• @Scrof@sopuli.xyz
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    1391 year ago

    The very existence of this comic points to a sad reality. Is it exaggerated? Probably. But it’s a damn cartoon, it’s supposed to be.

    • @FriendBesto@lemmy.ml
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      481 year ago

      Sadly, statistics sort of tend to back up at least a few of those claims, even if it is a silly cartoon. Even if people do not like to admit it. Example, in 2018, 69% of black mothers are single mothers. But people never want to speak about reality because they have been told that speaking about reality is somehow racist, which is not. No problem ever gets fixed if people refuse to look at it, honestly.

      “In 2011, 72% of black babies were born to unmarried mothers,[5][6] while the 2018 National Vital Statistics Report provides a figure of 69.4 percent for this condition.” The stats have not gotten better since then.

      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_family_structure

      • @kromem@lemmy.world
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        Around half of the US population has hypertension.

        I’m guessing you wouldn’t want your doctor just assuming you have it and start treating it though.

        The reason why stereotypes are bad is because even if there’s aggregate data trends on a broad population basis, that doesn’t necessarily translate to individualized specifics.

        Statistically, black math scores are worse than white.

        In my high school, I was in Calculus BC in my senior year, along with most of the other smartest kids in my grade.

        One of the few black students at my prep school had been in that class in his junior year and for his senior year just sat one on one with the math teacher because he was a full year ahead of us. He was also the student that I used to get the most competitive with playing chess in the student lounge (because he was legit better than me and the few victories I’d eek out were actual accomplishments), and was the one of my friends to go off to Stanford.

        It’d be a real shame if someone looking at him decided that based on broad statistics relating to the melanin in his skin that he wasn’t as good at math as someone with less melanin.

        And personally, I’d think anyone making that leap of logic was a goddamn moron.

        (Also, pro tip - it’s worth thinking about the differences between averages and distributions around those averages if you are going to make an argument for there being merit in extrapolating from statistics. For example, you are more likely to be told by a mother with a child that the father is not in the picture by a white mother than a black mother if you ask the question of every mother you see.)

        • volvoxvsmarla
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          Around half of the US population has hypertension.

          I’m guessing you wouldn’t want your doctor just assuming you have it and start treating it though.

          I have to disagree with a reply to this before me because I think this example doesn’t do the comment about statistics mentioned above justice.

          You don’t want your doctor to treat you for hypertension, but you want him to check you for it to catch it early if you have it if you fall into a category that makes it more likely you have hypertension. This does not mean he should ignore the possibility of a disease in a non-high-risk group either.

          Equally, black students being statistically speaking worse at math does not mean you should look at a black student and assume he is bad in math. But it can mean that funding for programs targeted at helping minority students going to math tutoring can be better justified.

          I will not argue that based on statistics you should make assumptions about people, hell no. This is obviously racist. But assuming statistics (and being aware of them) are first and foremost racist would just be equally wrong.

          The phrasings in the meme can be described as racist. But the structural problems that racism created and that lead to these assumptions cannot be fought by ignoring them.

          • @kromem@lemmy.world
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            51 year ago

            But it can mean that funding for programs targeted at helping minority students going to math tutoring can be better justified.

            But this ignores the issue of frequency I hint at in the bottom parenthetical.

            Let’s say for the sake of argument black students are 2x as likely as white students to fail a math class and need to retake it.

            Breaking it out by racial cross tabs may well suggest a policy of adding a math support program exclusively for black students.

            The problem is that at a frequency basis, (0.616 times X) > (0.121 times 2X). So your well intentioned program just excluded a greater number of students that are going to fail math than the number of students you are going to include.

            A better approach would be to identify what students are struggling with math irrespective of their melanin, and ensure adequate resources are tailored to them.

            The only way a melanin specific math program makes sense is if the specific factors relating to why a given student is struggling with math is unique to their melanin such that a broader program focused on math won’t address those issues.

            But even in terms of unique causes or factors, my guess is that the melanin specific crosstab is a poor metric selection, as it simply correlates with multiple other factors which more closely track with performance, such as household income levels, parent availability at home, parent education levels, etc.

            So a program that was focused instead on things like “math support for kids who don’t have a parent who has high school math level competency at home” is going to be much more successful for many more students than one focused on “students with a lot of melanin who are struggling with math.”

