• @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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    5328 days ago

    I think it’s as weird and antisocial as the next guy to call women “females” but I also think it’s weird that it’s treated like not receiving approval from women is the worst possible thing that can happen to a man when implying that women need male approval is obviously sexist

    • @edgemaster72@lemmy.world
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      1028 days ago

      idk, some incels will certainly act like not getting approval from women was the worst possible thing that could happen to them, and then go and do something much worse to others

      • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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        728 days ago

        yeah but this post isn’t about incels. posts like these shoot strays at all men

        • @kautau@lemmy.world
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          728 days ago

          While I agree, it specifically says “those men,” so I think the idea is that men who see women as wombs or genes or whatever should also expect to be viewed with the same lens

          • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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            828 days ago

            It’s not about that. It’s their choice of insult. Saying “people who voted for Trump are retarded” doesn’t make it not ableist just because you specified it’s about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

            • @kautau@lemmy.world
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              728 days ago

              Ah I see what you’re saying, yeah agreed. I think I too quickly read your comment, cheers

        • @edgemaster72@lemmy.world
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          428 days ago

          They’re pretty much the only group I know of that uses female that way on purpose, but I suppose we could just throw in all misogynists and my comment would still apply

          • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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            I think you’re not really getting what I’m saying. See my other comment:

            It’s not about that. It’s their choice of insult. Saying “people who voted for Trump are retarded” doesn’t make it not ableist just because you specified it’s about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

            Equating moral corruption to sexual undesirability is just stupid. It implies the inverse too, that sexually undesirable people are morally corrupt, which is actually a pretty huge problem in society. It also implies that men need validation from women which is just false.

              • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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                428 days ago

                I mean, I’ve been pretty clear… and nobody else is having trouble understanding what I’m trying to say. is it possible that on some level you kind of like, don’t want to understand?

        • @surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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          328 days ago

          That’s how generalizations and language work. It’s ALWAYS implied that it’s not ALL of a group. Unless someone says “literally all men”, and then whatever that person is saying is wrong because there’s no way it’s literally all.

          So good news, is you’re not like that, it’s not about you.

    • @MissJinx@lemmy.world
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      Agreed… but hear me out. Men usualy are more sex driven and usually (not every man of course but the majority let’s say) will have sex with a random woman. Women on the other hand usually (AS IN NOT EVERY WOMAN) (I’m saying that so crazy people don’t come after me with the “I’m not like that”) need more conection. Women will go home and not have sex if no man was interesting enough to her and she won’t feel bad, man will go home with the woman he thinks it’s the ugliest (again USUALLY) if she is the only one that’s up to it, because for men going home alone is defeat. If you rationalize that looks is not everything for women than a man that is rejected by every woman has a lame personality while woman that are rejected by men are usually based on looks.

      So yes, in this (not general but commom) scenario a man that is unfuckable is an asshole and a woman may be an asshole or may just be fat

      edit: is late and I don’t have my glasses so sorry for some dumb english

      • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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        728 days ago

        I don’t really think things are actually the way you suppose they are. I think that’s a cultural model that’s been built up by media. It may have been true at one point but from what I can tell based on my experiences in real life, it seems to be more the inverse nowadays. All my male friends seem to be much more choosy with who they sleep with (preferring a real connection) while my female friends seem to be a lot more outgoing and likely to have sex without a connection. I’m talking about a sample size of about 20 people I’ve hung out with in the past year, but I’m also considering people I knew when I was highschool / college age.

        • @MissJinx@lemmy.world
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          227 days ago

          really?! that must be cultural. I’m not american but from my experience also from male and female friends since…ever lol… men tend not to care. I’ve seen a friend hit on and take home a homeless toothless smelly woman I would say at least 10 years older than him. And his answer to me was “if you are too picky you starve”

          • @PoPoP@lemm.ee
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            427 days ago

            GenZ is overwhelmingly sex negative. I think that the movement for sexual liberation of women works to bring GenZ women back to baseline (or above) while GenZ men remain very sexually repressed. Just a theory, but it seems true in my life. I live in an American city fwiw