• peopleproblems@lemmy.world
    17·
    4 months ago

    I used to think it was because I’m too ugly to be attractive to the women I find attractive.

    Then I discovered I don’t really even try with women I find physically attractive because it’s relatively small on my attraction plate. If I find a woman who has intellect and the ability to talk on that trait, and a desire to learn with a bit of that physical goodness, hot damn will I put the effort in.

    Worst case scenario I get rejected. Back to square one. Next one isn’t even that bad: I end up with a good friend, which is one more link to hopefully find someone who foots the bill.

    That being said having a lengthy dry spell probably isn’t healthy, but I’ve managed it so far.

    Edit: why the hell did I say this in this community?

    I need to hold off on commenting before I’m fully awake

    • Xenny@lemmy.world
      3·
      4 months ago

      I’m not trying to brag by saying this but I’m pretty attractive and if I wanted to get laid tomorrow I’d probably have no issue. But it’s like having access to infinite candy but instead of rotting your teeth and eroding your health it rots your ego and erodes your emotions. I don’t think getting laid all the time without real human connection is healthy. So I uhh sort of don’t have sex either unless I have a real connection and it can take a while to find that. It makes it special again.