I don’t care what y’all think. Nothing about my food being hot or even warm makes it any better for me. I always burn tongue and even if I don’t, I really don’t enjoy rushing to swallow because my mouth is at risk of inflicting pain. Even when it’s slightly warm, I don’t like it. I want my food stone cold, no matter what the food is.
I always let my food cool down, not even to room temperature, I let it cool even longer and I eat everything stone cold. It lets me properly savor the flavor, without worrying about too much heat. Eating cold food for me is a relaxing experience, eating hot food is a panic-inducing one, and eating slightly warm food is boring, not any better than stone cold food. I’ll even gladly eat food straight out of the fridge and enjoy it! I’ve been called “crazy” and “perverse” for this many, many times.
I like my food stone cold and refuse to eat it even mildly warm, always letting it cool down way below room temperature. Screw what anyone thinks 😆
Unless he’s shoving it in your mouth he can’t force you. If he does, that’s physical abuse. If it’s verbal bullying, say something like “I don’t want to ruin everyone’s meal with this arguing. I’ll see you all later” and leave the room. If it’s a restaurant just don’t say anything, sit quietly with your slice cooling on your plate and let him embarrass himself by ranting at you in public.
You can just have salad for dinner
If the pizza is homemade, try “I can appreciate your cooking better if I haven’t burned my taste buds and I’m eating it at the temperature I prefer.” If it’s delivery, meet the guy outside and set your slice aside to cool.
Well…about that…
He pulls the pizza (frozen, store-bought) out of the oven, sets it on a wooden cutting board, and says “EAT” very loudly, in my general direction. I don’t, because it’s fucking hot, I can tell with just my fingers. When I tell him it’s too hot, he literally yells “EAT IT WHILE IT’S HOT” at me and seems…tbh, irrationally pissed off. When I protest further, he calls me “Perverse”. When he’s eating it himself…istg his mouth is already pre-burnt, because he’s clearly burning his mouth (watery eyes, strange slurping noises, ew), but he just keeps eating it? As soon as he sits down? Strange…
I can handle being yelled at (less so with HRT now), but when he does this to my brother, it really pisses me off. There is literally zero to be such a massive douchebag TOWARDS YOUR OWN CHILDREN nonetheless. It’s just…idk. He’s 78, I’m 20 and my brother is 16. Sure, there’s a huge generational difference, but I swear sometimes it feels like he’s from a different planet.
And he’s generally very progressive and liberal, but sometimes his brain’s “empathy center” shuts down and he goes full (pardon me) “logical man-mode”, where feelings don’t exist and the only thing that does is solving a problem, logically without considering anyone’s emotions. And he gets really monotone, he yells, he mocks people…he’s not fun to be around :/
But he also supports me financially, going to great lengths to ensure we have what we need. Without him, I wouldn’t be able to get bottom surgery in Thailand…
I’m really totally rambling, I’m sorry. Just need to get it out sometimes.