Two for me:

  1. The moment you feel tipsy it’s time to ease down. You have a stomach full of booze that’s going to make you more drunk even if you stop immediately.

  2. If you think people are good, you’re probably right and if you think people are bad, you’re probably right.

People are good IMO.

      • 18107@aussie.zoneEnglish
        4·
        4 months ago

        Don’t livestream your crimes while in a group of people committing crimes.

      • ChexMax@lemmy.world
        8·
        4 months ago

        If you’ve got something illegal in your car, make sure you don’t have a broken tail light.

        If your license is expired, don’t speed.

        Don’t Jay walk while high.

        Basically the cops catch you on the less bad thing, and that’s how they are able to catch you on the second thing. They need a reasonable suspicion to stop you.

        • Caveman@lemmy.world
          5·
          4 months ago

          I see, it’s about flying under the radar if you’re up to something illegal. That makes a lot of sense for something like having weed in the car.

  • gazter@aussie.zone
    32·
    4 months ago

    I work in an environment that can have some tight timeline, high stress moments. People often deal with this with a kind of controlled panic- “Hi. This thing is not working.” “Fuck, this is not working, quick, try that thing! Argh! Not working either! Oh no, shits fucked. Shit… Ok, try the other thing! Fuck, call Gary, they might know what to do!”

    Then I worked with a person who had this totally different approach. When shit hit the fan, they just super calmly looked around, and said “That’s a bit boring.” Just that phrase shifted my whole perspective on the industry. Just treat the problem as a minor annoyance, and you’ll see that it’s rarely worth getting panicked about.

    The other thing they taught me- no matter how urgent it is, never run. Running makes it look like we fucked up. And we don’t fuck up, we just have the next thing that needs to be fixed.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
      8·
      4 months ago

      no matter how urgent it is, never run. Running makes it look like we fucked up. And we don’t fuck up, we just have the next thing that needs to be fixed.

      Fake calm to be calm. Nice.

    • dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world
      4·
      4 months ago

      I get the approach here, but unfortunately, this is impressively hard to do without a (fiscal) safety net.

      I agree that it is wise to push out panic-inducing thoughts; mindfulness and all that. That’s not always possible when professional failure equates unemployment and the possible crippling poverty that follows. In my experience, employers do a garbage job at pointing out where the guardrails are, and what the bar is for dismissal, going as far as refusing to put anyone on a PIP before letting them go. Many people are in countless pressure-cookers like this, perpetually on the edge of their seats if they’re paying any attention at all.

      From all that I take this advice to boil down to: Practice mindfulness, ease, and inner-peace, especially when the shit hits the fan. You can’t control the consequences, but you’ll recover better if you keep your head.

  • Andy@slrpnk.net
    31·
    4 months ago

    Get ready, because this is kind of cheesy stuff, but these two pieces of sports advice, taken together, have guided me for years.

    First: a mentor of mine who was a pool shark taught me that when you’re playing pool, there is always a best shot to take. Sometimes, when you’ve got no good options in front of you you want to just do nothing or quit. But no matter what, billiards offers a finite set of options of where to try and aim the cue, and if you rank them from best to worst, there is always a best. When you’re in a bad situation, you find it and you take the best option. Often, that’s either a harm reduction strategy, a long-shot that feels impossible, or a combo of both. But if you always do this you’ll usually suffer far less harm in the aggregate, and if you take enough long shots you’ll occasionally achieve a few incredibly improbable wins.

    Second: A kayaking instructor taught me – and this I’m told is true in many similar sports – you go where your focus is, so to evade a problem, focus on the way past. If you see a rock, don’t stare it it, you’ll hit it. It doesn’t matter if your brain is thinking “I gotta go anywhere except that rock!” If you’re looking at, you’re heading into it. If you don’t want to hit the rock, instead you have to look at wherever it is you DO want to go. It takes a bit of practice, because your brain sees “rock!” more easily than “smooth water flowing between two rocks”. But that’s how you get down a river, and it’s also how you work through almost any other problems in life that are rushing at you: don’t focus ON them, focus on whatever is the preferred alternative. This is especially useful if the alternative is sort of a non-thing, like an empty gap between two problems. And it often is.

    Taken together, you get the basic approach that has steered my problem solving throughout adulthood. And it really works.

    • nikosey@lemmy.world
      12·
      4 months ago

      i took a motorcycle class where they also taught us that second one too: focus on where you want to go, not on what you want to avoid.

      i hadn’t considered it in a broader context until your post, but you’re right it works

    • Mr Fish@lemmy.world
      11·
      4 months ago

      I like that your first one doesn’t imply that you always need to find a good option, you only need to look for the best. Sometimes all of your options are bad, and in any other situation you’d never go for them.

  • knight_alva@lemmy.world
    21·
    4 months ago

    Idk who said them first but I’ll never forget the men who gave me these two things:

    • You are never out of options until you choose to stop looking for them.

    And

    • Money comes and money goes but it is never worth fighting about. (The guy who gave me this one was going through an awful divorce and had a lot of regrets about how he handled things. I think that context matters here.)
  • SolarBoy@slrpnk.netEnglish
    19·
    4 months ago

    When you feel uncomfortable, just let it be there. Dont try to push it away, feel it.

    • Echinoderm@aussie.zoneEnglish
      10·
      4 months ago

      Mine is similar. A barrister once told me that you should be nervous before an important event like an interview or court appearance. If you aren’t, all it means is that you aren’t taking it seriously.

  • Brkdncr@lemmy.world
    17·
    4 months ago

    “I shouldn’t have saved so much”. Said a friend a generation older than me. He retired when he realized he didnt need to work any more and that he wasn’t going to burn through all of his money. He said he would have rather spent it while he was younger and enjoy it.

  • 18107@aussie.zoneEnglish
    16·
    4 months ago

    I you want to do something, you’ll find a way.
    If you don’t want to, you’ll find an excuse.

    Sometimes I’m finding reasons not to do something (like exercise), and have to remember to stop looking for excuses and start looking for solutions.

  • rice_nine@lemmy.world
    161·
    4 months ago

    When someone shows you who they are, believe it the first time.

    Also, if everyone you meet is nice, it’s because you’re a nice person. Conversely, if you think everyone’s an asshole, you’re the asshole.

    • khannie@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      4·
      4 months ago

      Your second one ties right into my second one in the OP :)

      The first one, I have a rule: I don’t mind if you’re a cunt to me occasionally. We’re all a cunt occasionally. As long as you come back to me and apologise it shows me that you’ve considered your behaviour and who knows what caused it.

      If you don’t, I’ll cut you out of my life like the fat off a pork chop.

  • SlippiHUD@lemmy.worldEnglish
    14·
    4 months ago

    “Slow is smooth and smooth is fast”

    This has helped me learn nearly every physical skill I know.

  • Today@lemmy.world
    151·
    4 months ago

    Two from my mom-

    I cut; you chose.

    If a boy will cheat with you he will cheat on you.

  • LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world
    14·
    4 months ago

    “Like your job. Love your wife.” - Dell from Trains, Planes, and Automobiles. You can generalize that to say, your job is just a means to an end. Don’t work a job you hate, but look elsewhere for true fulfillment in life.

  • silverlightBeing@lemmy.ml
    13·
    4 months ago

    “Stairs are lots of little floors which makes it easier to get between the bigger floors” - Philomena Cunk

    “The good things won’t be as good and the bad things won’t be as bad as the mind lead you to believe.” (Unknown source)