s lives and hardship, be kind, stay clean, and it doesn’t appear to make a difference.
People as a whole (not just women) are less prone to haphazard connections than they used to be. More generally, it ties in with the difficulty making friends as an adult. Attractiveness concerns could tie into that, but I can’t say for sure.
My problem lies in approaching them in the first place.
My fiancé approached me and that’s the only reason we’re together.
Now that I think about it that’s the only reason I’ve ever been in a relationship
Absolutely this!
I’m not particularly good looking and I’ve been overweight/unfit my entire life.
I have NEVER had problems getting dates or getting laid. I’m polyamorus these days, which narrows down the dating pool quite a bit and it still is not an issue.
The secret is just…be honest? Be authentic and treat people like people, regardless of their gender.
The bar really is low.
The bar is low and made of soap
Dated hot and heavy a few years ago and used to ask women about bad first dates as a conversation starter. With my whole chest, JESUS FUCKING CHRIST.
I only had one bad date. The women I dated could each tell stories for ages.
My worst date (not 1st date, I think 3rd?). Me and this very tall and attractive woman were getting ready for some sexy time and when I brought out a condom she flipped out, said something along the lines of “ARE YOU CALLING ME A WHORE?!” and stormed out. I, of course, ignored this giant red flag because I was very horny and she was hot and tall. Over the next few months I found out how crazy she really was and finally ended it.
The cheating is not exclusive to dudes though. Women do cheat a lot too. I wouldn’t say one sex “wins” over the other in that regard.
There are plenty of stereotypes for women, too, and many overlap.
The challenge isn’t that these people actually exist, the challenge is that while they are few in the general population, there’s often no way to know until you’ve wasted your time, or worse, it’s too late.
I feel fortunate I don’t have to go through that slog.
Dating apps for men: swipe right on anything mildly close
Dating apps for women: sort through list of people who swiped right on you
so what is the well in this analogy?
I think the moral of the story is blame
NestleMatch GroupRemember, they make money when you use the app. If you meet an actual good match, you don’t need the app anymore.
Thusly, the whole point is not to find you a good person, it is to make money by keeping you on the app.
This sort of technology could be amazing for finding people of the same interests and background, but instead its a slot machine with faces. That’s why the pix are the primary interface and not a bunch of filters based on personality, interest, etc.
I mean Match group certainly carries a lot of the blame. But at some point you gotta acknowledge there’s also just a lot of shitty people there to just waste your time on both sides of the fence
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Gay men seem to be well
The well is in the town square. You know, where all the people are?
Where you’re not supposed to approach people cause it’s seen as intrusive?
That’s simply not true, at all.
Says you
Says society in general. Be less anxious.
It’s not about being anxious, it’s about respecting people when they make it abundantly clear that they don’t want strangers bothering them in public.
If your confidence overrules people’s comfort zones, you might be the jerk. Just sayin
This is a pathetic take. Enjoy your indoor time. I’ll be out in public interacting with humans.
dating/hookup apps for furries: [mutually] here is my sona and a selection of my nude pics, when and where?
when everyone is weird, nobody is weird 🐺
E: and yes, I am in fact on barq~
and what are the nonbinary, lesbian, and gay experiences
gay experience? cruising, but you learn how women get treated and it isn’t great.
The fact people use dating apps still shocks me. I’ve never once used them.
I did find out in Korea they have a word for guys like me. “ 자만추” or jamanchu which means “self righteous pursuit.”
Guys who prefer to find love naturally without the use of dating apps. Apps like that are all bad and have a financial incentive to keep you single and using the app.
Proofs that women have it easier with online dating lol. You can just boil and filtrate swamp water to make it potable, whereas in the desert u simply are just fucked lol
Proof
My guy it’s an analogy
There are way to find water in the desert. People have lived in deserts for thousands of years.
Name one
Underground/cave springs. Digging to the water table. Collecting and storing rainwater when it does happen. Cactus moisture. Condensation…
Don’t forget desalination
Ah, right, and that’s a whole rabbit hole too. Like oldschool boiling, or osmotic filters.
My preference would be nuclear, but both of yours seem to be useful in keep the e.g. the Middle East hydrated.
Take it from the plants
I mean a person who’s lived in the desert for thousands of years
Me
Cool.
