And in case you haven’t been paying attention, the Trump fascists want to undo all that with Project 2025.
Of course they want no fault divorce gone. They want their spouses stuck with them and unable to flee from the insanity.
They are populated by a lot of misogynistic and sexually frustrated guys trying so hard to overcompensate what little manliness they think they have. The kind that think it’s OKAY for THEM to cheat but not the other way around.
There was a dude from TikTok recently that’s going to get sentenced for life for murdering his wife and someone she was seeing. His reason? He tried using provocation and his emotional instability as the reason. Like, fuck you dude, you’re insecure and you didn’t use your brain power to divorce and dump her but instead you got to go and kill her?
Now imagine that shit amplified if Republicans or Trump get into office. Women left and right would not only be imprisoned in relationships or even marriages to guys that presumably lied about themselves to get their way with these women. But now guys would have practical immunity if they even think the woman they’re dating with is cheating to kill them.
Yeah I actually came across this statistic in this article about those guys wanting to make divorce much harder, which linked to the study: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2024/05/no-fault-divorce-gop-republicans-mainstream-podcast-dudes/
In addition to the men who are pushing these laws are the women who have bought into the same misogyny and support women being forced to stay in marriage. Frequently the same women who oppose abortion rights.
It is primarily men, but they wouldn’t be successful without that support.
The fact that there are women who support this bullshit is something my mind can’t comprehend. Are they sociopaths, sycophants, brainwashed… or all of the above? I try to be mindfully empathetic and attempt to understand differing opinions even if i disagree…but I really struggle with this one. I just can’t get there.
Ok, so I know this is about the most obvious suggestion possible on this subject, but if you haven’t, and if you get a chance, read The Handmaid’s Tale and its sequel, The Testaments.
They both have some really fascinating portrayals of women being or becoming complicit in the oppression of other women by a male-dominated system (while still also being oppressed themselves - their complicity is often a way of surviving in that system).
They’re obviously not the be all and end all of the subject, but they really made me think about the kind of people you’re describing, because I have (and still do) often felt the same - how can they do these things to other women?
Thank you for the suggestion! I’ve been meaning to read handmaid’s tale, and I didn’t know there was a sequel. I’ll have to get them as audio books to listen to at work. Anything to help me understand what’s going through their heads.
No problem, and I’m thrilled to have recommended it to someone who hasn’t read it yet! :-)
The sequel is good, but not as good as the original IMO. The original is magnificent. Devastating at times, but definitely one to read.
There’s no ‘want’ to it.
They already have. Idaho got away with criminalizing abortion, which means 2/3 of the states will do the same next session, just like how 2/3 of the states still allow for you to be paid $7 an hour.
In the absence of a true opposition party, the wolves are feasting.
“bUt DeMs SaMe!”
-some white kid trying to excuse themselves from their civic duty
That’s the thing.
You used to be able to count on Democrats to fight for social issues, at least. The Dems we have now are only concerned with increasing their own wealth, and that was very well-evidenced by their response to the Roe vs Wade leaks. Do you recall their response? They used it to fundraise and did nothing else. ($80,000,000 was the cost of your rights to bodily autonomy, in case you’re curious.)
And now 2/3 of the states will get away with criminalizing abortion within another year or two, tops.
I remember when, in his first SOTU, Joe Biden mocked the Defund The Police movement, and called for increased police funding, even though the police are overtly fascist in most of the country and we all had just watched them proudly execute a man in the streets.
Now he’s sending more bombs to Israel.
If you’re telling yourself the Dems are the answer, I think you’re just asleep at the wheel here.
It’s infuriating to listen to people talk about lack of divorce (in certain cultures, times, etc) thinking it means a successful marriage.
Many states will not allow a divorce if the woman is pregnant, it’s a twisted cycle of abuse and control.
A study recently published in the Journal of the American College of Surgeons found that states that restricted abortion access from 2018 to 2020 had a 75 percent higher rate of peripartum homicide — people who were killed while pregnant or in their first year after giving birth — than states without restrictions. The same trend did not hold in homicide rates for men.
Just like the pieces of shit that rail about “No fault divroce destroying the family”, Restrictions on the bodily autonmy of women leads only to death and misery, I refuse to call those people “pro-life” or “pro-family”, they are simply anti-womens rights.
How is divorce a matter of consent?
