People in different stages of life like that generally don’t have a ton to relate on. Can it work? Sure. Does it usually work long term? Nah
The older one of them is the less either need to worry about long term
Whatever. They’re both old enough to know better.
Hey man I’m not here to yuck anyone’s yum, idgaf, enjoy each other
It’s not so much “Yucking someones yum” so much as “I think such a large age gap is going to be a big strain on this relationship. But if you wanna… fine.” Like, one of these people was born around when 9-11 occurred and the other was born around the time when Pac-Man was the new hot game in arcades and these “CD” things were starting to catch on for music storage. That’s quite a generational gap.
However, they’re both old enough to both know the what they’re doing… and maybe it will all work out. Thus my “They’re both old enough to know better” comment. Maybe they’re star crossed lovers and it will all work out… but in the end, it’s a case of “Not my circus, not my monkeys”.
None of my fucking business.
See, that’s the thing about people being grown-ass adults. They get to decide what does and doesn’t work for them.
And, despite people that want to knee jerk the matter, there’s less difference between those two ages than there is between a 21 and 25 year old.
Personal development is heavily front loaded. By the mid to late twenties, most people are who they’ll always be. Friendship, romance, whatever. The only real barrier to age gaps are cultural touchstones and a handful of probable experiences (like job stuff, kids, etc) that aren’t even guaranteed to not be present.
Folks just get all het up over it because they’re morons that can’t look outside of themselves long enough to realize that their motivations and concepts towards other people aren’t actually universal.
Two consenting adults are just fine, and nobody else has an opinion that matters about them
Dating fine, but if going for a long term commitment, it may be rough to be in your 60s with a partner in their 80s. They have to understand if they are theoretically on that path and that their relationship will transform into elder care at some point. Also before that the older one will stop keeping up sexually.
If both see it as a short term fling, probably ok. The 46 year can probably keep up with a 25 year old in the ways that matter, and may have enough money for some interesting experiences to share.
Weird for sure. Why do you keep on asking this question in different ways on different accounts? Are you trying to justify it? Is it a fetish?
Inquiring minds want to know!
Inquiring minds want to know!
Read it, you can read it, you can read it, you can read it…
Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it.
It’s also almost universally something that the people involved cannot take outside advice on. It seems to be one of those things that must be experienced personally.
Thats really well put
Bit weird but none of my business.
Am I, or someone I love, the 46 year old, or the 25 year old?
The only time I would care is if the answer to the first question is “yes” or if one of the parties isn’t acting consensually… Otherwise, its not any of my business, as they’re both consenting adults.
If more people worried about themselves, and less about what others are doing, the world would be better off.
Mind ya business, people.
Assuming both are consenting adults that actually love and care for each other, okay by me. 👍❤️
It’s not about the age gap. They’re adults. The same rules apply to any relationship. If nobody’s being manipulated, abused, taken advantage of or harmed, then people need to mind their own business.
I’d have some questions for the 46 year old. Mainly “can’t find someone your own age who’s naive enough to put up with your shit?”.
Call it ageism, but at 40 I can’t look at a 25 year old and see an equal adult. That’s still a kid in my head even if legally and practically speaking they’re an adult. I see a lot of dudes my age and older going after 20-25 year olds because their abusive tactics don’t work on older women.
That’s is so totally my ex wife. I was 17 and she was thirty.
Now I’m nearly 40 and over the years it’s been quite obviously why she needed 17 year old.
I’ve dated women a bit older than sense then but it’s different if I’m 30 and they are 50. It’s not the same power imbalance
Very telling that you think 20-25 year old women don’t have agency. I see that as a form of sexism.
Where do I say anyone doesn’t have agency? Check your assumptions, they’re causing you to make wrong inferences.
It has zero impact on my life therefore I don’t care.
I would feel it’s none ofy business what two adults are doing
It’s weird, but not NEARLY as weird as your obsession with age-gap relationships.
How many accounts are you going to get banned on this question?
