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    Can I just brag for a moment? I feel like I am among my people, and there is a little lesson at the end.

    to calibrate: White dude in my 40s, nerdy by nature but non-technical in my education/employment

    Twitter - signed up in the early 2000s when it first came out, pretty much stopped using by 2011

    Facebook - signed up in the early 2000s when it first got big, pretty much stopped using by 2011, deleted my abandoned account last year

    Google +, I’m sure I never signed up, but I had an account that I never used. Google being google negated me ever having to contemplate whether or not I would ever use it

    Snapchat - never used

    TikTok - never used

    Instagram - never used

    Are there others? I don’t know.

    Reddit was the only “social media” I ever used for a sustained period of time and the only one where I felt part of any sort of community. I left reddit in June of 2023 when I made this account and I’ve never been back.

    So, in many ways, I am successfully resisting/avoiding “the algorithm” and I am a good example of high media literacy with good resistance to manipulation by social media.

    But, just to emphasize why community itself is so valuable and worthy of exploitation by techbros, here are life changes I’ve made since joining Lemmy, even without any algorithms or dark patterns. Not that Lemmy is strictly causal in all of these, but the relationship is there:

    • I am now making my way through TNG, and am generally more Trek-literate

    • Linux, natch

    • Cancelled all streaming services (honestly most ‘subscription services’) in favor of a NAS running Plex (for now, will probably move to Jellyfin), Calibre, AudioBookshelf, Immich, Joplin, NextCloud, etc, etc, etc

    • Now using Steam Deck as my daily driver for gaming

    In other words, though I prize my independent thinking and avoidance of Big Cloud, and though I think all of these are positive changes representing a positive influence, I am clearly impressionable. And so are you.

    • @Justdaveisfine@midwest.social
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      It seems like you got your taste of social media, decided you were essentially done with it and moved on.

      I am just about in the same boat, I feel social media doesn’t offer me much that I value, and so I have been looking elsewhere.

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        There is a lot of heated debate about this. They’re saying due to COVID, that “early” can mean anything from 0-8 now, which obviously I don’t understand but what can you do? They are saying it.

        I must assume from your helpful correction that 2006 is the actual year twitter came out but even then I literally cannot be arsed to look that up on purpose because, I cannot stress this enough, I very much do not care about social media, as per my comment. So if you say 2006, that is what we’re going with.

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          There is a lot of heated debate about this. They’re saying due to COVID, that “early” can mean anything from 0-8 now

          I would love to hear the logic behind that

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            111 days ago

            Me too but, sadly: paywalled. That’s how they get you.

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      Got you beat. 40’s dude who’s never used any social media except for reddit (if that counts). I also have never used a smart phone.

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        Many props to you. I feel like reddit doesn’t count as social media, but I couldn’t energetically defend that position. They are certainly engaging in social media tech bro behavior, so the distinction probably doesn’t matter at this point, but it felt different than social media before it went to shit. Now, obviously when it “went to shit” is a point in time that is highly relative to the observer, but always sometime after the observer joined. That’s just the nature of enshittification.