Every person I’ve ever met who participated in an “open relationship” became the target of profound jealousy, or became jealous themselves.
I think it sounds appealing; 🌈my partner and I love each other but our hearts are too big to only enjoy one person’s company🌈 then their partner sleeps with someone else and they get all shitty and bitter.
My experience has always been “Are you sure your partner is ok with this?” --> “Yes definitely” --> The partner becomes a shitty rage machine. I had a guy corner me at dinner with my friends and yell in public because he was so jealous. He agreed to the open relationship. He was a hypocrite. All three of us suffered because he couldn’t handle it. He should not have been in an open relationship.
That was the worst one but I think it applies to most people. It’s a pipe dream that they don’t have the emotional maturity to actualize.
I have known long term swingers (not polyamory just recreational sex) and settled threesomes, and friends who swapped but only with one couple who were friends. Also guys who just really liked their wives to fuck others, one-way swingers, sort of.
But agree with the consensus, it’s really hard to go from monogamous to anything else, like it’s possible to HAVE an open relationship but maybe not to open an existing one.