Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
Yeah, the dread of seeing a new notification in the inbox turns out to be something pretty chill surprisingly often
UR FACE IS PRETTY CHILL
Exactly!
I still had the dread before opening this. Wonder if that ever goes away
Psst…im in your inbox…feeling the same dread. (Please dont reply, i might not be ready for another reply yet 😆)
I hope your day is wonderful
ANGRY LOOKING ALL CAPS REPLY!!!
Nice comment bro.
You can’t tell me what to do!
Only way to know is to try it again! Soooo hopefully I didn’t give you too much dread 😅
It’s basic fear response conditioning, I doubt it ever fully goes away because being cautious of the unknown is a very successful survival trait.
Basically every time you open that inbox you’d have to lie to yourself into believing that a negative response is an impossibility. Good luck, if you figure it out let me know.
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
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This really gets to the heart of it, speaking recreationally is perfectly acceptable and it seems hate just for having an opinion is much lower
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
It’s small enough that I can say something mildly controversial without getting dogpiled by a mob from /r/SomeEchoChamber
I wouldn’t know about controversial haha, I mostly comment for fun, but there does seem to be an acceptance of the fact we are all sharing the same house, might as well make nice
Lurkers using third party apps were in many ways worse impacted by the API changes than those actively participating. The high cost of API access is only worth as much value as the service is to you, and if lurking that’s going to be lower and less likely to be worthwhile in the few third party apps switching to the subscription model.
I was a lurker on the first-party reddit app for the 99.9% of the time I was on there. The ads had just gotten out of hand with not being able to block an ad to get a different ad, I was so tired of getting “He Gets Us” trash so I switched over to Apollo. A week later they announced the API changes. I work in software dev so it’s just frustrating seeing this happen to all of the people out there trying to support their hard work.
Yep, I used Relay Pro previously but seeing the cost breakdowns the dev posted for the new subscription was disheartening. The dev’s portion of the subscription fee is near zero if you use near the limit of you subscription’s monthly API requests. So at that point even subscribing isn’t really supporting the dev as much as supporting the company that forced these changes upon us. So I chose to not take part.
Lemmy definitely isn’t perfect, especially for smaller communities. But it’s definitely workable and something I’m happy to contribute to.
Yeah Reddit really made the cost just impossible for any slightly active app unable to continue without any form of meaningful profit. I would have loved to support whatever Third Party app but yeah wouldn’t have been enough to keep them afloat.
For Lemmy not being perfect, it feels like it’s just more of a number of users issue vs an actual technical problem. Sure fediverse stuff can be complicated, but after signing up and searching communities you can pretty much do some normal Reddit feeling stuff IMO. I’m trying to revive the Twitch Lemmy community if anyone wants to help with that (I have no clue what to do)!
Edit: also adding that I didn’t think about moderation or tools that Lemmy may or may not have in place since I’ve never been a mod for any of that. So maybe a technical problem somewhere.
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Hey, thanks for the reply. If you’re in the states happy Thanksgiving!
I am! Happy Thanksgiving to you as well if you’re also here!
I always want to comment but notifications can be so stressful that on most platforms I usually end up just lurking. Lemmys been pretty decent so far, it reminds a little of early internet messageboards where most people were more into discussing something interesting than trolling or one-uping someone for internet points or ego boosts or whatever weird reasons people are assholes on the internet. It’s probably the least toxic platform I’ve been on since the livejournal days
I’ve learned to no longer fear comment notifications thanks to Lemmy. It still has some assholes, but people tend to pile on and call them out on their bad behavior. It’s nice, I like it here.
and even worse, sometimes they even reply days later!
Sorry, replying a day later! There’s been much more going on with this post than I expected!
don’t worry about it. I understand
You all good, I got you fam! 😅
cheers!
Welcome welcome!
you replied too quickly! You’ve ruined it now.
But what if I’m scared to reply?
That’s okay! Nobody is ever pressured to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing! Take all the time you need or don’t even worry about it.
You get executed
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But then I’d never see your amazing advice! Although, would I have needed the advice in the first place?
