A year ago I broke up with my gf of 8 years after finding out she cheated on me and had been for a long time.
I quite literally have zero friends remaining at this point. Every single mutual friend has stayed friends with her and completely ghosted me. I can only suspect I’ve been slandered and that’s why nobody wants anything to do with me anymore. I tried going to local shows as that was my community but it’s completely sucked the fun out of things because it’s a small city and there’s always eyes on me from different corners of the room like I’ve done something wrong and I don’t feel welcome anymore. So I’ve just stopped attending concerts which used to be my safe space. Standing by myself watching the band while people stare a hole in the side of my head isn’t exactly enjoyable.
My lived experience has now taught me that 90% of people are cheaters, liars, and thieves, and while I know that’s not reality, it’s fundamentally changed the way I approach friendships. I don’t open up to people anymore because I don’t trust anyone anymore.
I don’t think or care about my ex but the friends who ghosted me still cause daily intrusive thoughts. I don’t know why I’ve been abandoned. No closure and no way to defend myself. I never expected how much more it hurts to lose friends than it does to lose a partner.
I miss my friends but they’ve proven they don’t care about me so when they inevitably reach out to me there’s no way I’ll be able to forgive.
Probably I need to go back to therapy again but just curious if anyone has experienced similar.
OP your post history is public. The reason your friends abandoned you is because you raped your ex gf. Any other questions?
And to think you want a safe space. What a fucking joke.
Reread the comment it says he was falsely accused. Please demonstrate where it says he did it. Just because somebody’s accused of something doesn’t mean they’re automatically guilty.
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I’ve never hurt anyone before. That’s a really cruel comment
I guess it answers my question though. If the right person makes an accusation like that you can lose everything. And that’s why I’ll probably never get close to anyone ever again
Yeah my history is public and I’m proud of that comment because it wasn’t easy to write. I was heavily abused for years and the only person who cared and convinced me to get out was my sister.
You lied in the OP about the duration and circumstances. Was it 8 years, 10 years? Was it a normal breakup or did she accuse you of fucking rape? You’re clearly mispurporting your past and fishing for sympathy with a set of falsehoods. Exactly like a rapist would do.
Quite frankly, you disgust me. You’re playing a perfect victim when in reality you’ve been credibly accused of rape and everyone abandoned you exactly like they ought to. What is confusing?
Haha some of you people are absolute monsters. I was credibly accused? What?
Maybe I am fishing for sympathy here, because I don’t fuckin get any in real life that’s for sure