Hey I got my first pet and since its my first pet I don’t know really know how to show my love to her, so far she really hates getting touched.

Any advise would be lovely

  • DominusOfMegadeus
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    478 days ago

    Yep. Don’t try to force her to be affectionate. Just be around, and be non-threatening, annd mostly ignore her, and be the source of food, and soon she will grow to trust you.

    • Geetnerd
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      258 days ago

      New cat owner rules:

      No sudden movements. No loud noises. Allow them to come to you. Pet them gently. Accept your fate, resistance is futile.

  • @residentoflaniakea@discuss.tchncs.de
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    228 days ago

    What other posters said, respond with the blinking. My son calls them eye kisses. It shows trust. In case you’re unfamiliar: you look at her and slowly close your eyes for a second. She might mirror it. Facing a fierce predator such as the one you pictured and confronting it willingly blinded, even for a second, takes courage. She’ll honour it most likely. Also food and clean water, preferably placed in separate locations.

  • @myliltoehurts@lemm.ee
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    Aside from what’s already been said, you can try playing with her as well with toys that keep you at a distance from her. E.g. stick with a cord on it and some toy on the end of the cord or something similar.

    Try just moving it around in front of her to get her interest, then let it stay still for 5-10s to see if she’s interested in hunting it (if she goes flat on the ground, wiggles her butt or her head at it she’s preparing to pounce). Don’t let her get it easily but let her catch it before the end of playtime.

    Some cats will appreciate it more than food, others won’t - they each have their preferences.

    If she doesn’t engage and doesn’t seem to be interested in the toy at all, just let her be.

  • Vik
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    8 days ago

    I don’t have a lot of experience with cats specifically, but pets need time to get used to a new home. This can take up to three months.

    If this is day one, give them some space, blink slowly at them; let them know you’re gentle and there if needed.

  • @Excrubulent@slrpnk.net
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    I’ve always had a lot of success with holding out my hand towards the cat, palm down, limp, and allowing the cat to inspect it in their own time.

    I’ve heard this is also a technique from experts, but I just found it when we had a cat. It seems to work on dogs too.

    It’s non-threatening, and it doesn’t put any pressure on them for a response. Just get it close enough to be just outside their personal space. If they stretch their nose towards it to sniff, you can bring it closer, and then you may just get the coveted nose bump and cheek nuzzle.

    You may also get the, “what are you doing, you freak, leave me alone” body language, in which case you just have to wait and try again later.

  • @JuxtaposedJaguar@lemmy.ml
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    37 days ago

    Sleep (or pretend to sleep) in her vicinity. She’ll feel more comfortable to check you out and become more familiar with you. Just. Don’t. Move.

  • @hoch@lemmy.world
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    Just give her space and time to adjust to being around you. If she’s motivated by food, treats can help. Congrats!

  • @Nikls94@lemmy.world
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    27 days ago

    It’s bold of you to assume you own the cat. She owns you. You are her servant.

    Jokes aside, my two oxytocin reactors love liquid snacks.

  • Geetnerd
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    18 days ago

    Welcome to servitude. And you’ll like it, or else…