This is basically an ad saying “if you want to get laid visit reddit.” Honestly reddit probably suggested it. They’re going to coin the phrase “reddit and chill.”
Man spez getting really desperate
You all were hooking up?
I thought those were people pushing OF content. Or if it was happening, it was only in really big cities.
Big cities are so overrated for the dating scene. You don’t have to go all the way to Falador to meet someone sexy. I met my gf in the Lumbridge general store.
Don’t look for hookups in West Ardougne unless you have lots of penicillin.
seeing the pictures of redditors that got married and met through reddit… yeah you don’t want to have been hooking up there
Those hookups are full of scams and cops.
Ask me how I know.
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Oh yeah I remember those things. All my friends who use reddit have like 20 of those onlyfans bots following them. Like how did that ever become a thing!?
She’s in my area too!
And I bet most of it is fake/bots or shilling for an Onlyfans account.
“it always has been”
It’s been a hookup app for a long time now.
To be fair, reddit for me was always about getting to know like-minded people. And I met my wife through the 40+redditor seeks redditor group so if that’s what it is I’m fine with it. Not in the least as I left that toxic waste dump with the exodus and have not missed 95% of it. (Yes, I miss /r/AskHistorians but I am strong, if I allow myself one subredit it will suck me back in so clean break is for the best).
The new tinder
Always has been
I tried dating subreddits before. Results were not good.
The problem is that online dating is a miserable experience from a heterosexual perspective. I cannot really speak for the LGBTQ experience but I do have a lesbian friend who has pretty much been undateable.
On every dating/hook-up subreddit every single “M4F” post gets mass-downvoted and practically hidden from view, while every “F4M” post is swarmed with desperate and thirsty guys whose comments can be summed up in just five words: “PLEASE HAVE SEX WITH ME.” You see the same shit on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Happn, Okcupid, POF and every other dating app.
Women can easily swipe right on any guy and 99,999 times out of 100,000 match with them, meet up with them and bang them in less than two hours if they wanted to. Men on the other hand get zero matches unless you look like a fucking Chippendale, are over 6ft, have a big dick, have a nice bank account and a decent job.
The internet has turned us hypergamous, and we wonder why the incel community is growing at an alarming rate…
y’know, i really thought lemmy would be better than this but i guess it is just fucking reddit all over again.
this stupid “men have to be chad thundercock or die alone!!!1111 it’s so easy for women waahhhhh” shit is just a divisive incel talking point with no basis in reality. you literally just pulled numbers out of your ass too. the incel community is growing at an alarming rate because of all the talking heads on social media who purport this trash and people like you who mindlessly repeat it.
I really hate the fact that ‘incel’ has become this catch-all insult for a low value man, and frankly find it offensive that you are comparing me to the kind of people that glorify and worship school shooters. These people shouldn’t be the reason to outright dismiss male woes with online dating, especially when a lot of online dating sites have zero interest in helping you find love and just want to make your experience as miserable as possible so that they can sucker you into paying triple the price of a WoW subscription to see what fake users ‘liked’ your profile.
I do not associate myself with the manosphere because these communities are toxic-a-f. At the same time I find it greatly concerning that they are growing in prominence (just look at Andrew Tate’s social media following) and think there’s loads of factors at play. Big tech has a lot to answer for.
Male virginity has more than trebled in the United States from 8% of men aged 18 - 30 reporting no sexual partners in 2008 to 27% in 2018. That is an alarming statistic.
But wait that’s one source, I hear you say. Here is an archived post from the Okcupid blog which was taken down after Match got their money-grubbing paws on the site, which showed trends of how badly male users were ranked. Of course Match Group had to remove that from their blog because they have to keep up the illusion that it’s worth paying a £37/month subscrption.
Also, no basis in reality? There is an evolutionary basis to explain this. Humanity had evolved over millions of years to find certain traits attractive in a mate. For men, being physically strong, healthy, having status in a tribe and being able to provide for a family would have been strong factors in ensuring the survival of the next generation back when we were still foraging and hunting. We had only shed our status as a hunter-gatherer species hundreds, if not thousands of years ago. Is it outlandish to conclude that our human biology has not caught up to the millennia of societal and technological change that we’ve made as a species?
If you use the same talking points and terminology (“low-value man” lol) as they do, then I have every reason to draw comparison. The problem lies with the fact that y’all insist on framing this as exclusively a men’s issue, and that women are somehow to blame for having unrealistically high standards that you make up and project onto them.
Since we’re cherry-picking surveys, here are some for you: https://www.salon.com/2022/11/06/why-are-so-many-young-people-are-having-less-and-fewer-friendships/ https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/nearly-half-of-u-s-adults-say-dating-has-gotten-harder-for-most-people-in-the-last-10-years/
Indeed, there is no basis in reality that women have it easier. You can speculate that it’s a product of evolution but that at best only points to surface-level differences, while the overall negative experience that has come about from the commodification of dating affects both sexes.
Edit: Also, let’s say that it is men who are disproportionately affected, I find it interesting that the first reason you go to are all the things that men are commonly insecure about (height, penis size, etc.) despite those things not being the focus of the sources you provided later.
This is the main reason why I compared your post to incel talking points. Their whole tactic is playing off of the insecurities of men, making them feel bad about themselves, and framing it as the opinions of women despite no input from actual women being present. Which, unfortunately, is exactly what you were doing with your initial post, whether you’re aware of it or not.
My wife and I met on r4r, but the post was looking for friendship, and that eventually led to us dating two years later.
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Like there aren’t any pedos hiding amongst lemmy users lmao.
Not going back reddit without RIF (rip 2023), but people on lemmy are high on their own farts thinking it’s not all the same people lmao
The problem with US-centric discussions of CP, is the inability to differentiate between:
- “hooking up with underage individuals from r/teenagers”
- “pedo stopped by cops with a 3 year old stuffed in the trunk of his bike”
- “guy beating his meat to a bunch of drawings”
Fortunately, pointing this out on Reddit is a “sexualization of minors” infraction, so nothing to see there 🙈🙉🙊
Reddit, a place where a guy can jack off with 100s of other guys pretending to be girls
No kidding. I started to receive messages from reddit mods (not the user, but actually coming as “from /r/subname mods”, with phishing/scam links.
