Nope. I usually think “I should go out more” and then when I’m still recovering two days later I think “Ah, this is why I don’t go out more.”
And when you look at your bank account the next day
Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
If I don’t look at my account online, does it even really exist?
If an empty bank account is unobserved, is it truly empty?
The amount of money I don’t have remains the same, does it not?
Banks charging you for not having enough in your bank account, then “protecting” you from that overdraft for 40 dollars tells us an empty bank account contains approximately -100 dollars.
Yep. It’s somewhat ingrained in UK culture, at least for people of my gen. I’m 48 this weekend, and plan on staying in with my fam and maybe having a few beers. But that’s only because I’m off for a city break with friends next week to see The Beta Band and basically eat and drink for 2 days. Can’t wait.
At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What’s the point?
Why would you ever go to parties with shitty music? The goal is to go to parties where the djs are good and playing music you like.
The parties with shitty music where everyone is getting shitfaced are for hooking up, that’s the primary goal for those and for the people that attend them. If that’s not your goal you’re obviously not gonna enjoy it.
If you want to go out to dance to good music, there’s also parties for that, where people might drink but no one is getting shitfaced. People might be getting high in other ways, but still, no one is getting shitfaced.
And idk, is it really crazy to understand why human beings, a species that evolved for millions of years to be the most social species outside of insects, would enjoy going to social events…?
You might just be ND, and that’s fine. But it’s really like 0 brain effort to try to understand this.
I literally answered the post question, i don’t know why you got so passionate about this. Read my other comment if you’re curious, i enjoy different social events…
Omg 🤓
This is the THE most terminally online dork response I’ve ever seen.
I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass for me
That’s fine. I even somewhat agree with you. However, acting like you are above doing what millions of people enjoy is some real dork shit.
Spent my 20s in bars all over the place. I remember several times, sitting in a new place, thinking, “I’ve been here 100 times already.”
Now that I hardly go to bars, my wife and I like to hit a dive now and again. Apparently they don’t have shitty places quite like that in the Philippines. She gets so cute and happy, totally novel experience for her. And if they have karaoke? Game. On.
That feeling of all the bars being so similar was an early prelude to stopping going out all the time for me. I always thought it was weird that I never missed something I spent 5 - 7 days a week doing for over a decade. When the novelty wore off it was so easy to just never go back.
Now that I’m older, and laid off the bar scene for a decade+, it’s like coming home. Still, only fun a couple of times a year. And now I don’t smoke, and we can’t smoke inside, so I’m not coughing my lungs out the next morning.
It sounds like your wife just likes to party! Cuz I can assure you Manilla is filled with shitty dive bars too haha. It’s just also filled with amazing people who love to love and love to party. Filipinas rock! You two must have so much fun
LOL, I assumed so! And she’s from Manila! Seems redneck dive bars are novel for some reason. And despite the bars we’ve hit being full-on poor rednecks, no one blinks at the Asian chick, everyone very nice.
We haven’t been for awhile. The one we like just can’t stay in business for long. Too far outside town, and we’re on the edge, but not far enough to be the only bar.
You’ve inspired me to take her out tomorrow night! We’re broke, but we can blow a bit on pool and beers.
yes!! Live!!
Every. Single. Time.
Never be scared to duck out early from something that is not fulfilling. I’ve left group gatherings to go hiking solo because it was more enjoyable.
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I mean posing the question like that is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, no?
On the other hand, as neurodivergent this hits everytime I leave the house.
Last Sunday. A friend asked me to go with him to town, normally I say no but I figured I would just because I usually don’t.
We went to town and went to a store. As we were about to leave, his truck wouldn’t start. (The starter was fried.) Ended up having to walk a mile and a half to his nephew’s place, then got a ride back to my friend’s truck, towed it to his brother’s shop, and after borrowing some tools I ended up pulling the starter off a car in the middle of a field, and installing it in his truck so we could finally head back home.
What was supposed to be an enjoyable hour or so ended up taking most of the afternoon and I ended up covered in oil and mud and sore as hell by the time I finally got back to my house.
Yes. And I don’t entirely understand why most other people don’t.
Most of the time I have the opposite. I dread going out, and hope that the plans get canceled. But when I’m there I really do enjoy it, and I’m glad I didn’t pussy out.
Never but I say “this is why I don’t party for 24+ hours”. A good party or event shouldn’t overstay its welcome as experience quickly declines once everyone tires out and start making mistakes and get into intoxicated/tired arguments.
Nope, though occasionally I will think “this wasn’t the best choice today” (usually because I’m much more tired than I thought I’d be when commiting to going out).
Being poor will do that.
Liking the destination or specific people you’re with really has to outweigh the crowds, the effort and the cost to be remotely worth it and that’s exceedingly rare.
Occasional game nights/potlucks with friends and family though can be nice.
Every. Single. Time.
All the fucking time.
