• okwhateverdude@lemmy.world
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    20 days ago

    At that point just say “Nice tits” and get the awkwardness out of the way. I ain’t playing your little power game as one of those friends.

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      If you don’t play their power game then they wind up with a recording of you saying that which they’ll save indefinitely in case you ever run for political office.

      Also so they can assassinate your character if you ever mildly inconvenience them.

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        bruh, ain’t no body in the political class here and this kompromat gathering is useless against a bunch of suburbanites that are vicariously living through their friend with the younger partner.

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          You don’t have to be part of the political class to run for office. That type of mentality is exactly how we wind up with a “political class” in-group who disenfranchises and sabotages the campaigns of any commoner who wants to run for office to serve their constituencies (i.e., their neighbors).

          Besides, running for office isn’t the only thing that could be sabotaged by this. You could get blacklisted by all the companies in your area. You could get slandered on social media and lose the respect of all your friends and neighbors. Maybe you can’t go to a coffee anymore cause you won’t be able to trust that someone won’t spit in it.

          All because someone recorded you saying “nice tits” and posted it devoid of the context that she was hanging out casually naked and deliberately trying to make you sweat.

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    19 days ago

    If your hanging about with your junk out I’m looking. If you don’t want me to look put your pants back on.

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      Used to have “Naked Tuesdays” with another couple we were friends with years ago. Just the four of us hanging out naked watching TV, maybe some other things happening. If you weren’t looking at anyone else, why even bother?

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          We always just got together on Tuesdays. Worked best for all four of us and work schedules.

          I don’t really remember how it started. I think one day was just really hot outside and our apartment was cool, but me and the other guy took our shirts off. The girls got all jealous and took their off, and it just went from there. Every Tuesday after that was them arriving then clothes coming off.

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              My partner and I walk around often enough just naked. We live on a farm now with 14 acres and really no one around us.

              We’re getting our deck expanded with a little bit of privacy from the road, so soon we can sit outside naked.

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    Wow, the comments in this thread are surprisingly bad, even for a shitpost.

    Having been in the situation myself, my thoughts were very much “let’s not make them uncomfortable” (meaning feel sexualised), but the first times (as a young’un) it got stiff enough (not that way :p) that the person chose to break the tension. Just don’t be weird about it and everyone can be comfortable.

    There are plenty of situations and contexts where nudity isn’t sexual, and I highly recommend getting comfortable with that distinction. I find people and groups of all genders to become a lot more safe with that skill.

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    I actually find this gross, I’m assuming the roommate consented or else your are no better than the guys who flash people naked under a trench coat. But if he did, and he’s obviously so visibly uncomfortable, I can’t imagine as an empathetic person continuing to make them uncomfortable.

    Even if them being uncomfortable was because they were trying not to make me feel uncomfortable. I can’t imagine the meme switched genders people would be so cool about it. I guess i could say if a pig has wings it would be a bird, but this is gross. Sorry.

    It’s funny cause I just got mad at someone for saying something fucked up to a shitpost, but this doesn’t feel right at all.

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      Maybe first ask for context before getting so riled up?

      Not everyone on this page has the same cultural background as you. In Germany for example it’s quite common to be naked at the beach/lake. Not everywhere obviously but common enough that a lot of us are not bothered by nudity as much as other cultures.

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        They posted the context, the person i hope they got consent from is trapped on a boat with them. Making escape impossible from possible discomfort. It’s even worse, it’s a fucking captive audience to torment. Again, I hope there was consent, I’d imagine that still exists in Germany. And again, as a human who’s aware of my effect on other people, I’d imagine they still have empathy in Germany, I wouldn’t want to make a person uncomfortable for my own benefit, that’s selfish and weird, and if it was a dude it would be fucking sinister. Because it’s a girl in the meme, people in the thread are answering with their pants around their ankles.

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    probably something like:
    dontgetcaughtlooking…
    dontgetcaughtlooking…
    dontgetcaughtlooking…
    zomg!!!
    ihopenobodysawme…

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    feeling sorry for lots of the people in this thread and their prudish mindsets

    i’m queer and in seattle so casual nudity is pretty normal here, we even have a whole beach for it! i go tits out at bridge raves and pride and other stuff all the time and nobody cares. and half the time i’m wearing see-through tops with no bra! like… sometimes you’ll be hanging out and some people will just be naked and it’s fine. most of my friends have seen my nudes i post on mastodon! it’s good and fine and okay. it’s only weird if you make it weird

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      oh, i’ve always found it kind of funny, actually.

      the fediverse/lemmy have a very progressive demographic, but they can also be surprisingly prudish when it comes to anything sex-related, especially when it’s coming from a female perspective.

      after being on here for months, i’ve somehow been branded as “the horny poster,” even though most of my posts aren’t explicitly horny or freaky. they’re more observational, almost diaristic, in the way they approach these kinds of topics. for example, i don’t find this post horny or freaky at all.

