How the world seems to be more and more fucked up every single day and how the vast majority of us simply don’t seem to care. Climate change, corporations quickly becoming the new States, politicians who just lie and lie with no consequences, AI being viewed as the magical cure-all for all these problems when really it’ll just make bad decisions easier to justify, and most of all, how people seem to view everyone else around them with more and more suspicion which eliminates even the faint hope we have of working together to solve some of these. Idk, take your pick, they all have the potential to be the death of us
I feel you in a big way, but to be totally fair: corporations becoming states has probably trended towards the better from a zoomed-out perspective, and political leaders lying all the time has probably only become more visible than ever.
The entities that were doing all the colonialism for the past several hundred years have been private companies, and they did huge amounts of slavery and genocide. Blackwater is bad, but the East India Company was worse. This is not to say that things are good now, only that they aren’t like worse than they’ve ever been.
And I think the present day has a greater expectation of political leaders being accountable to the people they govern than most of history. Back in the days of monarchs and oligarchs, there was no mass media to tell everyone they were lying and no likely consequences for the liars even if there were.
Again, I empathize a huge amount with what you’ve said & I am also disappointed that the world we’ve created isn’t better than it is. I just personally think that the above two are trending in a more optimistic direction, even if they’re still objectively pretty bad.
I agree that things have been worse in the past, mostly. I’m gonna paraphrase a video from Unlearning Economics I saw a while ago (pretty sure he was quoting someone but I can’t remember who):
Optimists look at the world and think, ‘this is the best it gets’. Pessimists know that we can always do better
Goddamn amen; the same exact things you expressed precisely my thoughts! It’s like I wrote your comment.
My wife just said you’re my soulmate lol.
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My mortality! Hit 45 this year and it kinda feels like it’s all downhill from here.
Health is ok but that seems tenuous as I’m pretty out of shape so I feel like I’m not “set up” yet to be a healthy older person. When something does go wrong I’m not sure if I should worry about getting it treated or just live with it.
It seems futile to learn new skills and such since I’m not sure about the payoff (ROI).
Family/kids/job/money are all pretty great so I don’t have anything to complain about, but I’m still kind of feeling like I’m about to crest the hill of life and want to ensure I’m making the best of it and prepared for my eventual demise.
I don’t want to die! I really like being alive and kind of wish I had immortality (with a safety kill switch of course so I don’t have to endure the heat-death of the universe or get stuck inside a star somewhere lol)
I already hit 50 and been in similar thoughts. It sucks just that you start thinking about it.
My future career as a welder. I’m currently in a paid apprenticeship and I’m stuck on the final qualification before graduation. Everything else was easy, but the copper-nickel to mild steel test keeps failing. I’m on my forth and final test attempt.
If I fail, there’s a real possibility I’ll be fired. It would be foolish of them to fire me as they’ve already invested a considerable amount of time, money, and training on me. But I don’t know if they’ll see reason, so I’m getting my resume ready for another job.
It shouldn’t be hard to find another job, this current one has already given me four years of on-the-job apprentice training experience. I just don’t want to leave this current job as I like it here.
Whether or not I should trade in my drum kit into an E drum kit. Idk… Midi interfacing would be great. Plus the amount of different kits I could build or use just by downloading. Is it worth it?
Do it. Dad used to have essentially a replica of Neil Pearts setup, while cool as he’ll to look at, it’s a pain in the ass to maintain and it annoys the shit out of anyone nearby.
Once he made the switch 10 years ago to a Roland mesh E Kit, the entire houses demeanor relaxed. Plus it doesn’t take up an entire room, and you can swap sounds on the fly.
Real kits are nice for live or jamming out sometimes, but you’ll get infinite more use out of the Ekit
Well lemmy, I did it. I bought a Roland TD17-kvx. Thanks for helping me make this decision. Haha, I’m so excited.
Not the Roman Empire. :)
Uh, I think so, Brain, but we’ll never get a monkey to use dental floss.
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The top 3 cards of my libraryWhether I should try to land a spaceplane on Laythe or put a rover on Eeloo.
Both will be about the same difficulty, but the latter will be more useful on other planets and moons.
What is mourning the loss of a loved one like for people who have untreated ADHD?
I ponder this because I believe I suffer from adult ADHD, and I’m mourning the death of a very dear friend of mine, and it is boiling me apart from the inside.
Is this “typical” mourning, or is my ADHD somehow multiplying the symptoms of grief?
I’m sorry for your loss. I can sympathize with you because I lost one of my best friends years ago.
From the years of counseling I’ve participated in, I’ve learned that people experience grief in different ways. There really isn’t a better or right sequence to experience the loss of someone. You’ll go through it as you see the need to or feel.
There are 5 Stages of Grief (though some believe that there are a total of 7.)
