Be it a personality quirk, something they’re wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

  • python@lemmy.world
    9·
    6 days ago

    Unapologetic intellectual curiosity! I absolutely love being around people who love learning new things and who get excited to find out more when they discover a new topic.
    It’s one of the first qualities that really stood out when I first met my husband - in a University lecture with 1000 people, he just nonchalantly sat down in the frontmost row because that’s where he could hear the professor the best and ask questions. No shyness or awkwardness about it, which I found incredibly inspiring for some reason! I usually hid in one of the back rows because I was massively overthinking everything and afraid that the professor might call me out when he sees me not paying attention.

  • HollowV@lemmy.world
    4·
    5 days ago

    The ability to not give a fuck about what others think about them, showing people close to them that they care about them and tries to help out anyway that they can, showing appreciation when someone does something for them.

    I see these qualities in my (guy) friend which is why I had a crush on him. Also he kinda looks like Leon Kennedy sooo…👀

      • HollowV@lemmy.world
        1·
        5 days ago

        I told him that I liked him more than a friend a couple months ago. Ended in a friend-zone 💀 . We both agreed that it’s best for us to be just friends because of timing. He works a lot and does school full time, so he’s not gonna be able to prioritize me. I (still) find him attractive, but he helped me dodge a bullet in saving me from another heartbreak.

  • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
    61·
    6 days ago

    It is confidence. It is always always always confidence. Close the thread there’s your answer for everything.

    • weeeeum@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      5 days ago

      But then you run into the dunning kruger effect. Way too many assholes and idiots with obscene amounts of it

  • ChexMax@lemmy.world
    8·
    7 days ago

    A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I’m smitten.

    Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.

    • null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      1·
      6 days ago

      How do you feel if someone who is not medium attractive winks at you?

      Or if they just say something weird, like a joke you don’t appreciate, and wink at you?

      I guess there has to be some kind of established not-a-creepy-stranger before risking a wink becomes appropriate.

      • ChexMax@lemmy.world
        2·
        6 days ago

        Physically unattractive, but a good wink would still pique my interest, but it’s never happened to me. Winking is kind of rare. It’s like proof that they’re fast, clever, and confident, and that they desire a rapport with me.

        Yes, the wink has to be paired with something clever, or wise, or nice. Some kind of friendly banter. You’d have to be already attractive to wink out of the blue, but if you’re already attractive and you wink, I’d probably like that too. It’s conveying interest. It’s conspiratorial and playful.

  • jaycifer@lemmy.world
    6·
    7 days ago

    Instantly? It’s a somewhat vague term, but magnanimity, having “loftiness of spirit.” To me, it means that when they enter a room they carry a subtle gravity. Their eyes are focused on what and who is around them, taking in each in turn with a clear understanding of what they see but a respect for what they don’t. A trim smile that welcomes greetings and promises warm words in return. They breathe with the calm ease of someone healthy and comfortable in their own skin, and with each step they appear to not just approach their physical destination, but their own personal fulfillment.