Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

    • Clay_pidginOP
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      1310 months ago

      Thank you for commenting. Do you miss it, or are you glad to be rid of creeps?

    • southsamurai
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      310 months ago

      Do you have access to any healthcare services?

      A good CNA can help you figure out how to manage hygiene as long as you have some degree of upper body mobility. I mean, obviously, an occupational therapist or physical therapist is going to be better, and be able to offer a wider range of options, but without a way to pay for those, it can be out of reach for self pay. But an hour or two of CNA time is usually within budgetary reach. Other pros can help too, but again, they’d be more expensive.

      You can sometimes find a local disability support group, and the difficulty with tasks like bathing, brushing teeth, etc is a pretty common topic. You don’t automatically get trained advice, but you do get practical tips from people that may well be better.

    • @Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
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      -110 months ago

      I mean, sure, 248lbs isn’t exactly thin, especially since you never said height, but at my biggest I was 315 and could still walk.

      There has to be more going on here…I’m so confused why being that weight would confine you so much. Yes, personal hygiene does get a bit more difficult. More hard to reach places…but scrub brushes on sticks exist.

      • @BreathingUnderWater@lemmy.ca
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        410 months ago

        Personal hygiene can suffer when you are deep in a depressive episode. Mobility might also be compromised due to a disability or chronic pain and not directly weight related.

      • Pandantic [they/them]
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        10 months ago

        Top level comment was deleted, but I was 220 at 5’ before I lost weight and I was still very mobile, hygienic, and wearing cute clothes. Maybe they deleted because they didn’t want to talk about what else was going on.

        • Clay_pidginOP
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          210 months ago

          It was quite a personal comment, and it seemed likely to get only moreso. I don’t blame them for deleting it.