As a straight cis man that’s been on many dating apps but doesn’t fish, can someone explain why this phenomenon is still happening? Because it’s been a joke for years that women think it’s stupid, I’d have hoped that had filtered down by now
I think it’s because men are generally very indifferent to taking photos of themselves that they never just do random selfies or take pictures with each other, and thus have something to choose from. Like, women seem to love taking pictures together with their friends, before going out, while out, or after getting home. It’s fun for them. But have you ever seen a group of fellas getting ready to go out, and they are like “Omg guys we look so pretty, let’s get some cute selfies together before we go out! Okay let’s do a serious one, then a bunch of silly ones!” Women seem to take a lot of photos just for the sake of having the photo of themselves. Which is quite nice, really, they are having fun and taking pride in themselves. They also practise a lot, so they end up being pretty good at getting a nice photo with good lighting, angle ect. But fellas only seem to take photos of each other or themselves if they are showing off something they acquired (fish, motorcycle, car, woman).
So when choosing photos, they have a lot slimmer pickings. There’s the fish one, there’s the photo they took with their ex, and there’s the one of them sitting on the motorbike with the helmet on. Then they try to do a selfie but they have no idea how to do a good selfie so they end up under flourescent lights against a white wall looking like a fucking Harkonen and get demoralised, so they use the fish one.
When you start visibly aging and getting wrinkles, beauty comes from kindness. I dunno, at least that’s how I’ve always felt. QED you’re gorgeous, dude.
Then they try to do a selfie but they have no idea how to do a good selfie so they end up under flourescent lights against a white wall looking like a fucking Harkonen and get demoralised, so they use the fish one.
Eventually they learn the daylight car selfie from the driver’s seat, which looks decent because the roof cuts off the harshest shadows from direct sunlight but the blue sky all around the windows creates diffuse lighting with great white balance.
I mean. Like fundamentally fishing is just a hobby. If you’re into a hobby, doesn’t it make sense to have pictures of you doing your hobby on your dating profile?
In theory sure, all of the answers in this thread make sense in isolation. But not with the decade of conversation from women on the internet saying that’s an instant no, which I’ve seen on hundreds if not thousands of profiles and posts about dating apps over the years
I understand wanting to match with someone that shares your hobbies but it just seems like kneecapping oneself for matches when we have this information.
Maybe my circles just have expressed that more overtly but I thought it was well known that will limit opportunities. I guess if liking fishing is an absolute dealbreaker it makes sense in context
Could be a bubble, I’ve heard women make fun of it too but I really only talk to liberal, urban, coastal women. But more conservative or traditional women who like a certain form of masculinity could like the fish pictures or at least be ambivalent to them.
Like a third of young women voted for trump and tradwife content is very popular, I rarely talk to women like that though so idk what’s going on in there head, maybe they see fish and think “provider” or something.
I hear a lot of women say they don’t like the fish/deer pics too. But, I also see a lot of other women on dating apps with their own fish/deer pics. So. I believe I’m going to continue letting people do whatever they want.
Dating apps are kind of a numbers game, but they also aren’t, right? You want to get a lot of matches, but you also want those matches to be people who you would actually date. The point of a dating profile isn’t just to attract compatible people, but also to avoid incompatible people.
If I’m into fishing (I’m not, it’s super boring, but let’s pretend), and someone else says “I would automatically swipe left on anyone who has a fishing pic,” then wouldn’t I want them to swipe left on me? Why would I want to match with someone who so strongly dislikes something I’m passionate about?
Cause maybe it’s not about the fishing? Again I know women that both hunt and fish but think it’s unattractive on a dating profile specifically. “I want to know what you look like not what you’ve conquered”.
Matches are just pathways into knowing someone better and forming a relationship. If something prevents matches that doesn’t necessarily mean it would prevent a good relationship.
Maybe a picture of a guy fishing is a compromise? Show the hobby but isn’t about aggrandizement?
Maybe its a way of filtering people like that out?
If you’re so specific and irrational in your demands I’m not going to want to meet you anyway. Like setting your height to 5"11 specifically to avoid the kinds of women who absolutely insist on minimum 6ft
At one point I had fishing pictures on my profile, because I didn’t have more than 2 pictures of myself without holding fish. So I had 3 pictures of myself on my profile, one holding nice catch
Sorry saying stupid was kinda reductive of me, the rhetoric I have experienced about this topic is that it’s an instant “no” or “swipe left”. Which implies it being a major turn off for what has been in my experience ubiquitous, I know there are plenty of women that are into fishing and hunting who would be into it but even among that set I’ve heard it’s not a good way to attract a woman
As a straight cis man that’s been on many dating apps but doesn’t fish, can someone explain why this phenomenon is still happening? Because it’s been a joke for years that women think it’s stupid, I’d have hoped that had filtered down by now
I think it’s because men are generally very indifferent to taking photos of themselves that they never just do random selfies or take pictures with each other, and thus have something to choose from. Like, women seem to love taking pictures together with their friends, before going out, while out, or after getting home. It’s fun for them. But have you ever seen a group of fellas getting ready to go out, and they are like “Omg guys we look so pretty, let’s get some cute selfies together before we go out! Okay let’s do a serious one, then a bunch of silly ones!” Women seem to take a lot of photos just for the sake of having the photo of themselves. Which is quite nice, really, they are having fun and taking pride in themselves. They also practise a lot, so they end up being pretty good at getting a nice photo with good lighting, angle ect. But fellas only seem to take photos of each other or themselves if they are showing off something they acquired (fish, motorcycle, car, woman).
