Software dev with (clearly) too much time on his hands

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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • You’re not wrong, but you’ve got a bit of an extreme take on it. I think you and your parents may have different thoughts on what it means to “approach” a woman though. I’m going to use “flirt” to refer to talking to a woman with intent of seeing if they would make a good partner for you and just “talk” to indicate just being friendly with someone.

    it is only appropriate for a man to talk to a woman who doesn’t know when the social situation is explicitly designed for meeting strangers

    No, it’s fine to talk to strangers of any gender in public. Approaching them and flirting with them is not. As long as you can roughly understand when you’re making someone uncomfortable and stop it, you’re not going to come off as a creep/predator. Stuck in a lineup in a store? Chat with someone beside you, maybe commiserate about how long the line is. If you want to flirt with them, then yes the situations you mentioned are definitely the places to do that.

    (sort of an aside: whether “meeting friends of friends” is an appropriate situation to flirt with someone you just met is still situation dependent)

    They are adamant that I need to learn to approach women or else I will never find a partner.

    Approaching women in random public spaces with the intent of finding a partner is also a pretty bad idea. While it could work, it’s definitely creep/predator behaviour so I avoid it. It’s very likely to make them uncomfortable, since they’re just trying to do their thing not get hit on. This can easily be harassment, though I’m on the fence on whether it’s always harassment.

    Personally I like to flip the genders on situations like this and ask if I’d want to be the other person in this situation. It’s worth keeping in mind that woman have way more statistical reasons to be weary/wary of any interaction with men, though. Regardless, e.g. if some woman was beside me in line and started chatting with me, I’d be fine with it. If some woman came up to me and complimented my shirt, I’d be fine with it. If some woman came up to me, complimented my shirt, and then asked for my number I’d be weirded out (I don’t know you, lady). If some woman came up to me and asked me to take out my earbuds to commiserate about how long the line is, I’d be annoyed that I’m missing my music.







  • Ticketmaster is doing their very best to make paper tickets unusable with refreshing barcodes. Funny thing is that “anti-theft” feature is needed because of their own systemic failures. I do like tickets that are just sent to my email or similar (e.g. as an attachment that I can save to my phone) though, it’s better than wasting paper when I know my phone won’t fail me.



  • NGramtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy would'nt this work?
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    23 months ago

    Relativity would prevent this. If the train moves at the speed of light, then nothing inside it will move because time will stop. The amount of trains inside trains doesn’t really change much except the effect of time dilation (slowdown) on each train. You can’t actually accelerate to the speed of light.


  • While light bulb sockets don’t change much from region to region, they definitely aren’t all the same. For the bulbs (not the bars), there’s two large categories: Edison screws and bi-pin. Edison screws also come in a lot of sizes. When compact fluorescents were rolling out, they got a new bi-pin connector from the USA: GU24. My whole home has GU24 fixtures (not by my own choice), but my lamps are Edison screws.




  • NGramtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhat do you donate to?
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    65 months ago

    I just sat down to do my annual donations, so I’ve got the list ready to go:

    • local food bank
    • local safe injection site
    • Signal
    • KDE
    • OpenMedia (closest thing to EFF in Canada)

    A few places I couldn’t afford to donate to this year, in case anyone needs more ideas:

    • archive.org
    • EFF
    • miscellaneous software projects I’m using (mostly Steam Deck plugins because I’m in that community a lot)
    • Gnome

    I also give a bit to Tor and The Beaverton monthly.


  • NGramtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldAre you in support of UBI?
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    5 months ago

    Your first example only works for goods that are completely optional, which is very rarely the case. For example, smartphones. Nobody technically needs one, but almost everyone in western countries has one. If every company that makes a smartphone increases their prices, people will still buy them because they basically need them. I believe this is the principle of inelastic demand (or low elasticity) – car fuel is a more traditional example.

    Your second example doesn’t work when the cost of entry into the market is really high. This is very common in high tech. Take semiconductors for example. There’s basically one big name in chip manufacturing (TSMC) and a few runner-ups (Samsung, Intel, etc.). The latest node is infamous for being very expensive and low capacity. Why aren’t there new competitors constantly breaking in to the market?

    UBI is a great idea and will help things, but it’s not perfect so we shouldn’t expect it to just completely fix capitalism. The best way to fix capitalism is to get governments (which are all in charge of capitalism) to fix it with regulations. UBI will be a major regulation/step in the right direction.


  • Another classic from NatPo!

    While we are ashamed of our cultural traditions, retailers are certainly not ashamed of milking cash from the desiccated corpse of Santa Claus. And so, by being cynical of a traditional Christmas, we have fashioned Christmas into something we should indeed feel cynical about.

    NatPo came so close to making a progressive statement, but held back at the last second and blamed regular people instead.

    Perhaps we can sneak it back onto the calendar

    I wonder who doesn’t know when the stat holiday for Christmas is. No need to put it back on the calendar when it’s still there…

    Throughout the whole article there are only anecdotal reasons why it should be restored. So many of them boil down to “it used to be like this so it should still be like this” too, which is just a silly argument. Maybe come up with some good reasons for it to stay by using a bit of critical thinking, NatPo.

    The article could’ve been a nice little nostalgia trip too, but instead it finished off by saying all of the far-right talking points as though they had some relevance to the rest of the article.




  • I like to divide my spending into two broad categories: needs and wants. For example, I need food and shelter to survive, but I only want that really cute blahaj (even though it feels like I need it). Things that I want I can skip, things that I need I cannot. You have to be very honest with yourself for that to work well though.

    Of course life is not fun if you’re only surviving, so it’s OK to treat yourself occasionally with things you want. Just make sure you’re saving enough before spending on “wants”.

    It’s also often possible to break down “needs” further, since you may need some functionality (e.g. something to eat, something to hit nails with, etc.) but the specific item is not a need. I will prefer the cheapest option if I don’t have any other requirements. I tend to like things that’ll last though (they’re usually cheaper in the long run), so I’m willing to not cheap out if that’s a factor.

    I am a very pragmatic and minimalist person though, so I don’t think this advice will work for everyone.