I had a bad habit of making “boredom noises” for years until someone pointed it out and I had to start working on it. Turns out the technical term is “verbal stimming” and it’s definitely tied to either of those.
I hear that, but I deserve for my nervous system to be regulated, too. Just because clicking a pen calms someone down doesn’t mean they should do it at the expense of everyone else’s focus in an office setting, and the same goes for all stims. Situational awareness isn’t something to discourage
It becomes less problematic over time. Without learning how to mask or developing coping skills, life will just be harder in the long run. My career would certainly be less successful if I did not develop coping skills. Burnout can be avoided by finding healthy outlets and enforcing personal time to relax and recover.
For me it’s been the opposite, the less I mask the more I actually end up with people and in environments where I am accepted and cherished for the person I am, not who I force myself to be to fit in. Trying to do that nearly killed me.
I had a bad habit of making “boredom noises” for years until someone pointed it out and I had to start working on it. Turns out the technical term is “verbal stimming” and it’s definitely tied to either of those.
It wasn’t a bad habit dude, it was just your natural way of regulating your nervous system
I hear that, but I deserve for my nervous system to be regulated, too. Just because clicking a pen calms someone down doesn’t mean they should do it at the expense of everyone else’s focus in an office setting, and the same goes for all stims. Situational awareness isn’t something to discourage
True, accomodations that fit everyone must be made, but they shouldn’t consider a natural reaction to being neurodivergent a “bad habit to quit”.
We all have to wear masks, my guy. It takes a lot of effort to not be “the weird guy” at work.
But does it, in the end, take less effort than constantly fighting yourself?
Life isn’t a choice between easy and hard, it’s mostly a choice between hard now or way harder later.
It becomes less problematic over time. Without learning how to mask or developing coping skills, life will just be harder in the long run. My career would certainly be less successful if I did not develop coping skills. Burnout can be avoided by finding healthy outlets and enforcing personal time to relax and recover.
For me it’s been the opposite, the less I mask the more I actually end up with people and in environments where I am accepted and cherished for the person I am, not who I force myself to be to fit in. Trying to do that nearly killed me.