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      This isn’t an excuse they’re just weak. Many have authoritarian fathers or parents and come out vowing to never be like that or support that behavior.

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    It’s their kink. That’s why Grindr gets overwhelmed every time they gather. I work construction and it’s the same thing there they always rally around one guy (usually a foreman) and compete for his attention. We had a foreman one time who was conventionally handsome an id say pretty cool and I shit you not dudes were talking about how he edges before working out and they all started doing it and then somehow they got a picture of his dick and we’re going around shoving it in eachothers faces and calling eachother gay “because they looked at this guy’s dick”. They started drinking the same energy drinks that he drank. I wish someone would do a psychological study on it is weird. It’s a thing

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    They are scared little boys. Their fathers were emotionally (maybe physically) abusive and didn’t give them agency, just expected “respect” (do as I say)

    “Man up, sit down

    Chin up, pipe down

    Socks up, don’t cry

    Drink up, just lie

    Grow some balls, he said

    Grow some balls”

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    Fear.

    They rally around figures who look strong because they’re afraid of losing social status, or feeling xenophobia due to racism, or insecure over economic concerns. As always, everything is projection with these dipshits. They let fear drive them into the sort of groupthink mob they accuse liberals of being.

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      I sorta understand, I guess. But having president whatshisnuts as your figure of manliness is already a joke in itself, but elevating him to a messiah like figure is just crazy.

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        Helps if your world view is shaped by people who are continually telling you that he’s a figure of manliness, while constantly playing off your fear and insecurity for profit and political gain.

        EDIT: It’s also a very unrealistic standard of what it means to be a man, almost a caricature. It’s a masculine ideal rooted in myths of the “common-sense everyman hero” who’s wisdom is more valuable than other’s knowledge, instincts more accurate than other’s intellect, and cunning able to overcome other’s skill. He’s a man who’s anger and will can overcome insurmountable odds, and who’s “rough-around-the edges” personality is more attractive than practiced social graces. There’s no need for growth or change, because our hero needs nothing more than the innate qualities he already possesses to thrive, and because of that failure is never his fault.

        It’s the aesthetic of romanticized cowboys, gangsters, renegade cops, and retired spec-ops, a domesticated version of 1980’s gritty action-hero masculinity adapted for group membership. It’s always framed as bucking authority and going against the grain, even though conformity is required to be one of the “good guys”. Being low on the totem pole allows you to gain the virtue of being a simple man with a simple life, or being the trusted sergeant “who really makes things happen around here”, but doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of rising to any occasion just because you have guts. Washboard abs or hard work are only important when they can be used to show how weak and ineffective your opponents are, but what’s really important is that you’re able to dismiss, demean, deny, and destroy anything that doesn’t conform to the right way of doing things to gain the accolades you’re due and save yourself the embarrassment of having to admit your hero fantasies aren’t true.

        Again, it’s ridiculous to apply this ideal to the bloated orange, but it’s an image he cultivates. His personal mythology is embodying that ideal and gaining massive success in every endeavor because of it. It allows his failings to be used as evidence that he’s “just like us”, and not as examples of his overall lack of redeeming qualities.

        But I wouldn’t expect it every really make sense, because at it’s core it’s just a bullshit justification for getting whatever they want with as little effort as possible.

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          That’s absurd AF but it actually does make sense in a weird, twisted worldview sort of way. Thanks for the explanation!

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    It’s simple. They are super insecure guys and want to feel big, so they are assholes to women because women are easy targets. They drive massive trucks, love to BBQ and watch sports with other insecure men, but at the same time they lack any real identity and are completely lost without their mommy to take them by their hand. But mommy is a woman, and having your mommy to care for your insecure ass looks stupid to your friends, so you just follow another screaming asshole so you look touch yourself (you do not, you’re a sad piece of garbage and everyone sees it).

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      I’d like to point out that grilling and barbecue are different things. Most guys do not barbecue. Grilling is extremely common, though.

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      Great explanation but I also love BBQ. Please don’t bring BBQ into this. It’s not BBQ’s fault.

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        I like to BBQ too, although no longer with meat.

        Not every person who likes to BBQ immediately is an insecure asshole. It’s just that insecure assholes like to BBQ to feel manly.

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      Downloaded. Definitely going to use this next time I see some CHUD making wildly sweeping statements about trans ppl.

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    They like hierarchy because it means there are people below them in that hierarchy.

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    Because part of conservatism is the idea that hierarchies based on who your parents are, and the fact that you’re male, etc. are proper and right.

    They want to submit to the people who are correctly above them in the hierarchy, and want the people who are supposed to be below them in the hierarchy to submit to them.

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    Did you hear Trump’s press conference yesterday? Dude was talking about how much he wanted to kiss this steel worker for like 2 minutes.

    They are all closet homosexuals.

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    Because in reality they are betas, they call themselves alphas but they are easily manipulated and they are lap dogs of powerful people

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    I have nothing but love and respect for the gay community, but in my opinion, I think it is because they are all secretly gay and are living out their dark secret, gay fantasies. Conservative yaoi is lame…

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      They should really just come out already. They would probably be happier and less vitriolic, and more of a pleasure to be around.

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    In short, they really want to be the girl but can’t admit it. Some have been repressing it so long their brain is wired to short circuit thought in favor of angry stupid reactionary bullshit.