Growing up there was very much a mantra of you don’t know how to fuck unless you’ve fucked a bunch of random people.
Which could be true if using another body to masturbate is the same as fucking.
It turns out many women are coded to experience pleasure most when they feel safe. This doesn’t apply to every women and that doesn’t mean you can’t experiment consensually but a ONS is really not conducive to immersive pleasure in my opinion.
There was a lot of we need to confirm sexual chemistry before a relationship too. I personally find building something with a person (from as little as a small commitment to life itself) to be a force multiplier behind intimacy, elevating it from hopeful ember to an all consuming flame of passion, satisfaction and fulfillment.
I prefer building a relationship, exploring affection and intimacy and then sexual exploration. Is it masculine? Depends who you ask. But if it isn’t then the problem lies in how we define masculinity in my view.
Never related to hookup culture.
Growing up there was very much a mantra of you don’t know how to fuck unless you’ve fucked a bunch of random people.
Which could be true if using another body to masturbate is the same as fucking.
It turns out many women are coded to experience pleasure most when they feel safe. This doesn’t apply to every women and that doesn’t mean you can’t experiment consensually but a ONS is really not conducive to immersive pleasure in my opinion.
There was a lot of we need to confirm sexual chemistry before a relationship too. I personally find building something with a person (from as little as a small commitment to life itself) to be a force multiplier behind intimacy, elevating it from hopeful ember to an all consuming flame of passion, satisfaction and fulfillment.
I prefer building a relationship, exploring affection and intimacy and then sexual exploration. Is it masculine? Depends who you ask. But if it isn’t then the problem lies in how we define masculinity in my view.