• 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
    791·
    8 months ago

    I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.

    abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.

    • Stegget@lemmy.world
      1·
      8 months ago

      Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.

      • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
        2·
        8 months ago

        However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.

    • emb@lemmy.world
      12·
      8 months ago

      There’s an old Mitch Hedberg joke that goes something like “This shirt is dry clean only, which means… it’s dirty”

      I think the same applies exactly for dishes that aren’t dishwasher safe. I have a dishwasher but my sink still has a pile of dishes waiting.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
    9·
    8 months ago

    Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn’t usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.

  • Harvey656@lemmy.worldM
    6·
    8 months ago

    Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and…

    But she’s hot and makes more money, so its all good.

  • ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
    4·
    8 months ago

    We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.

    We’re just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.

    • DigitalAudio@sopuli.xyz
      3·
      8 months ago

      We just have the rule that whoever cooks doesn’t wash. I hate cooking because I hate getting my hands sticky, my wife hates washing the dishes because she always forgets the corners and we end up rewashing anyway.

      It’s perfect harmony. Whenever she doesn’t want to cook, I cook, and she then procrastinates washing as long as she wants because it is her responsibility and we both know it.

      We basically never fight, but cooking and washing has never been a point of tension in this household lol.

  • jellyfishhunter@lemmy.world
    41·
    8 months ago

    This, but both ways. Neither my wife nor me washes the dishes regularly. Needless to say a dishwasher was a game changer.

  • SinningStromgald@lemmy.world
    2·
    8 months ago

    The opposite is normally true for my SO and I. They will still accuse me of making the mess but once I sort things into piles and show the mess is from them they are always very surprised.