            It’s a shitty metric that persists because it’s easy to classify and because for some things it is a causative factor in and of itself (such as criminal injustice).

      • @ReiRose@lemmy.world
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        I’m not sure but I don’t think the point is statistics. I think the point is to treat everyone equally despite the colour of their skin until you know them personally, and their situation.

      • @Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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        251 year ago

        Your quote doesn’t support your claim. 69% of black mothers being unmarried does not mean they’re single mothers. It definitely correlates, but one doesn’t mean the other.

      • @Renacles@lemmy.world
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        231 year ago

        Unmarried and single are different things.

        This sounds like one of those crime rate arguments for justifying racism without looking at any of the other factors.

      • @meliaesc@lemmy.world
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        Your choice of wording is odd, like “problem”, and “better.” I am 30 years old. I have been with my partner for 15 years, and we have an 8 and a 6 year old child together. We live together in our 4 bedroom home. Yes, we are black. No, there is no struggle associated with us being unmarried.

        • @nednobbins@lemm.ee
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          Congratulations on 15 years together.

          In the US, there are legal and financial advantages to marrying your partner. It sounds like you’re in it for the long haul so it’s worth thinking about. Have a chat about it with your lawyer or accountant, they’ll make the case much better than I can.

      • @SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world
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        71 year ago

        Statistics show that white people are more likely to develop skin cancer than other racial groups. Would that problem be fixed by asking every white person you meet who has mole on their face if they have skin cancer?

      • @cmhe@lemmy.world
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        It is racist/sexist/discriminatory to make assumptions on individuals based on statistics.

        The statistics can still be true and can be used to counter discrimination against specific groups.

      • LeadersAtWork
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        31 year ago

        To expand a little I feel it’s more that people do not understand racism appropriately rather than not wanting to speak about reality. People, ironically, fear being labeled. For most racism is blatant and obvious. A “do not say or do these specific things” mentality. This leads to the misunderstanding. The reality (as you say) is we should acknowledge racism. By acting like it isn’t there we are doing a disservice to the people who are affected by the systemic issues that do exist.

        In the U.S. this is very much a larger cultural issue, while also being a problem elsewhere in the world. If I had to guess: Cultures with stronger authoritarian leanings in significant sub-cultures such as work and familial structures also see stronger racism or similar beliefs on the same tree. How is this fought? Humility and acknowledgement.

  • @almar_quigley@lemmy.world
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    1261 year ago

    Snowflakes in these comments hurt when someone’s lived experience is pointed out when it’s not even saying they’re the ones being racist. Same people who get upset at fast food workers getting higher wages as if that has any direct impact on them (other than the whole getting our economy and society into a better place).

      • @DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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        Exactly, and for any white people in the comments about to say “well they have to ask everyone to know you can legally work,I get asked about my citizenship status too in the job interviews, it’s just a box HR has to tick”

        Yes, it is just a box HR has to tick, which is why they will usually ask after a few other questions, and in my pasty pale experience, they ask me “and just confirming you’re legally eligible to work in [country], are you a citizen… Or a PR” and the trail off, they don’t ask about working visas or our equivalent of green cards, they assume I’m going to say “yes, citizen” and move on.

        Meanwhile my partner, who is also white, but from his accent he is clearly not “from here” will also get similar treatment, they wait until a few questions into the interview, they ask about his legal work eligibility, they will mention working visas in the question, but it’s still coming from a place of genuine information gathering.

        My brown cousins on the other hand? “do you have a work visa?” is one of the first questions they get asked. Not even “do you have the legal right to work here? Like a Work visa or citizenship”, just straight up “do you have a work visa?” because the assumption is that they are not a citizen or PR because of their skin colour.

      • @almar_quigley@lemmy.world
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        I’m not brown but I was once mistaken for Mexican immigrant. The way the person treated me in that instance was really eye opening to me for how folks can get treated that I never otherwise would’ve have experienced.

      • Lol I’ve seen this first hand so many times. “When did you come to Canada? Is this your first winter? Have you seen snow before? Was it hard learning English?” Like, do you think Canada just recently opened its borders and everyone who isn’t white must be new?

        • What I hate is that some folks I know who aren’t white have come to expect this kind of thing. Knew a great guy at work of Indian descent, got to meet him in person for the first time and I asked him where he was from. Normal question when you personally are an army brat and pinged around the country in your formative years.The response was “Well my grandparents are from India”.

