• stebo
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    -208 months ago

    i never said it was, and I’m sure your son will be fine.

    • @DomeGuy@lemmy.world
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      218 months ago

      Yes, you did. In approximately the same way that All Lives Matter was just a dog-whistley way of saying “No they don’t” to Black Lives Matter.

      When someone says I suffer from THING, responding with other people suffer too as your primary message is always a dismissal of the person’s suffering.

      If you want to avoid the inferred message, include an affirmative message of acknowledgement, like “nobody should suffer like that.”

      • stebo
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        -98 months ago

        If we’re going to compare this to BLM then you said something amongst the lines of “White people have to grow up in a world where everyone hates them.” and I responded “Actually, black people have had it worse.”

        If you are a cis white straight man, you are not oppressed. Stop trying to be.

        • @redisdead@lemmy.world
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          58 months ago

          I’ve had the cops called on me for watching my nephew at the park.

          Go fuck yourself you fucking fuck.

        • @DomeGuy@lemmy.world
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          28 months ago

          The plane rules of rhetoric do not change simply because a thing is not oppression. I’m just a rando adding comment to down vote to express what I think was done wrong.

          Thosen two quotes are an excellent example of my principle, actually. The second one when given as a response to the first carries all the factionalist racism and denial of your last line.

          • stebo
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            8 months ago

            so I’m racist now for saying white men are not not all white men are oppressed? alright then sure bud

            • @DomeGuy@lemmy.world
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              There are plenty of white-appearing men who suffer oppression, just not from the civil society of the USA on account of their gender or apparent ancestry.

              Plenty of “white men” are gay, trans, left-handed, Jewish, atheist, nearsigjted, handicapped, neurodivergent, or mentally ill. It is absolutely racist to assume that a “white man” is not oppressed just because they are white and a man.

              (Unless of course you hold fast to Patricia Bidol-Padva’s thesis, in which case it would merely be “racially prejudical.”.)

              (edit: wrote “autistic” twice and said sex when I meant gender.)

              • stebo
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                -18 months ago

                I’m talking about men in general. Of course some of them belong to other minorities, but this argument is about the person who complained about having to raise a son in a world that allegedly hates men.

                • @DomeGuy@lemmy.world
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                  28 months ago

                  Maybe on your half. Like I said, I’m only here for grammar, rhetoric, and understanding.

                  I dont want to argue about whether or not the pain of children who happen to resemble the elite of the patriarchy is less urgent than the pain of children who do not. Both sides of that fight are very passionate and have good-sounding arguments and in other contexts I might argue either side.

                  Right now, here, in this thread, I just want to stand up for language and rhetoric and the need to be mindful that unspoken messages can still be heard and cause harm.

                  • stebo
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                    -28 months ago

                    ok so you’re admitting you’re here for being annoying instead of adding anything of value to the discussion? thanks man, appreciate it

      • stebo
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        -58 months ago

        No one is asking them to see themselves as monsters? You’re creating a problem where there isn’t one.

          • stebo
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            08 months ago

            to be better than a bear probably?

            • @elidoz@lemmy.ml
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              28 months ago

              children already know to be better than bears, what this argument provides for them is a window into what other people assume based only on gender

              • stebo
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                18 months ago

                then why are so many men worse than bears

                • @elidoz@lemmy.ml
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                  -18 months ago

                  this is a trick quesion, they’re not

                  when evauluating risk you have to take into account the general population, and the general population of bears is not exactly friendly

                  • stebo
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                    -28 months ago

                    as is the general population of men, I think you guys missed the point of that whole discussion

      • @JovialMicrobial@lemm.ee
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        No one is telling boys that they are monsters.

        It is helpful that they know there are humans in the world who behave like monsters, and that some of them are men who target people who they perceive to be weaker than themselves.

        So children, women, other men who are either physically smaller or in a lower position of power. That’s what they need to know. So they can protect themselves, and help stop others from becoming someone else’s monster if the opportunity arises.

        Doing things like speaking out against sexual harassment, and calling out bullying behavior, this is everyone’s responsibility btw. Not just men’s and boys, but this is what needs to be taught so world can suck less.