• shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        6 days ago

        I’m 5’8" and I’ve knocked it out the park with women. Weirdly, maybe did better when I was young and totally broke.

        • boonhet@sopuli.xyz
          2·
          6 days ago

          I definitely did better in my late teens and early 20s when I was broke compared to my late 20s with money, where I only landed a gold digger. Will see how it goes in my 30s as broke again, think I’ll have to start off losing some weight though. In freedom units, stress has put me at about 300 lbs of eastern European bear at 5’10". Back when that number was 220, I used to do single handed push ups and could do about 20-30 pull ups easily, which I think should roughly give an idea of my body type back then: never fit or thin, but rather, visibly strong. “Built like a brick shithouse” is a term that has actually been used to describe me.

  • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
    6·
    6 days ago

    But don’t stay TOO far away, otherwise you can still be a victim of arrows. There is in ideal distance to THAT GUY to minimize your arrow related risks.

  • YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
    3·
    5 days ago

    I think ‘that guy’ is phenomenally successful due to the weird and wildly superficial dating world tech has created.

    I’m quite fortunate as I met my wife before the apps had taken over. Other than being reasonably tall and having a pulse, I am far from being that handsome dude.

    But I did ok as I was brought up around women and have always used humour as a crutch since I was a kid, which I found women were responsive to when I grew up.

    I doubt I’d have attracted any attention in the online dating world with my beer belly and average face.

  • MrMakabar@slrpnk.netEnglish
    3·
    6 days ago

    Gigachads like Elon Musk attract all the ladies. They all want to kill him with arrows…

  • starchylemming@lemmy.world
    2·
    6 days ago

    no, the low quality arrow attraction field just has a maximum capacy of 9. i just sticked with arrow 9 instead of getting the costly upgrade to the next level.

  • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    32·
    6 days ago

    LOL, dating isn’t hard for guys. You think guys have it rough, you should hear it from the girl’s point of view. Jesus fucking Christ. These women must be horny as hell to even keep trying with some y’all. I should start a “dating tips for guys” comm.

    For background; I’m 5’8", 140lbs. soaking wet, been broke most of my life (am now), no real prospects, no fancy cars, nothing. I take care of my health and hygiene, mostly, dress well (nice clothes are stupid cheap, nearly free and comfortable) and have a decent attitude towards the opposite sex. I drink loads of light beer every day, but I’m not dancing on tables or angry drunk, ever.

    Look in the mirror and ask yourself why a woman might want you. You know you got flaws. What can you fix? Start fixing those things. Baby steps. Can you polish up your teeth? Lose some fat or gain some tone? Better haircut? Dress nicer? Got any interesting hobbies? And your interests don’t have to be attractive. Having a passion is interesting in itself.

    What can you do? You know damned well you can do better. I’ve met very few humans I considered “maxed out” on attractiveness stats. (OK, strippers are kinda cheating, they know what they’re doing.)

    And keep in mind, no one out there is judging you harder than yourself. Posted this a while back. Read it for yourself. Point being, I inadvertently saw myself from the outside, and I was surprised.

    I’ll give you a pro-tip; A great first date question is, “Tell me about a fucked up first date.” Listen, learn, don’t be that guy. Some of these women had me laughing out loud. SERIOUSLY?! And have a good story of your own! You know you got one.

    OK, one more; Join these dating sites as a woman looking for a man. Read the men’s sad-sack profiles, look at their pictures, and don’t be that guy. Dead animals and fancy motor vehicles ain’t gonna turn anyone on. And FFS, stop with the, “I’m a really nice guy and just want to find true love.” No. Yeah, they want love too, but they’re not interested in being your mother.

    Tried that on PoF before I met my second wife. Jesus y’all, I felt awful for my gender. I really mean that. I was actually sad, really felt for those guys. But I didn’t want to fuck them. Can’t imagine how turned off the women must be, but they got stories.