Hi everyone, I am looking for an encrypted messaging service to start using and recommending to my friends and family, I really want to get this right the first time. At the moment I’m looking at using matrix I really like it’s bridges and federated nature, Although I’m not 100% sure about it’s ux.

What I want to ask is what messaging service do you use and do you have any regrets with it? What encrypted messaging service would you recommended?

Edit: I just had another question are any of the bridges in matrix end to end encrypted? If person A used matrix and person B used signal could person A use a bridge to talk to person B securely?

Edit 2: thanks for all the responses guys it looks like signal seams like the best option since it has really good security like many other messaging apps but it’s also easy to use.

  • I’ve used Signal since it first came out as TextSecure like 10+ years ago.

    It doesnt have fancy bells or whistles, but its work well for me and good enough that ive gotten elderly family members to use it too

  • @LambdaRX@sh.itjust.works
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    Signal for security standard and ease of use, which is essential, if You want to use it with non techy people.

    Simplex for anonymity, You can download it, share chat and start talking without registration.

    • calm.like.a.bomb
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      13 months ago

      Simplex for anonymity, You can download it, share chat and start talking without registration.

      It ate my battery when I installed it. Do you use it on a daily basis? What’s your experience with its battery consumption?

      • @HotCoffee@lemm.ee
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        23 months ago

        Have it on always on, with small scale friends and family use. Don’t find it too draining, updates have improved the battery usage

      • @LambdaRX@sh.itjust.works
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        Sadly, I have no one to use with it, so I don’t know about battery usage. I just like, that it doesn’t require any external identifiers, unlike Signal.

  • Rav Sha'ul
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    133 months ago

    I will second the others that only suggest Signal or a variant of Signal like Langis or Molly. Everybody has each other’s phone numbers, go with Signal so people don’t need any other contact information.

  • dblsaiko
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    Personally I’d go with Signal. Matrix has a certain jank level IME, for example rooms can get desynced between homeservers and the only way to fix is to create a new room and abandon the old one. Not sure how often that happens for small scale use though, I’ve only seen it in large rooms.

  • @CuffsOffWilly@lemmy.ml
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    103 months ago

    I just moved to Signal and have convinced most of my family and many friends to join. It is very secure, non-profit and doesn’t share much personal data (the least of the main messaging services) and most of my luddite family has been able to figure it out.

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    No bridges are not end 2 end encrypted. The best you can do is host the server and bridge in your own home and thus have the bridge “end” in a secure location.

    If your friends and family are not very technical, then Matrix is probably a bad idea as it tends to be quite in your face about all sorts of technical issues especially with the encryption keys and so on. It works ok usually once everything is set up though.

    XMPP is IMHO the better option as the mobile apps are easier to understand and the e2ee usually works out of the box and stays out of the way unless you specifically want to mess around with it. For a friends & family server I recommend setting up https://snikket.org/ or rent a server from them cheaply.

    There are also good bridges for XMPP, but setting them up requires more understanding of self-hosting.

    • @kixik@lemmy.ml
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      I second xmpp + omemo, and would caution that as far as I can remember matrix leaks significant metadata when syncing between instances/services.

      As a personal decision I got away from signal (molly in fact) more than a year ago.

      I’m also keep jami working with my family, particularly for things not requiring immediate response. It’s a different beast, since it’s p2p, but there’s no server associated to it, no matter if decentralized or not. It’s easy as well, just not as responsive, in particular if looking for immediate responses… I like and keep both, hoping jami improves.

  • Dessalines
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    43 months ago

    Matrix, xmpp, simplex. Do not use Signal or any service with centralized servers hosted in a 5 eyes country.

    • marcie (she/her)
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      Seconding simplex. Having a built in way to obfuscate IP is very nice. But its more for privacy extremism and small group chats for people in vulnerable situations, matrix is best for most situations e.g. community and interest groups. I also had some ease with setting up simplex with my grandma, funny enough. Not needing to make an account made it much easier for her.

      Hope Lemmy gets a simplexchat field one day!

  • marcie (she/her)
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    Signal for your family (mostly due to interface), Matrix for online communities, and SimplexChat if you’re trying to be a privacy extremist. I did have some success with setting simplexchat up for some old people over the phone because they didn’t need an account.

  • @Gayhitler@lemmy.ml
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    33 months ago

    People will dislike this:

    The most basic one with little barrier to entry is imessage. Theres a good chance your friends and family already have it and with a few setting changes (no sms fallback, set icloud recovery key, probably some stuff I forgot) you’re damn near at parity with signal.

    All without dad having to download a new app onto his phone and make a new identity!

    Of course you’ll need signal or something for people who don’t use it.

    I use that combination and it’s excellent. If you can be on imessage with someone you’re good and everything works, if not you do signal.

    There will be people you gotta use sms with. They just won’t be able or willing to do something new. Sometimes there’s an equipment problem, their super old provider version of android can’t get an app you both agree on. Sometimes they’re using a Nokia.

    Interacting with sms often may help keep you on your toes about it. I know I’m more careful over text now.

    That combination, imessage and signal, also has a benefit of reducing the chances that you’ll broadcast an awareness of and desire for privacy and security to the whole world all the time.

    In the us, there’s a 50% chance you just look like a normal person and that’s nothing to sneeze at.

    Make sure it meets your needs of course

    • @jkYkM7a@lemmy.ml
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      13 months ago

      If you’re on Android, as well, look into BlueBubbles. It bridges iMessage from a MacOS system to most any device/OS. I’ve used it for years now with my partner’s family with very little issue (all of which were resolved with a restart).

      Hard part is getting a MacOS system. I started with a VM, but eventually landed on a ~$100 Mac Mini 2014. Both solutions worked well, but the former is against Apple’s TOS and requires spoofing things, so it’s ultimately much less reliable than actual hardware.

    • @pineapple@lemmy.mlOP
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      Sorry but there is no way I’m using imessages so many people I know have an android phone so that just won’t work. It’s closed source, has no encryption at all when contacting anyone who doesn’t have an iphone. And it’s apple, and apple sucks. iMessages is half the reason why I became anti capitalist it’s such a great example of the pitfalls of capitalism.

      • @Gayhitler@lemmy.ml
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        13 months ago

        No worries, I didn’t see that you were looking for open source or anything.

        Are you mostly worried about the compromised American cell (and by implication other nations 👀) network or something else?