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I was pressured by my partner to have children. I had said from the outset of the relationship that I didn’t want kids. That was all fine, for the first year-18 months, Then things started to change.
how that played out?
We did not have children, we are no longer together.
My cat wanted to have kittens. I did not. They had other plans. Three beautiful kittens. Sold Two. Kept the one who snuggles up with me every night and purrs me to sleep. Wake up to this now:
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No longer against the idea.
OMG I can’t believe you had the audacity to write an answer about cats in response to a serious question that is clearly about goats.
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My partner wanted to have kids. I did not. They had other plans. Three beautiful kids. Sold Two. Kept the one who snuggles up with me every night and purrs me to sleep. Wake up to this now:
No longer against the idea.
Still waiting for another punk rock goat. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biquette
This answers my original question, thanks
I’m the opposite: I initially wanted kids, but my spouse was ambivalent. I’ve come around: We’re not going to have kids, and I’m ok with that.
From these comments, it seems pretty important to talk about kids before you get too serious with someone…
It’s important from the jump, honestly. People always say you shouldn’t talk about stuff like kids, religion, and politics on a first date, but at my age, I talk about all of that before even bothering to go on a date. Those are all things that tend to be make or break for a lot of people, and for anyone looking for a serious relationship, you have to be on the same page.
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That’s brutally honest and I’m sorry to hear about your experience.
I also feel bad for your child who has to grow up in that environment.
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We had a son (4) and a daughter (2) and my wife really wanted a third. I wasn’t that excited about the idea, because we had 2 children and one of each seemed like plenty.
I was a pretty firm “no” for a long time, but she eventually convinced me during a particularly hot and heavy night.
Our youngest is now 10 and she’s an absolute joy. I can’t imagine my life feeling complete without all 3 kids. It’s one of the greatest things she ever conned me into doing.
Then I got a vasectomy.
My wife wanted a kid, she didn’t care if it was a boy or girl. I’d had a bad experience with someone else who demanded a child, so I was immediately leery. We were married for four years, and while she wasn’t intended, my daughter arrived in 2013. She’s a pretty cool kid.
The more important thing though, is how happy my wife was and still is to have a child. And that child has become one of my favorite people. So I’d say its going pretty good.
I also got a vasectomy. My wife wasn’t opposed to having another one, but she didn’t want to go through the whole pregnancy/birth process again, especially since we live in Oklahoma, and if anything went wrong it could potentially go very wrong. We are also in agreement that while our nice little family is nice and little, another child would throw a wrench in our finances that it would be difficult to recover from. So we’ve limited ourselves to one Human Larve.
