If you’re at that point, often, repeatedly… unless you’re with an Ace, your relationship is either over or wholly performative.
Probably best that you realize that.
IMO, consenting but unenthusiastic sex is worse than none, you should both have more respect for yourselves and either talk out what’s really bothering one or both of you, or just admit that you don’t even like each other.
The sort of converse of this is that if you do actually want to have sex with someone, but tell them you don’t, or never directly say yes… yeah you need to learn how to communicate directly instead of vaguely through extremely non objective innuendo.
If you’re at that point, often, repeatedly… unless you’re with an Ace, your relationship is either over or wholly performative.
Probably best that you realize that.
IMO, consenting but unenthusiastic sex is worse than none, you should both have more respect for yourselves and either talk out what’s really bothering one or both of you, or just admit that you don’t even like each other.
The sort of converse of this is that if you do actually want to have sex with someone, but tell them you don’t, or never directly say yes… yeah you need to learn how to communicate directly instead of vaguely through extremely non objective innuendo.