Traditionally both parties had to agree to get divorced if there had not been some “grounds” for the divorce that could be proved in court. That’s why the classic business for old timey private detectives was proving that their client’s spouse was committing adultery in order to legally justify a divorce.
So women having rights killed an entire genre
Edit Noir is the genre
Well idk if I would say that, it was just a classic trope. Noir is very much alive and defined by not having any “good” charcters, just lots of shades of gray quasi heroes. “Nightcralwer”, “Emily the Criminal” and “Girl with the dragon tattoo” movies are great examples of modern noir. That trope is just dated, but also still used in sci-fi like Blade Runner.
Can I throw in Brick by Rian Johnson as a (somewhat) modern noir? Great movie.
I thought Gyllenhaal’s character was pretty detestable as a protagonist.
I was kidding also
Oh sorry lol, I just really like noir and will take any reason to gush.
And yeah, he was a horrible monster, I loved every second. 😂
Nah, PI work just became a lot more desk jobby between the stakeouts you end up doing
Probably lowered the rate of dudes “accidentally” ingesting arsenic in their coffee too.
I was reading a book where people anonymously share confessions. And one was about a person who worked at a Hospice providing care. They shared a lot of old women, on their last days, would confess to murdering their husbands.
There’s an ancient Greek story about a city where young women were killing themselves at an alarming rate, and the city eventually enacted a law where if a woman killed herself the body would be paraded through the streets naked before burial. After that law, the suicides dramatically went down.
The misogynistic interpretation of the author recording the story was that women were ashamed at the thought of being seen naked, even after death, and so this curbed the suicides.
My own interpretation is that it’s hard to hide bruises on a naked body.
No one should be trapped in a situation where they feel the only option out is suicide.
My own interpretation is that it’s hard to hide bruises on a naked body.
Considering that the ancient Greeks literally allowed men to murder their wives under certain conditions, I’d say that seeing bruises on a woman’s body would elicit no outcry amongst them.
Also… fuck ancient Greece. And fuck the Roman empire, too.
I was curious so I did a tiny amount of research and as it turns out, you’re pretty much in line with the data.
Information on ancient Greeks beating their wives is pretty sparse and what little we have suggests that it was so common that it barely deserved mention.
Beat their wives, fucked their kids, and gave rise to the society we’ve inherited today.
Persia should have one at Thermopylae
What do you mean “fuck them”, they don’t exist any more…
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Yeah this was more about the dudes not wanting anyone to see their women naked…dead or not.
Christ, that’s so horrific to consider, all around.
I had no idea there states that if you’re female you can’t get a divorce without consent. That’s insane. I’m going guess they’re all red states since they’re big on not respecting women.
It’s the same for both persons In a marriage though
Sure, but when these laws were passed they were intended to keep women down. Just like women couldn’t vote or have back accounts. The fact they still exist, along with more of our rights being reduced, shows the misogynistic intent.
The law in Missouri, for example, only bans pregnant women from seeking a divorce.
Yeah the abuser and the abusee … You don’t see the issue here?
This is the definition of dense.
We frequently are shown photos in black and white to give a distance. Makes people feel like it was eons ago.
It wasn’t that long ago that women had rights. There are people still alive who were part of the first wave of women in the office.
Podcaster Tim Pool said no-fault divorce is “ruining relationships,” on an episode where he cites Jordan Peterson and jokes that, “maybe we would just be better if, I don’t know, women just had to wear red dresses and bonnets.”
I know what would actually make the world a better place, but I can’t say it here.
Probably saw a decline in husband mysterious deaths too ^^
I mean, yeah. It would be harder to track, but desperate people do desperate things when the law makes it hard to leave.
Don’t tell that to your local conservative party…
Or do, they don’t care
Women suffering is a feature for them, not a bug
And people hound me about how I’ll die with cats and desperately regret not having a man to wash smelly socks for.
Marriage is psychological adrenalectomy.
Idk, I usually wash my wives dirty socks more often than she washes mine I’m pretty sure
My wife washes I hang and fold. team work makes for more sexy time…
Laundry is irrelevant if it’s on the first floor. I’ll do everyone’s but they gotta fold
Laundry is irrelevant if it’s on the first floor.
Can you explain this?
This is a new rule that I want to add in my household. Like proximity based cleaning, rather than running to teach kids room to grab their dirty clothes.
Just female suicide rate? I’d like to know the difference in married women rates. The difference in rate should be even bigger.