So when choosing photos, they have a lot slimmer pickings. There’s the fish one, there’s the photo they took with their ex, and there’s the one of them sitting on the motorbike with the helmet on. Then they try to do a selfie but they have no idea how to do a good selfie so they end up under flourescent lights against a white wall looking like a fucking Harkonen and get demoralised, so they use the fish one.
I hate taking pic’s of myself can confirm. And I’m not even that ugly.
When you start visibly aging and getting wrinkles, beauty comes from kindness. I dunno, at least that’s how I’ve always felt. QED you’re gorgeous, dude.
Got any with bridges in the background?
No actually
How sad! I don’t have any pictures of bridges, selfie or otherwise, but I did an image search and found this picture, which I like:
I enjoy it
Eventually they learn the daylight car selfie from the driver’s seat, which looks decent because the roof cuts off the harshest shadows from direct sunlight but the blue sky all around the windows creates diffuse lighting with great white balance.
Shit up. That’s a great idea why am I waiting for golden and blue hours
Men who enjoy fishing are single
I mean. Like fundamentally fishing is just a hobby. If you’re into a hobby, doesn’t it make sense to have pictures of you doing your hobby on your dating profile?
In theory sure, all of the answers in this thread make sense in isolation. But not with the decade of conversation from women on the internet saying that’s an instant no, which I’ve seen on hundreds if not thousands of profiles and posts about dating apps over the years
I understand wanting to match with someone that shares your hobbies but it just seems like kneecapping oneself for matches when we have this information.
Maybe my circles just have expressed that more overtly but I thought it was well known that will limit opportunities. I guess if liking fishing is an absolute dealbreaker it makes sense in context
Could be a bubble, I’ve heard women make fun of it too but I really only talk to liberal, urban, coastal women. But more conservative or traditional women who like a certain form of masculinity could like the fish pictures or at least be ambivalent to them.
Like a third of young women voted for trump and tradwife content is very popular, I rarely talk to women like that though so idk what’s going on in there head, maybe they see fish and think “provider” or something.
I thought about that too but I grew up in the south and have heard it from women that do both
I hear a lot of women say they don’t like the fish/deer pics too. But, I also see a lot of other women on dating apps with their own fish/deer pics. So. I believe I’m going to continue letting people do whatever they want.
I ain’t trying to stop anyone, I’m just trying to understand still doesn’t make sense to me but whatever
Dating apps are kind of a numbers game, but they also aren’t, right? You want to get a lot of matches, but you also want those matches to be people who you would actually date. The point of a dating profile isn’t just to attract compatible people, but also to avoid incompatible people.
If I’m into fishing (I’m not, it’s super boring, but let’s pretend), and someone else says “I would automatically swipe left on anyone who has a fishing pic,” then wouldn’t I want them to swipe left on me? Why would I want to match with someone who so strongly dislikes something I’m passionate about?
Cause maybe it’s not about the fishing? Again I know women that both hunt and fish but think it’s unattractive on a dating profile specifically. “I want to know what you look like not what you’ve conquered”.
Matches are just pathways into knowing someone better and forming a relationship. If something prevents matches that doesn’t necessarily mean it would prevent a good relationship.
Maybe a picture of a guy fishing is a compromise? Show the hobby but isn’t about aggrandizement?
Maybe its a way of filtering people like that out?
If you’re so specific and irrational in your demands I’m not going to want to meet you anyway. Like setting your height to 5"11 specifically to avoid the kinds of women who absolutely insist on minimum 6ft
At one point I had fishing pictures on my profile, because I didn’t have more than 2 pictures of myself without holding fish. So I had 3 pictures of myself on my profile, one holding nice catch
You don’t ask a fish for fishing advice. Ergo, you don’t ask a woman for dating advice. Because women are non-sentient creatures meant to be hunted.
Or something like that. It’s hard to keep up with the multiple levels of crazy in the manosphere.
Nah see a woman is more like a violent sexy robot what brings you pie. That’s why my dating method is so successful. Picture related:
Just cause women find it stupid, doesn’t mean they’re not also turned on by it. We are multitudes.
Sorry saying stupid was kinda reductive of me, the rhetoric I have experienced about this topic is that it’s an instant “no” or “swipe left”. Which implies it being a major turn off for what has been in my experience ubiquitous, I know there are plenty of women that are into fishing and hunting who would be into it but even among that set I’ve heard it’s not a good way to attract a woman
I’m guessing there’s some subconscious “this man knows how to provide” thoughts going on.
(in summary to what has already been said) We don’t like taking pictures of ourselves.
OMG OMG FISH!!!1