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance are the most common. Again, these don’t have to happen in this sequence. You might experience that you jump around as time goes on, and that’s perfectly normal.
Now talking about how your possible untreated ADHD symptoms might be negatively affecting you. I have been officially diagnosed with ADHD and have experienced the loss of a best friend to suicide. One of the perks of having a ADHD brain, is that you can think about a large number of things in a given moment. But this can make you feel totally stuck and overwhelmed if you’re going through grief. The best things to do I found during my experience and some advice from trusted people, was to allow for myself to spend time to process what had happened. It’s important to reach out to others to talk about how you feel or how you’re doing. Remember that you’re not alone in experiencing grief of the death of a friend. Reach out to someone that you can trust that is going through the same event as you. This can help you feel like you’re not alone in your experience of grief, struggle(s), loneliness, etc.
It helped me very much to talk to a counselor that I knew and could feel comfortable sharing these deeper feelings and events with. If you can’t find a counselor, seek out someone close to you that would be willing and able to listen, support you and suggest options to help you through the process of going through grief.
Feel free to message me if you have a need to talk. I don’t mind talking about the harder things in life most often. And last but not least… This Too Shall Pass.
Thank you for the kind words and advice. I’ve been muddling through the stages of grief - as you say - bouncing around in no particular order - and I’ve been giving myself time to process, and I’ve reached out to the family of my deceased friend, I’ve been helping them deal with the practical sides of the loss; packing up their house, dealing with their pets, helping their kids with the loss of their mom, and also just supporting and caring and talking.
I’ve always struggled at my job to stay on task - I tend to drift off and get easily distracted, and I’ve always been able to angle that to a benefit- I’ll rapidly jump from task to task, produce results quickly on multiple things. But now this new distraction is my overwhelming sense of loss. I can’t schedule grief, and it bursts into my mind (already churning away on five different projects), and I have to try to suppress it, or step back from my desk and talk myself through it.
But it never seems to ebb completely. Always there, and any single little trigger - seeing anything that reminds me of my friend - puts me back into the misery spiral. I’m sure it’ll pass in time, and since she died (just over a month ago) I did notice things began to get a little less difficult. But then her parents asked me to take her phone and go through it and clean out any photos / references/ etc about what killed her (bad boyfriend, drug overdose) - and that process just re-opened the wound. I feel like I’m going through it all right from the moment it happened. And I find myself starting over on the grief cycle. The inability to shut it out of my mind.
How different it is to self motivate and the way the environment in front of you chains together to determine what you do. I feel like the way people are trained to live by school and financial obligations is very limited and probably few people are really in control of their own lives in any meaningful way.
My mother’s massive orbs.
Honestly, how to evaluate stocks for my first individual share purchases. I’ve only ever had more-or-less passive funds investments.
It’s all a bit overwhelming.
Buying individual stocks is a fools game for non-UHNI (poor) people. Keep your more-or-less passive funds investments, like low-fee mutual funds and index funds.
If you want more retirement money, it’s far better to spend the time to in yourself (skill upgrading/job upgrading) than it is to worry about trying to bet on individual investments. If you’re putting away 10% of your income per year into your retirement savings, you can double your retirement savings by increasing your job salary by 10% and then just putting all of the extra away too. Getting a 10% increase in your salary is a lot easier than picking a stock or stocks that will going to go up twice as much as the overall market.
I hear the apes over at WallStreetBets know a thing or two.
One might even call them Reddit Experts in a not-at-all-astriturfed community.
where should i buy a house? i haven’t even narrowed down the country, yet.
Start with a checklist. Add things like, the kind of weather you would like to experience most of the year, are you more of a coastline kina person or more inland person, does it matter to you that you’re near outdoor activates year round or not at all, do you desire to live in a city or a town, what hobbies are you wanting to participate in where you live next, etc, etc.
good idea.
i have a list I’ve been considering, but you’re right that I should write everything down.
i have a lot of contradictions - love theater, live music, and cultural diversity, don’t like congested cities. i like warm beaches and snorkeling and generally prefer rainy and cloudy cold weather and need some mountains kind of contradictions. the list is long, but it’s a good excuse to live in different places until one clicks.
From what you described, you should check out the Pacific Northwest.
thanks, I like Portland a lot and that’s in the running for sure.
i don’t know if i want the perpetual rain though since i love riding my ebike around, and i actually haven’t been to the Oregon coast. maybe i should head back and do some more live-in research.
How much to put away for retirement. When will my wife and I get to retire? Is it worth a little pain now while we’re in our 30s and 40s and parents of a baby? Or will I be denying us experiences while we’re… well, not YOUNG, but at least moderately able bodied?
I have a viridian green oil paint. Should I buy another green color and if so, which one?
I’ve been pondering why so many people treat this community like asklemmy lol
No question shaming!
Bamski is a Lemmy regular, he should know better!