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        I’ve never seen you post something that is not related to sex in some way, so yeah you are definetly a horny poster for me.

        I don’t mind though.

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        and don’t even get me started on the “mark this as NSFW, please” police patrolling around here, lmao. (the tamest post you can imagine.)

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          Ehhhh, I can understand people might hold a pretty large safety margin for “will my boss be OK with this”.

          Edit: did some profile stalking. None of that is remotely nsfw, screw those people.

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        See, there’s a difference between “Yeah I’d rather keep my clothes on” rather than telling other people “You should keep your clothes on in your own house with friends who are also comfortable being naked”.

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          This isn’t at her own house though. Her fling’s friends are around, so chances are it’s at her fling’s house.

          I mean what if I as a man were to decide to hang out naked at “a fling’s” house when her friends are over and I didn’t ask any of them if they’d be comfortable with me taking my clothes off? Suddenly the situation seems different, right?

          This is just the same old casual minimization of men’s concerns when their boundaries or consent is being violated, because “You’re a man so you should just shut up and enjoy this. Consider yourself lucky to bask in the presence of my feminine nakedness.”

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            Not really, I’ve been in that situation. Her buddy said nice dick, people laughed, that was that. When I got across the room to where my clothes were I got dressed. You might just be a prude.

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              Okay, I’ll just start hanging out naked around people who didn’t agree to see my junk, and if anyone feels uncomfortable I’ll call them a prude. We’ll see how that goes.

              Your anecdote about a few people who happened to be pro-nudity doesn’t change that. The same situation could’ve landed you in jail and registered as a sex offender if your audience happened to be different.

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                No it couldn’t when you’re in a private space. Plenty of people have seen my dick because they came into a space where I was free to have my dick out for whatever reason. Never had an issue. Are you autistic or just really bad at social cues? This isn’t complicated. There’s times and places that nudity isn’t inappropriate. Private spaces are one. Have you ever seen in person the opposite sex naked? It’s not a big deal.

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                  There’s a difference between “I’ve been naked with another adult in a mutually consensual situation” and “oh haha, let me just hang out naked to make people uncomfortable so I can laugh at them.”

                  Did you not read the OP?

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          So in the same vain you think it would be acceptable for the protagonist of this meme to start cutting themselves as an act of self-harm infront of other people? Or took a shit in the living room? No matter if it made the observers uncomfortable?

          My point is that there are things that make people uncomfortable and they are socially conditioned. There is a line over which you can pass in that you are harming others.

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            Imagine trying to equate comfortable nudity and accepting one’s body to “YEAH BUT WHAT IF THEY STARTED CUTTING THEMSELVES NOW WHAT!?”

            What a weird reach. Just admit you hyper sexualize nudity and get it over with.

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                What belief system? I am comfortable being naked. I find other people who are also comfortable being naked. We share being comfortable being naked together. We are not naked in front of others who are not comfortable with themselves or others being naked.

                It’s not hard, bro. I’m not gonna drink booze in front of a recovering alcoholic. I’m not going to tell war stories to someone with severe PTSD, and I’m not gonna be naked in front of someone who isn’t in on also being naked.

                You do whatever you want to do. I’m not the one judging here. I have a partner who loves being naked and I love being naked with. We have friends who also love being naked who we all spend naked time with.

                Maybe google the word “Consent”. It might do you a world of wonders.

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                  We are not naked in front of others who are not comfortable with themselves or others being naked.

                  I’m not gonna be naked in front of someone who isn’t in on also being naked.

                  That’s not what this post is about.

                  Maybe google the word “Consent”. It might do you a world of wonders.

                  Sounds like something you should tell OP…

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                  Maybe google the word “Consent”. It might do you a world of wonders.

                  I think that is one thing the original post is missing and I am suggesting is necessary.

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              It’s all about context. Deliberately exposing yourself without consent to someone could cause similar harm.

              Up until the above comment, that is what the commenter was implicitly arguing, that it was fine to force your nakeness on others.

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    Nawh that’s their face after they peep the plug 😂 We talking sun tanning or suggestive nude yoga while maintaining small talk?

    Spread eagle staring contest sounds like a hilarious gangbang opener

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        `crushing my super freak violet theory cold.

        Homies gotta chill then lol if it’s on display and you’re not making uncomfortably long eye contact with them just daddy chill lol

        Also real pervs know sunglasses are the casual gawkers cheat code 😂

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      I call bull shit. Last week I caught you furiously masturbating in the lemmy communal sauna. I would’ve believed you if you weren’t constantly yelling: “Oh God, I’m not mentally prepared. Oh God. Oh Please! I’m not ready!” You’re a bad liar.