If you’re lucky, you’ll only get me talking about glacial surficial geology
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This sounds perfect. Then I don’t have to be the one talking about the thing I’m thinking about for half an hour straight.
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The manic pixie dream girl who knows about ecology and climate science.
‘There are actual several contenders for the title “equation of despair”’
So, my partner would do this. One day, she was driving me home from work, and there was a period of extended silence between us, and we had this conversation:
Her: Whatcha thinkin’ about?
Me: What would the days of the French Revolutionary Calendar be if they were translated into Esperanto?
Her: …
Me: Well, you asked.
Wait so you had an interesting conversation with a guy, and you spin this as … a win, because you… let down some expectations that you just imagined he had?
You imagine you ‘trapped’ him into this conversation, like the entire thing was a dominance battle?
He… started it.
Maybe dude was just bored, thought you might make a good conversation partner, and this turned out to be correct.
‘Confusion’ that you saw could just be, you know, confusion in the sense of ‘wow i’ve never heard of these specific ideas and concepts before, and am trying to wrap my brain around them’.
Contrary to apparently popular opinion, some guys just want to have a pleasant conversation with a stranger, sometimes.
And those guys, if you just tell them you’re not in the mood for a conversation, they’ll probably understand and respect that.
Is there really no other way to conceive of socializing than as a 24/7 pvp battle of wits and hidden intentions?
She described an interaction that she was present for and how she read it. You were not there, and so instead of reading the actual situation, you are imagining what it could have been like and wondering why she didn’t interpret it in any of those ways. That makes no sense.
they’ll probably understand and respect that."
You’re right, they probably will! Except the small percentage that don’t and become so dangerous that women feel the need to shut any man down, just in case.
Fucking seriously. Internet armchair psychiatrists are nuts.
Correct, I do not trust this person’s ability to accurately read the emotional expressions of other people, given that she entirely invented a motive of the other person, with no provided evidence to justify this other person’s motive as being actually real, and then interpreted/framed the entire story using this as a narrative device.
There are reasons why eyewitness testimony is considered the lowest quality of evidence in both legal and scientific settings: our memories are highly malleable and innacurate, this is affected by many factors.
This person is literally the definition of an unreliable narrator.
Yeah, you know your own inner thoughts, with high to perfect accuracy.
You cannot mind read someone else’s intentions and inner thoughts to anywhere near that same level of accuracy, especially not without explanation.
When you interpret other people’s actions through the lense of what you assume they are thinking, their presumed motivations, you are projecting your expectations onto them, and your experience of them is then molded around this.
Also, entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on female violence, is considerably more rare than say, the likelihood an average person will be injured or die in a car accident, or even die from a serious fall… or entirely random, stranger v stranger, male on male violence.
Male on female violence is a serious problem, but this is between men and women who know each other and are not strangers, who are family members, coworkers, partners, ex-partners, etc.
That would have been the moment she became my dream girl.
I would love to listen to any girl go off about any hyper fixation. It’d beat all the conversations I’ve had to endure about fucking tiktok or instagram make up artist drama.
Eskers are cool
Something something I’m into that shit!
Well don’t leave me hanging about mexico! What’s over there?!
Is this a PSA about how I should’ve been harassing other bus passengers this entire time? I don’t understand.
Well, I found my manic pixie dream girl. I would absolutely would love to talk about Teuchitlán.
I think part of the point here is going over people’s heads. She used her hyperfixation to confuse and bore the man to deflect any opportunity for him to flirt with her or ask her out until she was able to leave.
Everyone saying “jokes on you, this bus girl is so my type” would also have their ear talked off and never given the opportunity to ask her out.
Maybe I’m naive, but I want to think that plenty of people actually stoked about that kind of situation would rather ask to elaborate on the West Mexico civilization instead.
I think you’re right, I’m just responding to the people (who are all over this thread) saying that this is part of their manic pixie dream girl fantasy.
Even the op explains that this is a method to avoid the guy trying to pick her up.
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Dude, I just want to talk about Mesoamerica. I got Tezcatlipoca set as my profile banner. I’m a fan boy.
Having just been there, it’s very much not ignored by the tourists. Yes, me too.
I’m sure this happened
What’s hard to believe here? It’s a pretty common pickup line and the most effective non confrontational way to make a person regret trying to talk to you. I’ve had basically the same experience more than once, except I rant about grammatical cases instead (just as boring for most).
Seems like kind of a dick move on her part though IMO.
more boring I would say
You almost got me monologuing for a moment there!
But yeah, it’s not inherently a topic of broad appeal, which is why it’s so effective in filtering out people who don’t ever want to talk about grammar.
Well I guess it may have happened. It just seems weird to me to be be so insufferably petty over a thing so minor.
Who was being petty? They asked, they got an honest answer.
I didn’t even realize, but you’re right. What are the options here for someone who doesn’t want to talk to a stranger in that moment?
A) She’s polite and tries to make conversation B) she doesn’t respond, C) she answers rudely, D) she gives a non seqitur, or E) she answers honestly
A) sucks for her and could create a situation where a stranger feels led on and entitled to her further attention
B or C) she’s antisocial, full of herself, or an asshole
D) she’s crazy
E) she’s insufferably petty
You’re forgetting another option ->
“Oh, I’m thinking about a fair deal right now, but I’m not really in the mood to talk about it, I’d prefer to mull it over myself.”
You can honestly and politely tell someone that you don’t want to talk to them, that you’d rather have the solitude.
This is not impossible, and it is not petty.
You can, but you’ll still get called stuck up. Or the other person will say they didn’t want to talk to you anyway and you’re pompous for assuming they did.
Well, I wouldn’t call you stuck up for doing that, I would say that a person who was politely refused a conversation, and then themselves acted stuck up and offended by this, I would percieve them as the asshole.
That would be an immature person with a large and fragile ego, reacting like a middle schooler, to the idea that not everyone thinks they are always worth talking to.
Yep, some people are extraverted assholes like that.
I’ve had many women react in this way when they approached me for whatever reason and I told them that I would just prefer to be alone, thank you.
But I’m fine with this, because they’re just making a fool of themselves.
Getting the same pickup line over and over is minor, but tedious enough that it makes you want to create your own fun.
Plus, if they are down for grammar rants, that increases the chances that we could actually have something in common.
Maybe that’d work on me. I find passion hot