          I have never cringed so hard, and was quick to say “Shit, no, I meant did you grow up in Toronto, or did you used to live in some other place in Canada before?”. Made me think about how many people did that “No, where are you really from” shit with him before.

          • @quaddo@lemmy.world
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            Back in the 80s one of my first jobs out of university was working downtown Toronto. One of my coworkers was this effervescent woman of Japanese-Canadian descent.

            She would talk about what it was like meeting guys in clubs.

            “So, where are you from?”

            “Scarborough”

            “Uh… no, I mean where are you originally from?”

            (feigning an “oh I getcha now” moment) “Ohh okay, yeah… Saskatchewan”, since that’s where she really was from, previously.

  • Sabre363
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    1221 year ago

    These are all wildly inappropriate questions to ask a random stranger without some prior explicit context between the people.

      • Are you surprised when a good meaning person asks when a slightly chubby woman is due, when she isn’t actually pregnant?

        Actually, yes, because that’s been widely known as a risky question to ask for so long it would surprise me. Then I would question them actually being a well-meaning person.

        • @theangryseal@lemmy.world
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          For fun.

          My sister was standing outside a gas station with a close friend of hers. Her friend was enjoying a cigarette when an old man walked up to her and said, “You know, you aught to give that baby a chance!”

          She was not pregnant. That was the moment that turned her around and made her go on a diet though, poor thing.

          My sister said she cried for days.

      • Sabre363
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        91 year ago

        Not surprised, but I’m also not convinced it’s well-meaning so much as ignorance to the effect of their own actions. Otherwise, I think were mostly on the same page. It generally should be considered uncool to ask someone a personal questions without a valid reason to do so, regardless of age, genital status, or arbitrarily assigned category loosely based upon skin or the overall attitude of one religious group towards another.

  • @FreeLikeGNU@lemmy.world
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    421 year ago

    For all the people missing the point of this comic particularly in the U.S.: Look at who has held political and financial power for the last two hundred years, including this one. There are lots of pictures and paintings of people. Do you notice anything in common between nearly all of them besides having wealth and power? Think about the position of everyone else not fitting that description and tell us all again why you personally feel attacked and why this comic is not relevant.

  • @taiyang@lemmy.world
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    81 year ago

    Ok, all that aside, that third chick asking about college— what does that shirt mean…? No clothes hangers? Is that an abortion statement or does she just like folded clothes over hung ones?

    • @DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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      I think you’re missing the point of the comic. Time is progressing for both women, and the people talking to them in the comments have questions based on where that woman is in her life and development.

      While both women are in the same stage of life, the questions being asked are not the same questions.

      The people asking que to the the woman of colour are brining a bucket load of presumptions to the conversation.

      The comic is pointing out how racial prejudice or even innocent assumptions are forms of microagressions, as the questions asked to the white woman are mostly purely information gathering, where as the questions towards the black woman first require her to correct a misconception before she can even answer the question.

    • @antidote101@lemmy.world
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      Isn’t pointing that out your own attempt at virtue signalling… ie you’re so much better because you’re above it all?

      I have a better hypothesis; the comic its self is about the virtue, morality, and ethics of different social behaviours…

      …so if that’s the topic in the comic, then THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT EVERY SHOULD BE TALKING ABOUT!

      Like, do you expect people to not be discussing the comic in the comments? What else did you expect? See how your little holier than thou comment doesn’t actually make sense in the light of this.

      At some point you have to think for yourself about what you see, rather than regurgitating familiar political slogans as if that’s actual thought.

  • @blahsay@lemmy.world
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    It’s funny how the people writing comics like these don’t see that they are perpetuating a stereotype themselves.

    • Pennomi
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      I think I get what you’re saying. If we don’t talk about things, it ceases to be part of our culture. Reminds me of something Morgan Freeman said:

      “Stop talking about it. I’m going to stop calling you a white man,” Freeman says to Wallace. “And I’m going to ask you to stop calling me a black man. I know you as Mike Wallace. You know me as Morgan Freeman. You wouldn’t say, ‘Well, I know this white guy named Mike Wallace.’ You know what I’m sayin’?”

      I don’t know if it’s practical in a world culture of billions of people, but I understand the thought process.