Can be either from the “giving” or “receiving” end.
Once upon a time I was dating a normal lady, but when she decided to break up with me, I kept finding out wacky information.
-Wacky part 1: Okay, so she decides to break up with me via a friend…’s text. Now we were dating for over a year and we’re not 13, so this was unexpected. Also I had just bought her a plane ticket to meet my parents with me. We would be on separate planes but I was excited. She was indeed serious about breaking up via her friend…’s text. (Sad music here, or polka! I don’t care.)
-Wacky part 2: It had been months but I was getting over her. Through a post I see that not only had she been cheating with me, it had been going on for months while we dated. (Sad trombone music here, this is actually required by audit.)
-Wacky part 3 (The fuckining): So remember the plane ticket? She actually used it to see the guy she was cheating on me with, who turns out, lives quite close to the airport near my parents. I get this little tidbit a few months later. (Sensible techno music)Dodged a RPG there my friend
What a roller-coaster. Glad you are free of that nonsense.
Damn. (Sad elevator music)
Soda. It took me quite a while to drop cola. Looking back, it’s way too sweet.
Good answer. I cut out soda for around a year in 2022, but it’s slowly crept back into my life. At my worst, I was drinking nearly 1L a day. Now it’s about a 12oz can every week or so. Good on you for cutting it
Is it? I don’t understand the hate on soda. It’s carbonated water with flavoring. There are many other drinks with more sugar. Why the negativity for bubbles?
For me, it was caffeine and sugars, and too much of them. They made them too easy to drink large portions of them. Dropping it completely is my way of portion control there.
Every so often I’ve had another drink of cola, and it’s been sickly sweet, so at least for me, there was some dulling of my taste buds. Since cutting down there, I’ve taken in less sugars overall, so it’s ‘healthier.’
Seltzers (carbonated water that has been on the vicinity of flavor) are great though, citrus oils seem to do well for those.
I obviously read it in the Joe Biden scream.
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It was 2010, and after dating a guy briefly for 3 weeks and noticing some red flags I made the mistake of breaking up with him while giving him a ride home. I wasn’t expecting what came next. He started yelling at me to pull over so I did. He yanks the keys out of the ignition and I try to grab them and he pulls me out over the center console through the passenger side and I land on the gravel road in a skirt. I get up and he grabs me by the shoulders and starts yelling at me (I don’t even remember what because I was crying so hard in fear). Then his demeanour changes for a split second and he’s like “why are you afraid of me, I’d never hurt you.” I had bruises on my legs for weeks after landing on the ground. His whole thing was jealousy and that’s part of why I was breaking up with him. He thought it wasn’t possible id wanna break up with him so I must be cheating and just randomly started naming names of guys he knew I was friends with.
He tells me to get in the car, and I have no choice because I’m terrified of him and we are in the middle of a country road. He starts driving us back to the city and that’s when I realized where he was going. He picked one of my guy friends that he knows where he lives and is going to confront him over cheating that never happened. He knew the general area where this friend lived but not the house. When we got close and had to stop at an intersection, I took off my seatbelt, opened the door, and started running. I hear the sound of my own cars tires screech as he chases me. I saw a house with a door open and ran inside, there was an older couple there unloading groceries. I locked myself in their bathroom and they called the cops. He left my car and the keys with the couple and walked away before the cops arrived.
I never talked to him again and got a cryptic message on Facebook from him a few months later apologizing. Then a few more months later a friend called me to tell me he had killed himself. It still haunts me thinking about the entire experience.
Jfc that’s awful. Sorry that happened to you and hope things are better now.
Thanks. I have had a relatively drama free life, so this was a pretty significant event for me. I met an amazing man a year later and have been married to him 8 years now. But I still think about this from time to time and feel sad, and I guess a bit of guilt (which I know I shouldn’t). I realize this guy had a lot going on besides our brief relationship to take his own life but it’s still difficult feeling like I had a part in it.
Oh boy do I have a story for you guys.
When I was 20, I had been dating this girl for nearly a year.
She would freak out over something and break up with me and then come crawling back three or four days later all sad and mopey, and because this was my first like long-term very serious relationship I let her do it.
Finally, we are getting close to our 1 year anniversary and I’ve been saving up to go all out.
We were going to rent an RV, go to a pow wow, camp out, make a big hullabaloo about it.
And all of a sudden, my cousin, who I had been living with for a while, randomly comes up to me and says I have to move out because I haven’t been paying rent.
But I had.
And it turns into this whole ordeal where his girlfriend at the time had been lying to him about whether or not I was paying rent because I had been giving the money to her directly, so long story short I get my own place.
And it’s pretty shitty, but it’s my own place.
