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So what else do you listen to instead? Asking for a friend…
I think you have to, like, psychologically reanimate the ghost of your mother and then have her tell you what to do.
Doesn’t matter if she’s still alive, you need a functioning ghost.
parents giving kids no discipline, no responsibility, not teaching delayed gratification, and just letting them grow up doing whatever they want instead of forming good habits is a big part of this mess… I know because I suffer from this and it’s too damn easy to blame “neurodivergence”
(it’s probably worse for the current generation since they grew up on infinite scroll brainrot as well)Those are all issues worth talking about but when you package it this way it gets a little too close to “have you tried not being depressed” meme.
ADHD is a neurocognitive disorder that absolutely includes abnormal brain chemistry, among another few dozen traits that make your suggestions rather shallow.
more like “have you tried resetting your brain and rewiring the way it was wired during your cognitive development” (as I just blamed “a big part of it” on early development - not on your own will)
Funny how it’s actually the opposite, parents offering too much control, rather than education and understanding, while delegating that education and care to The State and Capital that seeks to exploit, which leaves people unable to care for themselves.
It’s the lack of consequences early on that’s missing. If you give control to kids and they have no natural feedback that they can use to correct themselves, they’re not going to do well. That means letting them fail stuff, get detentions, get bullying, etc. kids need to be left to fail and learn for themselves how to deal. Sure, parents need to offer support and encouragement and help out at certain times too.
I will add, that “support” includes parents needing to tell beforehand, what is appropriate behavior, since that step is failed too often. Then if the kids mess up, they can recognize easier, what went wrong, compared to just fumbling and getting consequences for it, and having to figure out why. Outsourcing the responsibility to teach, just to the environment, leads to catastrophes too. Neither suffocating nor negligence, are good strategies for raising children.
Treat yourself like you would that Labrador puppy. Set guardrails and habit patterns in place. Use positive feedback to turn them into good habits and behaviour loops.
And just like training said Labrador, it’s a LOT fucking easier to say than to actually do!
The autistic part of my brain (It doesn’t always work out well)
Yeah, that’s not worked for me either, it just micromanages my current hyper-fixation in great detail and depth. It’s a two-wolves situation, with impulsivity and in-depth nerdery
You have to imagine yourself giving advice to a friend.
…The problem is following throughA therapist.
Listen doesnt mean thoughtlessly obey all its urges.
My body just wants to sleep. If I listened to it I could easily do 16h+ sleeps every day. It’s a fucking daily battle to exist in the real world and stay awake long enough to get anything done.
So fuckin real I can literally sleep as long as I want in a day, sometimes 14-20 hours at a time. Funnily enough I can never sleep when I WANT to.
Awake for 36 hours with 2 hours if sleep, and have an important meeting tomorrow? ZERO sleep. Nothing urgent? 17 hours of sleep.
This is damn near Shakespeare level prose
I’m distracted by “skip fire”. Fire in a boat? On a pallet? Game for sadistic children?
‘The Haunted Shopping Trolley’ sounds like the title to a YA book that is actually a maths course pretending to be a fantasy novel.
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Most unlikely your body wants to learn Mandarin… Anyways a part of you wants it…
Its all about integration of different parts that learned to go alone into the world without taking the other parts into account. So listening to your body (basically perceptions) is important but not the solution. More important is the listening itself and the process of trying to find out what resonates with many parts of me. Then go for a good compromise or deal. That’s quite hard but you stop loosing yourself and build up integrity.
