I mean, if you’ve consented to a monogamous relationship and your partner violates that consent it’s a big deal.
If they find that certain aspects of the relationship aren’t compatible with what they want and they can’t work it out, they should leave the relationship. Notbl saying it’s easy, but that’s part of the responsibility that comes with being in a committed relationship.
or you could just… not force yourselves to be exclusive. we already cant get all our needs met by a single person, why force yourself to get all your romantic and sexual needs met by one person? the relationship might not need to end if you both had others to lean on.
its basically the set of ideas and assumptions related to traditional romantic relationships. you can read more about it here. it includes the idea that sexual relationships must be exclusive and restricted to a single romantic partner to be valuable and fulfilling. humans, contrary to popular belief, are not monogamous. hence the constant failing battle to force us into monogamous relationships and all the interpersonal drama that results from our failure to maintain a standard so against our nature. the prevailing notions of romantic relationships, amatonormativity, are thus a curse that only serve to hurt us. as usual all of this really only benefits rich people, who forced the standard on the rest of us, much like keeping lawns. weird how all our problems somehow wrap back around to rich people huh…
humans, contrary to popular belief, are not monogamous
Contrart to popular beliefs, humans don’t have only a single way of doing things, I want to have only one gf and wouldn’t feel comfortable or happy with two or more, my best friend? She has currently 1 boyfriend and 1 girlfriend
It’s like saying "humans, contrary to popular belief, are all hetero’
Also, you forget that you can cheat even in a relationship with more people
i dont see how what you said contradicts my statement. i said humans are not monogamous, meaning in general. nonmonogamy can take many forms. the impulse to cheat is evidence of a desire for more partners. it sounds like you misread what i said.
Not everyone has an impulse to cheat or a desire to cheat. Some are happier in monogamous relationships, others are happier in something polyamorous or open. There is no wrong way to build your close relationships as long as all involved want the same thing.
you just know its somehow related to suspicions of infidelity. amatonormativity is a curse.
I mean, if you’ve consented to a monogamous relationship and your partner violates that consent it’s a big deal.
If they find that certain aspects of the relationship aren’t compatible with what they want and they can’t work it out, they should leave the relationship. Notbl saying it’s easy, but that’s part of the responsibility that comes with being in a committed relationship.
or you could just… not force yourselves to be exclusive. we already cant get all our needs met by a single person, why force yourself to get all your romantic and sexual needs met by one person? the relationship might not need to end if you both had others to lean on.
That’s fine, but you need to be open about it with your partner. If they’ve consented to an open relationship, great. Otherwise its not ok.
amatonormativity: the normalization of amatos?
its basically the set of ideas and assumptions related to traditional romantic relationships. you can read more about it here. it includes the idea that sexual relationships must be exclusive and restricted to a single romantic partner to be valuable and fulfilling. humans, contrary to popular belief, are not monogamous. hence the constant failing battle to force us into monogamous relationships and all the interpersonal drama that results from our failure to maintain a standard so against our nature. the prevailing notions of romantic relationships, amatonormativity, are thus a curse that only serve to hurt us. as usual all of this really only benefits rich people, who forced the standard on the rest of us, much like keeping lawns. weird how all our problems somehow wrap back around to rich people huh…
If you don’t mind, could you please elaborate on how this really only benifits rich people. I can not quite follow how this conclusion can be drawn.
Contrart to popular beliefs, humans don’t have only a single way of doing things, I want to have only one gf and wouldn’t feel comfortable or happy with two or more, my best friend? She has currently 1 boyfriend and 1 girlfriend
It’s like saying "humans, contrary to popular belief, are all hetero’
Also, you forget that you can cheat even in a relationship with more people
i dont see how what you said contradicts my statement. i said humans are not monogamous, meaning in general. nonmonogamy can take many forms. the impulse to cheat is evidence of a desire for more partners. it sounds like you misread what i said.
Not everyone has an impulse to cheat or a desire to cheat. Some are happier in monogamous relationships, others are happier in something polyamorous or open. There is no wrong way to build your close relationships as long as all involved want the same thing.
the problem is society pushes people to have monogamous relationships and bars them from having legally protected nonmonogamous ones.