• zaphod@sopuli.xyz
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    1 day ago

    Yeah, lack of empathy on her side, I know. If you think your date is a potential rapist/murderer/… then why are you trying to date them?

    • qarbone@lemmy.world
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      19 hours ago

      Potential partners don’t have to be rapists or murderers to be worth avoiding. They could have anti-social tendencies, explosive tempers, or violent reactions. Or, just be generally unpleasant. Like you.

      I wouldn’t have discovered I’m not much a fan of you, if I hadn’t made an innocuous comment about not holding it against women if they do a single smoke test for bad actors. We might have otherwise been buddy-buddy, with years of casual friendship, before something else triggered this, or a similar, conversation. And then, months or years down the road, I’d have to grapple with whether the friendship is salvageable. Because I don’t think shrugging at women who have to play russian roulette for love is very cool.

      But, as I said, I’m lucky. I can say we’re done here, right now.