Lol people are toxic everywhere.

Every time we get a wave of fresh influx, it seems to bring a fair number of upset people here. I’m not particularly surprised, they’re coming from a less-pleasant environment just in general.

People do seem to settle down a little bit after they get some time to unwind from that all, though.

Honestly, I’ve found this place to be a lot more toxic than Reddit, especially when it comes to tech.

Somewhat. I’ll use myself as an example.

When I first came to Lemmy, I was more defensive than I realized. I had gotten used to aggressive, obnoxious behavior. Soon, I noticed that wasn’t an accepted norm here. It only took a couple days to realize, but I needed a few weeks to actually get out of the habit. In those early days, I’m sure I brought some toxicity with me.

Now, though, I don’t create, feed, or encourage toxic comments. I just assume it’s an honest mistake, poor choice of words, or someone whose primary language isn’t English. If I choose to reply, I’m friendly, and give them the benefit of the doubt. If a comment seems deliberately rude or trolling, I don’t engage at all.

Also, how nice is it to be able to give (or get) the benefit of the doubt?!? You can make a spelling error without getting three or four pedantic screeds! I didn’t realize how much I missed basic civility until I rediscovered it here!

The communities I frequented in Reddit were pretty positive. I see more snarky comments on Lemmy, but I’m posting more here, so maybe I’m just getting more interactions.

Maybe? I definitely interact with more users lately who seem unable to make a point without being a condescending ass hat at the same time. Couldn’t say for sure if they’re coming over from Reddit, though.

I don’t know if I’ve seen more toxicity per se, but I definitely have seen more negativity recently. I remember when I first got here during the reddit protest stuff, everyone was so nice and it felt very refreshing compared to reddit. Now I don’t get that feeling. There are still plenty of nice people, but there’s just a lot of bitterness regarding the state of the internet right now.

Actually had a conversation the other day on Lemmy with another user where we disagreed on a topic.

We did not attack each other or were agressive. So I’ll take that as a win

I thought so until I went back to reddit and saw the difference. Just today there was a post on PublicFreakout about Just Stop Oil sitting in front of a bus and over 300 comments wishing the bus driver would have ran over the protestors and killed them. It was actually insane.

No, but certainly seems that Reddit has turned into a cesspool of right wing ideology.

I mean, the toxicity wasn’t a reddit thing, it was the users. Reddit was big, so many were there. Some of those users moved. So it’s here on lemmy too now.

Kinda? Maybe not explicitly toxicity, but some passive aggressiveness.

I’ve grown pretty accustomed to stuff like that – you get used to it after spending so many years on open forums.

I used to try to “clap back” but I realized that’s a waste of time and it doesn’t help whatever situation the person on the other side might be going through. I now tend to just move on and keep myself busy with something else.

I’ve never see that much toxicity on Reddit to begin with. Most of us came due to Spez.

I don’t know about toxicity, but I despise seeing the same damn low-effort, popularity seeking, and pointless questions on asklemmy as askreddit is polluted with. Really not a fan, and I downvote every single one.

At the very least everyone here seems to be on the same page about women being people, so definitively an upgrade.