• burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
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    In a sense of understanding the wife’s perspective, proximity is just as important as the other major factors that affect how likely a relationship is to begin. There was a cool study of college students who lived in an apartment style building that showed you were most likely to begin a relationship with the person who had a door immediately next to yours. The only exception to that was for the person who had a door immediately next to the mailboxes. Proximity matters because it lets another person see you enough to form opinions based on a lot of interactions, and we all know someone who ‘shines’ despite their physical looks.

    Plot twist: new neighbor was wearing a shirt that read, “I <3 dad bods,” and was already flirting (asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll) with the guy in sweatpants.

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      asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll

      Just as an aside, I would do this regardless of my interest. If I’m moving and there’s someone watching, I’m going to try to enlist help. They can say no and I won’t be offended in any way, but I’ll give it a shot, because moving sucks and it’s faster with more hands. I won’t gush about how strong the movers are or anything, but I will offer them beer/pizza afterwards.

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        I more meant that sometimes requests for help are seen as flirting, when they’re about as casual and commonplace as can be.

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      That study seems kinda backwards. I lived next to my future wife in student apartments, but that’s because we liked each other and intentionally chose the arrangement.

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        The apartments were randomly assigned. Do you know many freshmen who got to choose their dorms? Once I was a sophomore+, I did, but that first year in university-run student housing I didn’t get to pick.

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      If someone has to tell their spouse not to break their martial vows, or even feels like they have to say it, that couple should go to therapy.

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    Me: “I’ll do my best but you know how hard it is to resist this.” Gestures at dad bod

    Wife: “Oh, I’m well aware.”

    Me: 😘

    Wife: 😏… 🍆👉👌

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    About 16% in men have a fat fetish compared to <1% of women. Also about 36% of women prefer a partner heavier than them. Also, 97% want a man who’s taller than them while about 2 % of women want a man smaller than them.

    Of all the people currently alive, about 7% are women aged 25-35. of those 1% like fat men, of those 2% want the man to be smaller. So you have 0.0014% of any given population who is female 25-35 and likes small fat men. About half of them are single, you you have 0.0007% of any population who will find you attractive.

    In a city of 400,000 people that’s 3

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      Lemmy is finally in its incelposting phase! Not good!

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      I don’t get the reason for posting all these magic numbers with no source, especially since it is about preference of something that is considered a “taboo” and many will refuse to properly state them, under a completely unrelevant post. So even if there is a source for these, both if the poll is in person or online, they are very unreliable.

      Not to deny the minority that are people that highly prefer a fat person/partner, especially since I am both one and prefer one. I am not here to conquer every single person that sees me even if I was the complete opposite and be jacked, because that is simply unrealistic.

      I am myself, with my personality and a body I feel comfortable in.

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        Me neither, it implies that dating is just basic stats. Which no, because dating preferences aren’t independent variables. If you score low with a potential partner on a particular quality that doesn’t mean they’ve rejected you, unless that quality is a deal breaker. They are variable’s that are dependent to and from other variables, how are you with pets, are you pursuing a life goal you have set out for yourself, how are your relationships with others, ect.

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      Height was not stated. Also, if she doesn’t care about his marital status she probably doesn’t care about her own. Also also, it is stated that she is 25. Not going to do the math, so I will assume we are up to 1%

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      Physical attractiveness isnt the only kind. Lots of dummy guys get got chicks by being funny or kind.

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    We usually say to each other…don’t bring home nasty STDs. Even though we both know…way to busy to fuck someone else.

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    I’m a guy and Idk about this sweatpants things, pls someone give me some context.