I can capitalise whatever letters I damn well please, and like I said in another reply, insults by their nature have never been appropriate, and by their very nature are frowned upon.
Nah man, I’m just not down for constantly keeping up to date with the treadmill of what words are and arent appropriate… especially for insults, which have never been meant to be appropriate. I dont fucking care if your feelings are so fragile that relatively tame words can hurt you
Then that’s a more honest response than your earlier one. It’s not that you don’t understand that others may be hurt by your language even though it’s not a word you personally ever used to describe developmental disabilities, it’s just that you don’t give a shit.
Good on you for owning it (on the second try), I guess.
I dont fucking care if your feelings are so fragile that relatively tame words can hurt you
You mean like developmentally disabled people you work with who may have good reasons to be sensitive about certain words? I guess since one of those people said he was cool with it he speaks for all of them. I’m sure none of them have ever been hurt by hateful people using the R word about them.
Nah man, I’m just not down for constantly keeping up to date with the treadmill of what words are and arent appropriate… especially for insults
50+ years old and in my entire life this isn’t something I’ve found to be mentally taxing to keep up with. This is truly the flimsiest excuse I’ve ever seen for using shitty language. Just stick with “I don’t fucking care.”
Do you really not know that people can have multiple different reasons and motivations for their behaviours and actions? I’ve been honest this entire time, there are slurs I absolutely wont use because of their history and the immediate harm they cause, but retard isnt one of them, so my earlier explaination still stands. Its also true that people that get offended on others behalf annoy me and I dont care when I offend them. If I PERSONALLY offend someone for something that they PERSONALLY struggle with? I care in that scenario and I mark it down mentally to adapt to their needs and not hurt them again. You are a stranger on the internet, I dont care about you, I dont have the emotional space to. I didnt casually use the spicy word, I used it specifically as an insult towards people who I’ve been dealing with dogshit takes from. To be clear, I NEVER called any of my clients Retard, and this client I only did for them, after they requested it, and even then it made me uncomfortable because using that word to refer to someone with developmental disabilities IS gross. Nuance exists. And yes, I’m tired of the treadmill. I have Aspergers syndrome and now the treadmill is trying to tell me that not only did the DSM take that diagnosis away, I’m now not allowed to refer to my high functioning autism as Aspergers since the guy whom it was named after was a nazi, even though my autism has NEVER BEEN about that guy, and IM THE PERSON WHO HAS the diagnosis.
To be fair, your use of the R word as a pejorative reduces your credibility as a moral compass. I do agree with your overall point though.
Lmao I know you are trying to help but this is Lemmy in a nutshell to a T hahaha. Yeah that word needs retired for sure but man, put it in a dm lol.
Public shaming is entirely appropriate in circumstances such as this.
Public shaming only works if the target is shamed ~.^
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2023 now… doesn’t matter what it used to be.
Yes, so thats 33 years where its NOT BEEN USED TO REFER TO PEOPLE WITH DEVELOPMENTMENTAL DISABILITIES
It absolutely was used to refer to development disabilities in the US during the 80s - as well as anyone acting like they were disabled.
And probably about 23 years where it’s been frowned on to use the word as a pejorative. Don’t use your capital letters with me dipshit.
I can capitalise whatever letters I damn well please, and like I said in another reply, insults by their nature have never been appropriate, and by their very nature are frowned upon.
Yet, you’re cool with doing it… okay.
Yes, yes I am. What a fucking gotcha that was. Oh no, my insult insulted people, whatever should I do
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Your experience is not absolute. It’s still abelist and offensive.
Nah man, I’m just not down for constantly keeping up to date with the treadmill of what words are and arent appropriate… especially for insults, which have never been meant to be appropriate. I dont fucking care if your feelings are so fragile that relatively tame words can hurt you
Then be prepared for people to rightly call you a bigot. Sorry you’re done learning, grandpa but the world keeps turning.
And the fact that you now know better and still choose to hurt ableist language just means you’re embracing your bigotry.
Then that’s a more honest response than your earlier one. It’s not that you don’t understand that others may be hurt by your language even though it’s not a word you personally ever used to describe developmental disabilities, it’s just that you don’t give a shit.
Good on you for owning it (on the second try), I guess.
You mean like developmentally disabled people you work with who may have good reasons to be sensitive about certain words? I guess since one of those people said he was cool with it he speaks for all of them. I’m sure none of them have ever been hurt by hateful people using the R word about them.
50+ years old and in my entire life this isn’t something I’ve found to be mentally taxing to keep up with. This is truly the flimsiest excuse I’ve ever seen for using shitty language. Just stick with “I don’t fucking care.”
Do you really not know that people can have multiple different reasons and motivations for their behaviours and actions? I’ve been honest this entire time, there are slurs I absolutely wont use because of their history and the immediate harm they cause, but retard isnt one of them, so my earlier explaination still stands. Its also true that people that get offended on others behalf annoy me and I dont care when I offend them. If I PERSONALLY offend someone for something that they PERSONALLY struggle with? I care in that scenario and I mark it down mentally to adapt to their needs and not hurt them again. You are a stranger on the internet, I dont care about you, I dont have the emotional space to. I didnt casually use the spicy word, I used it specifically as an insult towards people who I’ve been dealing with dogshit takes from. To be clear, I NEVER called any of my clients Retard, and this client I only did for them, after they requested it, and even then it made me uncomfortable because using that word to refer to someone with developmental disabilities IS gross. Nuance exists. And yes, I’m tired of the treadmill. I have Aspergers syndrome and now the treadmill is trying to tell me that not only did the DSM take that diagnosis away, I’m now not allowed to refer to my high functioning autism as Aspergers since the guy whom it was named after was a nazi, even though my autism has NEVER BEEN about that guy, and IM THE PERSON WHO HAS the diagnosis.
I don’t fucking care.
xD Ok. Have a nice day!