That if I reach out for help before things get bad, they don’t get as bad for as long, and that it makes people happy that I reached out.
I’m not a burden, I’m a person.
I’m not a burden, I’m a person.
Oh man. I FEEL this one. Personally still working on it, but it’s getting a little easier.
I’ll always be working on it, but it helps to have those moments of hearing “I’m glad you called me” in my back pocket when hesitating.
I am way better at everything I like to do since I stopped drinking all the time!
If you had asked me 2 years ago I would have said a couple of drinks makes everything easier lol
The older I get, the more I want to be honest with people (without being a dick about it) and have them be more honest with me (ditto, non-dickishness).
Being married, I find that, in order to not be a dick, sometimes just letting it go is better than honestly. I’ve learned that, even if my SO did something incredibly stupid, I don’t have to call everything out unless it’s affecting our lives negatively.
Spouses can have a little stupid, as a treat.
I am immune to a lot of anaesthetics and painkillers. This was figured out after surgery.
I was surprised to realize that I’m too tired for feedback.
Been a feedback junky my whole life and actively seeking it out. But after my last two jobs really beating me down without any sign of respect or good intention, I’m just totally burned out. Unless we have a very long standing, well established relationship based on mutual respect, and unless I know that you know more than me in the area we’re about to talk about… I don’t wanna hear how you think I’m doing and I don’t feel like doing it better right now.
Waiting for that promotion will likely never come. Working your arse off doesn’t mean you’ll get it either.
Don’t let your job define who you are. Take time off, enjoy your surroundings and make time for your friends and family
I am confident in my knowledge but I lied about my drafting skills when I got hired and it turns out I’m a lot better at CAD than the majority of my coworkers. The people who trained me are EXPERTS so I assumed everyone at my company was just as skilled as them…nope, people submit some real shitty drawings and have no problem putting their name on it. They’ve got me beat with technical knowledge but I’m the guy who makes the cleanest diagrams.
As someone who was educated on the technical side but had to do drafting and was shit at both, I still think they are just totally different skillets and designers should be allowed to design scribble or whatever and people who are good at drafting should get a raise.
I completely agree about the skillsets but if you’re incapable of creating a clean and readable drawing, you should choose a job that doesn’t involve that at all
At my company, the design of a system (high end AV) is done by someone else, they provide a rough sketch if needed and then my role is verifying the functionality and creating the plans, diagrams, and support material for the installers/programmers.
I started in the industry as an installer before moving to programming so it’s important to me that I make the field techs’ lives easier. But for some coworkers, that is simply not a concern
I avoided drawing as much as I could and then got the fuck outta there. I knew I was limited in both attention to detail and giving a shit, both of which are crucial to drafting success!
I’m now still in the infrastructure world but big data sets, long term, and people focused.
Glad you found your fit bud. People who care are worth their weight in fuckin gold.
That I needed a little validation as an artist. I’ve been making things all my life, and always felt like a bit of an imposter. I didn’t really care, or thought I didn’t. I recently entered some work to the Royal Academy show, which was accepted, then quickly sold for £1000. I have to admit it felt pretty good.
Wow congrats! One thing I learned about making art is not to seek validation from my friends/family - something about the close association of them to me makes it hard for them to view the art in an unbiased way. So it must of been empowering to have strangers approve of your art. Anyone in your life that hasn’t been so supportive, turns out those people were wrong or at best close-minded
You’re right Bobby, close to home is often too close to home. I definitely enjoyed the stranger love. Hope you’re making some stuff!
That now that their is a family behind me, I am scared to change jobs even though its long overdue and I am burnt.
If I trust myself and am confident, that I typically make the right decisions. Even if I don’t, I can back up my decisions with the logic I’ve used.
I’m somehow, depending who you ask, a far right loon or a wake leftist extremist
I am not nice, and 25 years of trying to be nice hasn’t really changed that.
I am extremely mentally resilient… don’t get me wrong, I’m struggling, but I’ve been struggling for 10 years now, and I’ve gotten so used to the extreme stress of some various personal things I can’t talk about, and being in limbo for ever for very important, life-changing (for the worst) events…
I’m here, I’m managing, and… no, I’m flourishing. The last year, became a Christian, started playing guitar, photography, collecting watches… I’ve done so well despite being under the pressure that I am…
Would love to talk about it all, but I really, really, cannot…
That is wise advice and an amazing video 🤣 thank you for sharing that
