I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?

  • @MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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    -111 year ago

    Because there are still places in the world where men think they’re entitled to basically own another human being simply by virtue of having been born with a penis?

    • @eskimofry@lemm.ee
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      61 year ago

      You’re deliberately saying that’s the only reason and blaming that “men” only want a sex slave. Hence the downvotes.

      You should get your head out of the gutter.

    • @MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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      -121 year ago

      Wow, look at those downvotes! I guess a lot of you guys think you’re entitled to a wife wether she wants it or not lol

      You guys do realize that an “arranged marriage” is not a matchmaking service, you just get stuck with someone you may possibly literally hate for the rest of your life lol

      • @eskimofry@lemm.ee
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        61 year ago

        You’re simply wrong. Arranged marriage is not a strict definition of no consent. In fact, a lot of the time the girl has the final say in going ahead after an initial exchange of photos and talking face to face, at least that’s how it works in cities and urbanized areas.

        The reason you have this myopic view is that you’re misled into believing that arranged marriage is forced marriage by watching horror stories on the news. We all know the News cherrypicks for shock factor.

        • @MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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          21 year ago

          I have this view because the state I live in is still backwards enough that arranged marriages still happen here. I’ve known several people who ended up getting married this way and not a single one of them was happy about it.

          • Devi
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            11 year ago

            You’re still mixing up arranged marriage with forced marriage.

      • HeartyBeast
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        41 year ago

        I think you are getting downvoted because you framed it in terms of ‘entitled to get a wife’. It it is usually similarly beneficial/problematic for both partners. I have a work colleague from India who is probably going to have a marriage arranged for him in the next year. It’s not something he particularly wants, but it’s traditional so he’ll probably go through with it. It doesn’t really feel like he is benefitting from the patriarchy 🙂