You can still check back on conversations that interest you, you just don’t have to deal with the rest… 👍
To be completely honest, on kbin blocking someone doesn’t stop the notification coming through when they reply, and switching off notifications was the easiest way around that. This has probably been fixed already, and may be completely different on lemmy, but I actually prefer it this way. The only disadvantage I can think of is potentially missing replies to older conversations (and if I really must know, I can always scroll back my profile and find it, though I’ve not had that need yet), but I guess that’s a price I’m willing to pay to avoid those anxiety inducing little fuckers that are notifications… 😂
Yeah I have accounts in various places but have mostly lurked around here. Didn’t realize I had some form of anxiety until I realized how stressed I get posting or responding to things or getting notifications. Slooowwlly getting over it. How to people just throw stuff out there and feel nothing??
I don’t know about you, but for me it’s the intrusion, I’m not always free or in a frame of mind to have certain, or even any, conversations, and notifications intrude on that, and ignoring them can be hard. I’d rather be in control of what conversations I have and when.
It also helps to remember that at the end of the day people on the internet are generally random strangers to each other, and none of us owe each other our attention, time, or energy.
I don’t really see it as anything I need to get over, but if it bothers you taking it slow and steady is the way to go!
Yeah for me it’s really gotten easier since I’ve started doing streaming games online and talking with various people and stuff. Having people come and go and figuring out when someone is being kind or rude has helped a lot for figuring out when to engage, avoid, and even remove.
It’s easy for me to ignore different comments and just let it be, but I do really think about what I say before throwing it out there which is most of the stress, but it’s always getting better!
Sounds like you’ve figured out some great ways to work on the stress aspect - the fact that it gets easier is fantastic!
Yeah it feels like I’m just responding to everything now! I don’t even know who I am anymore
I did this on reddit for comments I knew would be a shitshow, just drop brutal fire, set to no notifications, post. Let the haters spew and I’m just kicking back on the next conversation.
There isn’t much I miss about reddit, but that is definitely one of the things I wish we had here…
It makes me sad I don’t always get notifications when I get a reply 😢 I want to reply and contribute!
But switching off notifications doesn’t stop you from replying or contributing… ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Sorry!
Noooo! Don’t be sorry! Everyone is great!
Well I think you’re pretty neat.
Aww thanks! I’m just being a goof rambling about stuff now.
I approve of that.
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WHAT DID LEMMY DO TO MY DANCING KIRBY??
Late to respond to this but I love the Kirby dance, keep the positive vibes going!
I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.
Maybe it’s just a volume thing and we haven’t attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.
I think those are some pretty fair assumptions. I haven’t been involved in any discussions until now really but people have been kind to me so far. I can be a bit of a goof so nice to know I won’t immediately be attacked for it.
We’ll see what the future of Lemmy will be, but for now things are nice!
Maybe it’s just a volume thing
Yes. Once a certain volume and popularity has been reached Eternal September happens and mainstream users flood in carrying alot of opinions, followed by companies who want to advertise to those new users.
How that works in a federated system is going to be interesting. There is no central site or node. Maybe there will be a separate commercial federation network.
Yeah, wtf! Stop replying to me!
I wouldn’t dream of replying to you, that would be a nightmare to do such a thing that would go against the wishes you have of not being replied to at all, again, a thing I would absolutely not do, as to retain your respect!
Thank you very much for not replying. I really do appreciate it.
no screw you guy! And I won’t just reply with “no” or "ok’ like someone from Reddit would, I’ll write a decent sentence which adds to the comment chain instead of repeating another comment which got lots of magical internet points.
Truly though, keep up user interaction and content generation on Lemmy, it’s good for the site
Yeah, I’m just having a bit of fun.
Please don’t screw me though. I don’t think my wife would appreciate it.
ok
Even Christmas themed for the holiday season!
ew, people
No one could have predicted this!
I shouted to the void, expecting nothing, but the unmistakable sound of a FartyShartBlast echoed in reply.
I usually upvote comments I agree because sometimes I’m empty-headed, cannot think about something to comment at the time.
Lol I still lurk, I have no idea why I don’t like to comment
I oftena don’t feel like I have anything to add to the conversation that hasn’t been said, so I just end up lurking most of the time. I do comment more than I’d usually do to help the platform, though that admittedly isn’t much.
Welcome! For me sometimes it’s just easier to scroll and move on, engaging takes more effort. Beyond that is the dread of worrying about what people will think/say in response.
I agree! And thanks for the welcome!
Not a problem, that’s what I’m here for! Be sure to give someone else a welcome whenever you have the chance! Keep the good vibes going around and encouraging people to stay active here.
