Assuming he/she/they don’t get obsessed and there are no drawbacks, would you?
I’m pretty sure she likes me already. Enough to stick around for the last 25+ years, anyway.
39+ years here. I think after another 21 years, I can be sure.
sometimes I forget how old people are on Lemmy lol
forcing someone to love you is unethical whether you use magic or just normal manipulation
No.
My immediate reaction is that if it’s not genuinely sincere, it’s meaningless.
It doesn’t really matter if that’s true or not - the mere fact that that was my first reaction means that it’s a doubt that would continue to haunt me, and that’s more than enough of a problem all by itself.
Nah cause that would just feel rapey.
No, because I’m not 12 years old.
No. I don’t want to screw with freedom of other people like that
Does it really matter if she likes you because she is genetically or socially preconditioned to think you’re handsome?
Or she is randomly attracted to your pheromones?
Or you randomly share an interest?
Or whatever other random thing causes it?Or that she likes you because you want her to?
Provided she still is allowed to decide for herself whether she wants to be with you.
Because people can like each other, without wanting to be together for other reasons.Emotionally I agree that yes it matters, but I find it less easy to argue the point rationally.
I’ve been married to my crush for over 25 years. I’m happy with what we’ve already got. Even when they don’t like me all that much. There’s usually a reason and it’s me that has to change.
Imagine living your life with someone who liked you even when they clearly shouldn’t. You’d lose not only the best parts of them but also the best parts of yourself.
Nah, I want someone to like me for me, not because magic.
I’m taken, but at another time, sure.
I’m married, so I don’t envision anything good coming from that. I’m not the type to be dangerously tempted, but it’s still best if the option to cheat doesn’t even arise.
Yes, because I might not get a good chance to ask out AOC and/or Hannah Fry, otherwise. And obsessed is fine!
