What really made my stomach turn is that my Aunt had a smile on her face. At first I took it as maybe she’s trying to stay positive about the situation or having some odd nervous reaction but it was a huge huge smile as if she won the lottery. My grandma was not well off by any means so I highly doubt she had much in her will and my uncle was clearly not smiling in the picture.
She was also extremely unempathetic when my dad passed away during my mid 20s, telling me I need to man up and do better in life. I was working, in a relationship and doing my best to help my mom out. Am I overreacting or does she come off as a full blown sociopath?
I had to gently tell my mom to stop fucking posting pictures of me intubated at the hospital and various other states of literally dying on facebook, not only because I didn’t consent, but also because that shit is weird. Never mind that if that had ended up being the end, I don’t want my hairy man boobs to be the last thing people see of me.
Did they throw up a peace sign?
Your aunt sounds awful though.
You prick, I was just about to put my phone down and you made me laugh
My paternal grandma died last year. And my dad remarried in 2017.
Not really enough time for his new wife to establish much rapport.
Dad had always been a Mama’s boy and lived most all of his life clinging to his mom’s skirts anyway.
Yet when grandma died it was the new wife who casually sent me a picture taken with her phone of my grandma’s corpse in the hospital bed.
Horrifying, and very inappropriate. All of this is to say that I can relate to your situation and no, you aren’t overreacting.
Thank you, I’m sorry you have crazy relatives too
Regardless of your aunts motives, you are allowed to feel the way you feel, and to speak up about it. Best that can happen is she’ll understand and apologize, worst is she’ll be ashamed and defensive.
She’s not one to apologize so I just didn’t say anything. Mostly out of shock and grief at the time.
“I was really quite shocked and appalled by the picture you sent after grandma passed away. I especially wonder why you’d be smiling like you were. What was going through your mind/what were you thinking?”
Would be a very valid question in my opinion, asked in an adult way.
Maybe one day
When my grandparents were in hospital all my aunts and even my mom started taking pictures of them in the bed hospital. They both were alive by the time, but it was clearly not a good situation (both died short after). I felt grossed that they were taking photos of them in that state. But their reasoning was to take as many photos as possible while they were alive.
People do weird things.
Grief makes people do weird things and pictures can be misleading. That said, this is creepy as fuck and you should trust your gut if you ever feel unsafe around her.
Not so much unsafe but more disgusted
Yep that’s weird.
My aunt asked us to do the same thing when my father passed away. I was too emotional to decline, but yes it’s fucking weird
