Let’s take a real guy who’s a real ‘bad boy.’ He’s muscular, wears ‘bad boy fashion,’ drives a sports car and a motorcycle, is arrogant, sarcastic, and an asshole to his friends, family, and kids, and very clearly doesn’t love or even like his friends or girlfriend. Is it true he’s more likable than a ‘nice guy’?
Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn’t be likeable.
I think people misunderstand the “confidence is sexy”. It’s not arrogance or cockiness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.
No, stop listening to Andrew Tate.
I know were in /nostupidquestions but damn
I think not.
I think the aesthetic of the bad boy looks cool, and many movies and tv shows played off it to create allure for an otherwise flat character.
But in most media, the bad boy has a redemption arc and ends up being a Good Dude in the end.
In reality, what you think of as a bad boy is just an antisocial, toxic twat most people don’t want to be around.
To your ending question: I’d say they are definitely not more likeable, but they’re probably sexier.
I think you might be confusing likeable with attractive.
As others have said, some women (and men) find guys like that attractive because they’re a challenge to conquer or are more exciting than someone more predictable and safe.
But they generally aren’t likeable. Women who are attracted to them don’t like them; they like the sense of inherited power.
Obviously not he just bullies people
I have to suspect that these guys have a little more depth than you give them credit for.
If they were assholes to everybody all the time, nobody would like them, so in order for this bad boy to be popular, there must be something that all these other people find appealing.
There could be another side to them that you haven’t seen because they only show it to certain people.
Short term absolutely. Long term, they are insufferable pricks. My cousin is the prime example of this.
Yes because he is everything the significant others’ parents probably hate. I think it is a short term rebellion thing. Plus there is the mentality of ‘I can change him’. So he is a challenge hence attraction.
