• @Halosheep@lemm.ee
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    1211 months ago

    As someone who used to think it was an offensive term, it’s likely ignorance and because it’s often used in a deragatory and dehumanizing way on the internet.

    At first I didn’t know what cisgendered or cis meant, but I definitely saw it used to describe a group of people non-cis folks didn’t like very much. Of course I eventually learned, but still had a bit of a distaste due to the initial impression.

    Also, I always saw “cishet” as a cheeky way of saying “cis shit” because it was also often used negatively in the places I originally came across the term. Once someone explained it in a comment section I finally understood it wasn’t hateful terminology but instead descriptive.

    You can’t stop someone from being negative but at least knowing what the words are meant to mean can help identify a bad person rather than bad word.

    • @disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world
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      1311 months ago

      Interesting. I didn’t have that experience myself, but I’ve definitely seen those types of comments. I absolutely understand how that could leave a bad impression. I’ll be more mindful of educational opportunities when having discussions about it in the future. Exposure and understanding are the enemies of bigotry.

      Thanks for the insight!

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      311 months ago

      Bigots often have a problem with being accurately described because gaslighting is part of the strategy. Useful ignorants provide cover.

      • @Halosheep@lemm.ee
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        911 months ago

        Look, I’ve never been anti-gay or anti-trans, but this kind of attitude isn’t winning over the people who are in the middle.

        I’m talking about generalizing and stereotyping type statements that, even if you aren’t homo/transphobic, feel like they’re targeted at you. When someone says, to give a hyperbolic example, “cisgendered white men are bigots”, they are not actually referring to all cis white men. But if you’re cis and white, you now know they assume you’re not a good person by default.

        Tribalism is never the way.

    • @kofe@lemmy.world
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      111 months ago

      Where were you seeing this online? (How much can I blame cursed social media algorithms feeding you bullshit?)

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        11 months ago

        Reddit was where I came across that the most. I don’t use much social media so my exposure is relatively small.

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          111 months ago

          Interesting. I don’t use social media much either (hence why it’s taken me days to see and respond here lol) but I’ve just never seen it. Not that I don’t believe you. Shit happens