parents giving kids no discipline, no responsibility, not teaching delayed gratification, and just letting them grow up doing whatever they want instead of forming good habits is a big part of this mess… I know because I suffer from this and it’s too damn easy to blame “neurodivergence”
(it’s probably worse for the current generation since they grew up on infinite scroll brainrot as well)
Those are all issues worth talking about but when you package it this way it gets a little too close to “have you tried not being depressed” meme.
ADHD is a neurocognitive disorder that absolutely includes abnormal brain chemistry, among another few dozen traits that make your suggestions rather shallow.
more like “have you tried resetting your brain and rewiring the way it was wired during your cognitive development” (as I just blamed “a big part of it” on early development - not on your own will)
Funny how it’s actually the opposite, parents offering too much control, rather than education and understanding, while delegating that education and care to The State and Capital that seeks to exploit, which leaves people unable to care for themselves.
It’s the lack of consequences early on that’s missing. If you give control to kids and they have no natural feedback that they can use to correct themselves, they’re not going to do well. That means letting them fail stuff, get detentions, get bullying, etc. kids need to be left to fail and learn for themselves how to deal. Sure, parents need to offer support and encouragement and help out at certain times too.
I will add, that “support” includes parents needing to tell beforehand, what is appropriate behavior, since that step is failed too often. Then if the kids mess up, they can recognize easier, what went wrong, compared to just fumbling and getting consequences for it, and having to figure out why. Outsourcing the responsibility to teach, just to the environment, leads to catastrophes too. Neither suffocating nor negligence, are good strategies for raising children.
parents giving kids no discipline, no responsibility, not teaching delayed gratification, and just letting them grow up doing whatever they want instead of forming good habits is a big part of this mess… I know because I suffer from this and it’s too damn easy to blame “neurodivergence”
(it’s probably worse for the current generation since they grew up on infinite scroll brainrot as well)
Those are all issues worth talking about but when you package it this way it gets a little too close to “have you tried not being depressed” meme.
ADHD is a neurocognitive disorder that absolutely includes abnormal brain chemistry, among another few dozen traits that make your suggestions rather shallow.
more like “have you tried resetting your brain and rewiring the way it was wired during your cognitive development” (as I just blamed “a big part of it” on early development - not on your own will)
Funny how it’s actually the opposite, parents offering too much control, rather than education and understanding, while delegating that education and care to The State and Capital that seeks to exploit, which leaves people unable to care for themselves.
It’s the lack of consequences early on that’s missing. If you give control to kids and they have no natural feedback that they can use to correct themselves, they’re not going to do well. That means letting them fail stuff, get detentions, get bullying, etc. kids need to be left to fail and learn for themselves how to deal. Sure, parents need to offer support and encouragement and help out at certain times too.
I will add, that “support” includes parents needing to tell beforehand, what is appropriate behavior, since that step is failed too often. Then if the kids mess up, they can recognize easier, what went wrong, compared to just fumbling and getting consequences for it, and having to figure out why. Outsourcing the responsibility to teach, just to the environment, leads to catastrophes too. Neither suffocating nor negligence, are good strategies for raising children.