So, for some reason my girlfriend 3 Days later breaks up with me, right before our one year anniversary. She says this time I’m going to take a 6-month break.
And we’ll see what happens after that.
Well that threw me for a loop, I’m super upset and depressed, and one of my coworkers suggests that I come to their Church.
And I do.
And I get involved with it cuz I’ve got nothing else to do but work a shitty job and stay in a shitty place.
And I meet this girl, and she’s really into me. And I’m really into her.
My current ex-girlfriend’s name was Jennifer, this girl’s name is Jenny. Both brunette, both facially attractive, and me and her start seeing each other.
But since we’re doing the whole church thing we’re like can’t have sex unless we get married.
And then one wild horny day we went down to the courthouse and got married. Had a shit ton of sex for a few weeks, until we got it out of our system, and then a grand total of 48 days after we got married, she says that this isn’t working out and she leaves.
Two weeks later Jennifer comes back, and in retrospect I should have fucking kicked her to the curb but this woman broke into my house and had a balling crying fit because she saw the marriage certificate on the wall.
And then stayed there and waited for me to show up.
So, while I was still legally married to Jenny and going through the process of getting a divorce I was dating my ex-girlfriend again who I was still in love with despite all the bullshit that I went through, and it took me years to learn my lesson and to kick Jennifer to the curb and to grow some fucking balls and to start thinking with something other than the little man downstairs.
But yeah that’s my wild break up story, broke up with a girl for 6 months married somebody else started dating her again while I was still technically married to the second girl.
Did you end up dating a girl named Jen afterwards, by any chance? 🤣
I’m not one to judge. I had an on-and-off fling with a dude named Tyler, where it turned out I was the side chick all along. Then I got away from him by going on a yearlong internship at different locations, where I ended up dating a dude named Tyler (who went by “Ty”) for a semester. And then a year later I dated “Taylor” for a couple weeks. And spent half a year getting over him, too. Lmao.
Lol, my next girlfriend after Jennifer pt 2 was named Jenna, and the girlfriend after that was also a J name.
Eventually I’m going to run out of J names, I swear, I’m going to run away from any girl named jalisa the same way you should probably run away from any guy named Thomas.
I’m currently engaged to a dude with a name that DOESN’T start with “T.” His middle name and last name are free from the curse as well.
I hope you have similar luck someday!
I had a rather difficult breakup with my 4-year ex GF. We should have split after the first year, but I kept on trying to fix the relationship.
After a bit of a meltdown, I decided to break up with her, but she didn’t take it well; she said that she did not acknowledge us breaking up. It was a sad and long breakup that day and, honestly, I was not helping her go through it.
After a few days, I woke up at night after feeling something smashing my head. I rushed to turn the lights on and noticed they were already on. She did go to my apartment at 3 am (the door was never locked) and went to my room to throw a shoe at my head and then gave a 2-hour monologue of why we shouldn’t break up, while drunk.
I was shocked and couldn’t say a word during the whole monologue, and she was frustrated about that, but I just couldn’t say anything. She left at 5 am, and I then cried until I fell asleep.
The next day she called to apologise, all I could say was that it was ok. She did try to text for a few months, but I never replied.
I once had a female “lesbian” friend who was in a lesbian relationship, and I was in a gay relationship.
I low-key fell in love with her and confessed that and she reciprocated, but breaking up with my boyfriend for my best friend I had seen throughout our relationship was incredibly awkward and uncomfortable
My second and most recent one was tough. She was a good girl and incredibly mature for her age (we were 22 when we broke up), and truthfully I wasn’t ready for that kind of a relationship and still had some exploring to do.
We used to catch up once a year or so, but she has a partner now who doesn’t like me seeing her and while I’m sad about it, I respect it and promised not to reach out until she does. I’m over her and not holding my breath, but if she ever does I’d definitely consider giving it another shot. Turns out that girls like that are few and far between.
Always the first one
My first breakup was probably the least painful for me. It was a high-school relationship that I let go on for way longer than it should have because I didn’t know what a healthy, respecting relationship was supposed to feel like.
My personal worst was my second relationship. I grew up in a very religious community and already felt a lot of guilt for not marrying the girl I lost my virginity to, so when the second relationship ended, it was very difficult for me to process. Not to mention the fact that me and #2 were childhood friends so I lost my partner and best friend in the breakup.
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You got this, friend! Not saying break ups will ever be easy, but it’s def easier than the first
Thank you so much for the kind words! I hope you have a great day!
Long time GF having real (not hyperbolic/breakup rhetoric) mental health issues, feeling helpless to remedy, and going through too many issues that were out of my control at once with a failing business, '08 eco downturn, etc.
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She just stopped talking to me after, a year. :/ I haven’t really bounced back from it.
