What’s hard to believe here? It’s a pretty common pickup line and the most effective non confrontational way to make a person regret trying to talk to you. I’ve had basically the same experience more than once, except I rant about grammatical cases instead (just as boring for most).
But yeah, it’s not inherently a topic of broad appeal, which is why it’s so effective in filtering out people who don’t ever want to talk about grammar.
You can, but you’ll still get called stuck up. Or the other person will say they didn’t want to talk to you anyway and you’re pompous for assuming they did.
Well, I wouldn’t call you stuck up for doing that, I would say that a person who was politely refused a conversation, and then themselves acted stuck up and offended by this, I would percieve them as the asshole.
That would be an immature person with a large and fragile ego, reacting like a middle schooler, to the idea that not everyone thinks they are always worth talking to.
Yep, some people are extraverted assholes like that.
I’ve had many women react in this way when they approached me for whatever reason and I told them that I would just prefer to be alone, thank you.
But I’m fine with this, because they’re just making a fool of themselves.
Yep, some people are extraverted assholes like that.
Yeah, I suspect there’s a selection bias with people who approach strangers and ask what they’re thinking.
But I’m fine with this, because they’re just making a fool of themselves.
I’m fine with it as long as they don’t follow me off the bus or train. That’s happened five or six times. My bff’s ponytail was cut off because someone much larger thought she should be paying more attention to them. And I’ve been told I deserve to be raped, but I don’t really care about that if there’s no additional physical intimidation, because some rando’s opinion on what I deserve is irrelevant unless they intend to mete it out.
I’m sure this happened
What’s hard to believe here? It’s a pretty common pickup line and the most effective non confrontational way to make a person regret trying to talk to you. I’ve had basically the same experience more than once, except I rant about grammatical cases instead (just as boring for most).
Seems like kind of a dick move on her part though IMO.
more boring I would say
You almost got me monologuing for a moment there!
But yeah, it’s not inherently a topic of broad appeal, which is why it’s so effective in filtering out people who don’t ever want to talk about grammar.
Well I guess it may have happened. It just seems weird to me to be be so insufferably petty over a thing so minor.
Who was being petty? They asked, they got an honest answer.
I didn’t even realize, but you’re right. What are the options here for someone who doesn’t want to talk to a stranger in that moment?
A) She’s polite and tries to make conversation B) she doesn’t respond, C) she answers rudely, D) she gives a non seqitur, or E) she answers honestly
A) sucks for her and could create a situation where a stranger feels led on and entitled to her further attention
B or C) she’s antisocial, full of herself, or an asshole
D) she’s crazy
E) she’s insufferably petty
You’re forgetting another option ->
“Oh, I’m thinking about a fair deal right now, but I’m not really in the mood to talk about it, I’d prefer to mull it over myself.”
You can honestly and politely tell someone that you don’t want to talk to them, that you’d rather have the solitude.
This is not impossible, and it is not petty.
You can, but you’ll still get called stuck up. Or the other person will say they didn’t want to talk to you anyway and you’re pompous for assuming they did.
Well, I wouldn’t call you stuck up for doing that, I would say that a person who was politely refused a conversation, and then themselves acted stuck up and offended by this, I would percieve them as the asshole.
That would be an immature person with a large and fragile ego, reacting like a middle schooler, to the idea that not everyone thinks they are always worth talking to.
Yep, some people are extraverted assholes like that.
I’ve had many women react in this way when they approached me for whatever reason and I told them that I would just prefer to be alone, thank you.
But I’m fine with this, because they’re just making a fool of themselves.
Yeah, I suspect there’s a selection bias with people who approach strangers and ask what they’re thinking.
I’m fine with it as long as they don’t follow me off the bus or train. That’s happened five or six times. My bff’s ponytail was cut off because someone much larger thought she should be paying more attention to them. And I’ve been told I deserve to be raped, but I don’t really care about that if there’s no additional physical intimidation, because some rando’s opinion on what I deserve is irrelevant unless they intend to mete it out.
Getting the same pickup line over and over is minor, but tedious enough that it makes you want to create your own fun.
Plus, if they are down for grammar rants, that increases the chances that we could actually have something in common.
Maybe that’d work on me. I find passion hot