Kickass fro bro
Me before ADHD meds
It’s not that I can’t clean. I clean up just fine when I have a hard deadline - my girlfriend is coming over, etc. When it’s just me and my thoughts I am perfectly fine living in filth. Not happy, but fine.
“I keep cutting but it’s still too short”
Currently on my way to work 3 hours late because of executive dysfunction.
Activation energy is a terrible thing.
If you don’t know where to start, organise something.
Set insanely small goals. The inability to start often has to do with imagining the daunting tasks that lay ahead of you. The trick is to set almost pathetically small goals.
Your room is filled with messy laundry? Grab 1 shirt and toss it into a pile. That’s it. You don’t need to do the laundry, you don’t need to gather any other clothes. Just 1 shirt, tossed into a pile that it wasn’t in before. I bet there’s one within arm reach of you right now.
Used dishes in your room? Aren’t you thirsty? Sure you are! You probably haven’t drank anything in a while. Go to the kitchen and get some water. While you’re on your way, why don’t you grab 1 dish and take it with you?
Momentum is a hell of a thing. Most of the time, all you need is something small to break your executive dysfunction. If you tossed 1 shirt into a pile, you might as well toss any clothing in arms reach. Those pants are just slightly out of reach, ok maybe you get up a little to toss those… And those socks… And maybe that shirt over there too. Suddenly, all your dirty clothes are gathered into a pile and it hardly took any time or energy. All it took was grabbing 1 shirt and tossing it.
And if you finish your insanely small task and you don’t feel like doing any more? That’s fine! You already met your goal! Hell, if you’ve got something you’re struggling with and have taken the time to read this, you’re already half-way there, because now you’re thinking about what the smallest, stupidest, zero-effort goal you can set is.
Are you ready for the most important piece of life advice that no one ever tells you growing up? Anything worth doing is worth doing shitty.
This is a really good way to tackle these things, and I wish I’d learnt about it earlier! I think I accidentally discovered it last year or the year before. I do that thing where the clean laundry will be moved from the computer chair to the bed and back depending on which I’m using and I’d put it off until the next laundry day.
So one day I told myself, just do the knickers and leave the rest for tomorrow.
And it works. So I’ve been using that ever since.
Although right now, the lot is still on my computer chair since Monday. I’ll do it later.
coffee.
the fucking laundry why is putting the laundry away so hard ITS CLEAN AND READY TO BE PUT AWAY JUST DO IT
I just stopped folding. Ain’t gonna happen. So my clothes are a little wrinkly in the morning.
I always just force myself to do it by dumping it on my bed so I can’t sleep until I did it.
Then I remember having a few drinks and staying up late and then looking at my bed so angry with myself … I did fold them all and put them away so I was kinda proud I did it but I was upset the entire time lol.
yeah so I also do that but then I still dont do it and move the pile to the floor, so now I have clean clothes on the floor that im not doing!
Your not doing the computer chair shuffle twice a day?
Because furniture is too freaking expensive. We all know we don’t have enough storage space for all your clean clothes so some of it gets left in the clean pile regardless.
That’s definitely not it. My wife has this issue. We have drawers and drawers, all empty - more than enough storage space. We also desperately need whatever baskets the clean clothes are occupying.
I once suggested that she make a rule for herself: fold every load before you add the next one. She just laughed.
I’ve even offered to take over the laundry 100%. I have no problem with that - I may just need to give her some of my things in return. (I do most of the dishes.) She does not want to do this, idk why
Uhh who gave you this photo of me and why are you posting it on the internet?
Hey fun fact: motivation doesn’t exist. It will not materialize out of thin air. The motivation you seek is discipline.
Go do the thing.
Thanks I’m cured
Hey another fun fact: that don’t fly for people with ADHD. We have this thing called task avoidance. Because of issues with executive function in the brain, we literally can’t get up and start no matter how much we’re screaming at ourselves in our head to “Get the fuck up and start already!!!”. No amount of discipline will make up for a lack of dopamine in the brain.
or take a pill. they’re magic for adhd
There is nothing fun about this supposed “fact”.
